AITA for lying about why my parent gave the name that they gave me on a school assignment and thus upsetting my parents?

The glow of a laptop screen lit up a 14-year-old’s room as they typed out a school assignment about their name—Anakin Bane Walker, a Star Wars-inspired moniker that’s been a bully magnet for years. To dodge the teasing, they spun a fictional tale about their name’s origin, earning an A. But when their parents peeked at the Google Doc, the force wasn’t with them—they were furious, demanding the truth be told to the teacher.

Caught in a bind, the teen faked an email exchange to keep their secret safe, fearing more playground taunts. Their parents called it dishonest; their friend called it unethical. Was this a clever dodge of embarrassment or a step too far? This story dives into the clash of personal identity, parental expectations, and the sting of a name that stands out for all the wrong reasons.

‘AITA for lying about why my parent gave the name that they gave me on a school assignment and thus upsetting my parents?’

Okay, my name is Anakin bane walker yep that's my full name. It sucks and is crap. I actually have been bullied before due to it being related to star wars. My parents named me Anakin after Anakin skywalker and I got bane as in Darth bane in the sith lord.

My parents like star wars and I hate star wars mainly because of how much I was bullied and that they refused to let me change my name. Anyway, we had an assignment in English the past weak about culture and identity and how it relates to the name.

I made up a bunch of facts about why my parents gave my name the way they did and I did not reveal the real reason. The teacher accepted it and I got an a. My parents found the google doc on my computer. I am in virtual.

They were pissed that I lied to the teacher and that I should tell her the real reason or they will. We had to present this to class and I knew I was going to get bullied like I used to. I tried to protest and they demanded I give her email.

So I made a fake one and gave it to my parents and pretended to be the teacher because so the actual teacher won't find out. I was talking to my friend about this and they told me that what I did is unethical and that I should come clean.

I don't want anyone else to find the real reason as it is really embarrassing to me.. My friend has a normal name like Zach. Note I am 14 years old. So aita for lying about why my parent gave the name that they gave me on a school assignment and thus upsetting my parents.

Faking a name’s origin to avoid bullying? It’s a teen’s desperate bid for peace. This 14-year-old, stuck with the name Anakin Bane Walker, faced relentless teasing tied to Star Wars. Their lie on a school assignment was a shield against more pain, but their parents’ demand to reveal the truth ignored their distress. The fake email was a risky move, born from fear of exposure and further mockery.

This taps into a broader issue: the impact of unique names on kids. A 2019 study in Social Psychological and Personality Science found that children with uncommon names face higher risks of bullying, affecting self-esteem. Dr. Pamela Redmond, a naming expert, notes, “Names tied to pop culture can burden kids with unwanted attention, especially if they don’t share the fandom”. Here, the parents’ love for Star Wars clashed with their child’s reality, and their insistence on honesty overlooked the emotional toll of bullying.

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The teen’s lie wasn’t ideal but stemmed from survival instincts. They should explain to their parents how the name fuels bullying, seeking a compromise—like using a nickname at school. Parents could support by allowing a legal name change at 18 or advocating with teachers to use a preferred name. A family therapist might help bridge the gap.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Reddit’s got some spicy takes on this galactic name drama, and they’re not holding back. Here’s what the community had to say about this teen’s sneaky move.

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SavageInkStudios - NTA: your parents are huge assholes for sticking you with a name that would 100% get you bullied though.

yourleftbig_toe - NTA- who names their kid Anakin and gets mad for them not saying the real reason? You deserve not to be bullied and it’s literally a story. Also, it’s not their business what you turn in for school if you get good grades.

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NewSouthWhales- - 'they refused to let me change my name' I just want to chime in as a grown man who changed his name in adulthood. At 14, 18 seems *forever* away, but it's really not. You'll get there, good luck.. Until then consider shortening Anakin to 'Nick'.. NTA

HistoricalInaccurate - NTA - I am a Star Wars fan, but using pop culture names tends to work out rarely if the name is uncommon. The fact that your parents have ignored that you have been bullied over this

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and they are bullying you by forcing you to admit to your teacher why you have a name that causes you to be bullied.. Just remember that you can legally change your name once you become an adult.

pokey1984 - First, NTA I predicted your existence nearly twenty years ago and knew this would happen. I talked a friend out of making their child share your fate. I'd have done the same with your parents, if I'd met them. This was a terrible thing to do to you and I'm really glad you got an A. I'm so sorry.

If it makes you feel any better, you just won me a bet and now my brother 6'7', 285lb, 35 year old brother has to dress as Leia (in the gold bikini) next year for Halloween. (I gave him a pass on this year, since ten days isn't much time to find a costume) I can't do much to help, but I hope that image makes you giggle at least as much as it does me.

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curiousbelgian - Oh wow. NTA. Your parents suck for giving you that name, and your teacher sucks for giving an assignment that could so easily backfire - plenty of kids actually have it worse than you, “I was named after my abusive father/mother/uncle/aunt”

“I was named after my fascist grandad back in the old country”, though that doesn’t make your situation any better. I hope you are choosing a name for yourself that you will be happy with and that you can switch to as soon as legally possible.

[Reddit User] - As a retired teacher I'm convinced that naming children is the most subtle form of child abuse. NTA- Why are your parents pushing this? Surely, they know you hate your name. And hell, they gave you the name of two villains!

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Elizis - NTA: I wish I could watch the look on their faces when you turn 18 and legally change your name. Save up money for that btw. In the US ( if you’re American ) it’s roughly like 300 bucks depending on things.

fingerkuffs23 - NTA. When are parents going to understand that ***your children are not billboards for your fandom***???? Your name is a true tragedeigh and you have my deepest sympathies. You will be 18 in four years. You can legally change your name then and there is nothing they can do about it.

They'll be angry at you, but it was also their choice to give you that terrible name in the first place. Speaking as a scifi fan (including Star Wars), I would never name any children I may have with a very obviously fandom name.

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If you do decide to change your name, you could also consider 'Mark' for Mark Hamill. Just as normal and as not obvious as Luke. Or just choose a name not related to Star Wars at all because, like you said, you don't even like it.

jairatraci - NTA you parents gave you a name they loved without thinking about what it would mean for you when you got older. I guess you can be happy they didn’t give you the middle name Sky. I also wouldn’t blame you if you changed it at 18.

I don’t understand how your parents don’t have your teachers email. I have an app that has all of my kids teachers in it so I can email them when needed and don’t have to rely on my kids to keep in contact with their teachers.

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These Redditors are weighing in with passion, but do their views align with real-world solutions?

This teen’s lie about their Star Wars name was less about deceit and more about dodging a bully’s spotlight. Their parents’ anger missed the mark—bullying stings, and names can wound. Was the teen wrong to fake it, or were they just protecting themselves? Names shape identity—how would you handle a name that makes you a target? Drop your stories and advice below!

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