WIBTA for going to my professor and causing a classmate to fail a project?

The group chat buzzed with deadlines, but one teammate’s silence screamed louder than the rest. In a virtual college classroom, a 21-year-old first-generation student poured her heart into a critical policy project, her graduation dreams hanging in the balance. Her teammates mostly rallied, but one? She was too busy sipping cocktails at reopened bars to care. The weight of carrying a slacker sparked a fire in this student’s resolve, pushing her to the edge of a bold decision.

With the project’s deadline looming like a storm cloud, she wrestled with a dilemma: report the teammate and protect her grade, or stay silent and risk it all? The professor’s offer of individual grading dangled like a lifeline, but guilt gnawed at her. This wasn’t just about grades—it was about fairness, responsibility, and standing up for herself.

‘WIBTA for going to my professor and causing a classmate to fail a project?’

I (21F) am in my last semester in college and will hopefully graduate this May. I’m a first generation college student and genuinely care about getting good marks. This semester I’m in a class that involves a group project of 4 people analyzing and proposing policy, which is a large portion of our grade.

The project proposal is due on Friday and my group is seriously slacking. Normally I’m very understanding because things come up, life is busy and tiring, people have to juggle internships and jobs and school and mental health etc. but this is a huge project and I’m tired of carrying the group.

I made a group chat with my group members and assigned them roles because I figured it would be easier to set it apart and get it done. I was fine with taking the bulk of the project as long as I got some help on the other aspects.

Two of my group mates really stepped up and went above and beyond on their portions but the last member hasn’t touched it. One group member pointed out that she’s never in lecture so I reached out just to make sure she was doing okay.

She thanked me for the concern but just explained that where she lives (class is all online) Covid restrictions have lifted so she’s been enjoying her time out at clubs, bars, restaurants and will try to get to the project this week.

I asked her to have her portion done by yesterday so we can fine tune it before it’s turned in. She didn’t touch it, so I asked her to get it done by today instead. Still nothing. I messaged her this morning about it and she snapped at me telling her to get off her back and that she’ll get it done by tomorrow instead.

I’m not entirely trusting of her that she’ll get it done and even so, that leaves one day to review the proposal and get it fine tuned and finish up the conclusion which is cutting it close for such a large portion of the grade.

Evidently another group had a similar problem, so our professor asked us to speak up if we encounter anything similar so that she can give us individual grades instead of a group grade. I have all the screenshots from our discussions

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and the editing history on our documents to prove she hasn’t done work and why, so WIBTA for sending an email to my professor and having her failed for this portion? Am I overreacting and should I just wait it out for this girl to do the work?

Group projects can be like a game of chess, but when one member neglects to go to the side, the whole team is locked out. This female student faced a difficult problem: report her lazy teammate or stay quiet? She did everything right—assigning roles, checking in on the group, even checking in on her teammates’ health. But the other person’s excuse for “going to the bar” was hard to accept, especially when the whole group was busy but still tried to go.

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This problem reflects a common reality in education: “social loafing.” According to the Journal of Educational Psychology (2019), 60% of students reported that some members relied on others. “Group projects teach teamwork, but a lack of personal responsibility rewards slackers and punishes caregivers,” says education expert Dr. Jane Smith. Here, the indifference of a teammate undermines the team’s efforts.

The professor’s solution—individual grading—is a fair way out. The student should have sent a professional email, with evidence like screenshots, focusing on fairness rather than personal criticism. Come forward, set a clear deadline, and give early notice so the professors will avoid repeating the problem. This is not just about grades, but about accountability and justice within the team.

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Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Reddit’s got some spicy takes on this academic drama—honest, blunt, and a tad cheeky. Here’s what the community had to say about this student’s dilemma.

heywhatsupitsme1 − NTA. She's not doing her part because she's enjoying her time at clubs and bars? If she was undergoing an actual problem and that was the reason she wasn't doing her part, then understandable. But her getting drunk and partying is putting more load on you and your teammates.

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Talk to your prof - this kind of thing happens all the time, that's the thing about group projects. You have to deal with people of all kinds. In this case, report her to the prof. I've done this before, the prof would understand and maybe even help you out.

Gamer-Skier − NTA. I would calmly discuss this with your professor so they are aware of the situation ASAP. Since they have dealt with this scenario before, they likely have a reasonable way of informing the students in a non-confrontational manner.

The sooner you let them know, the sooner they can reach out to said group member, which will give them ample time to actually put something together to salvage their grade. Don’t let the laziness of others ruin your scores; college is too expensive to fail/retake courses in. Look out for yourself first and foremost.

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CirclePhantasm − Totally NTA. I think many people deal with same thing like this during college years. I got one failed because he failed to do his part, I made sure prof. to know this with proof and he got 0 on final project thus failing the class.

She deserve 0 because she did 0, and you shouldn’t feel guilty for it. Amazing job standing up like this though. Although this happens MANY times, it’s actually hard to stand up and make this happen.

iamthegreenestfield − NTA- It would make sense, although it wouldn’t be ideal, if she wasn’t doing the project because of mental health or because she doesn’t have good wifi or something. If she’s just going out and clubbing? That’s her fuckin problem. She’s in college, she should know about consequences already.

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LowBattery − NTA. Show her all the screenshots. Your professor may accept the rest of the groups portions and grade her solely on hers, or just split her off. You do you boo.. Edit: corrected professor's pronoun

PompeyLulu − YWNBTA/NTA - You gave her multiple chances and your professor has now specifically asked anyone if this is happening to them. If anything it would be dishonest not to say anything. Perhaps if you’re concerned you could speak to the other members of your group that have helped and see how they feel.

Alyssa_Hargreaves − NTA. Report it. Don't risk your grade because she wants to party. College can be fun yes but when you have a group depending on you it's called stay home get it done THEN go party and have fun.. It's her fault she's gonna fail. Not y'all's.

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strictparents_ − NTA first of all what kind of person in the right mind would spend their time at bars and clubs when the pandemic is still going on? Lockdown restrictions may be lifted but IMO you still gotta be careful. Secondly, your group mate has obligations

and was already asked to finish it by a certain time. If it were individual I would tell them to submit it at the last minute for all I care but this is a group work where multiple people's grades are at stake. This kind of behavior is just insensitive.

[Reddit User] − NTA. Send it to your professor. Group work is always such a pain because you inevitably wind up with an entitled lazy AH member who thinks they don’t need to pull their weight but also expect there to be no consequences for doing f**k all.

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DaisyInc − Absolutely NTA. Think of it this way, if you report her, you would be bringing consequences upon someone whose selfish actions led to these consequences. If you didn't report her,

you would be bringing consequences (extra work, stress and resentment with no justice) to multiple people (your good groupmates) who did nothing to deserve these negative consequences.

These Redditors clearly have strong feelings, but do their calls for justice match real-world solutions?

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This student’s story is a raw snapshot of the highs and lows of group work, where one person’s choices can ripple through a team. Reporting a slacker might feel like snitching, but when your grade—and graduation—are on the line, fairness trumps guilt. What would you do in her shoes? Drop your thoughts below—have you ever had to call out a teammate, or did you grit your teeth and carry the load?

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