AITA for honestly saying that the lack of halal options was why I wasn’t eating the offered food at a company lunch?

Imagine landing a new job, your hijab a quiet testament to faith, only to navigate a global pandemic and a surprise company lunch that misses the mark. For a 23-year-old woman, a type 1 diabetic who can’t fast during Ramadan, the “welcome back” bento boxes spark a hiccup: no halal options. She’s no stranger to adapting—paying fidya to honor her beliefs—but when asked why she’s skipping the meal, her honest answer stirs a pot already simmering with oversight.

The room buzzes as her HR manager flushes, caught off-guard in front of the big bosses. He’d assumed her Ramadan eating meant she wasn’t devout, skipping the dietary form. Coworkers chuckle or cringe, but was her candor out of line? Readers, get ready to dig into a tale of assumptions, inclusion, and a lunch gone awry!

‘AITA for honestly saying that the lack of halal options was why I wasn’t eating the offered food at a company lunch?’

I (23f) started my new job at the start of Ramadan. I’m a type 1 diabetic and I cannot fast. I pay fidya instead. This was during pandemic times, but our government was acting like it didn’t exist back then so we had work as usual. Difference was desks were more spaced apart and people wore masks. So yeah. I acted like I normally do.

If people found it weird that a girl in a hijab was eating in the office during Ramadan, no one said anything. I was at work for approximately 2.5 weeks before we had to work from home. Now we’re back in the office and as a “welcome back” the company decided to throw a surprise lunch. They didn’t have a buffet, and instead had those pre packed bento box style lunches.. And they didn’t have any halal lunches.

They had vegetarian lunches and the ‘standard option’. I was offered one, but I turned it down. When asked why, I honestly said that it’s because there wasn’t a halal option. Neither the standard option or vegetarian was halal. Funny, since most vegetarian options I come across are halal, but of course this had to be the exception.

Turns out, the manager in charge supposed to send me a form asking for my dietary requirements before the lunch, but my manager forgot. He remembered that I was eating in the office during Ramadan, so had assumed I wasn’t a practicing Muslim and didn’t try to rectify it. The whole ordeal was pretty over quickly.

He seemed pretty peeved over the whole situation, especially since his bosses were present during the lunch. The few co workers I got to know after office reopened find this hilarious, but some feel bad for him. They thought that I should’ve just said “I want to eat my own lunch” when asked because my actions during Ramadan were misleading.

Lol, apparently more than a few people had assumed I wasn’t religious, but were too afraid to ask. I had embarrassed him in front of his bosses, especially since as a HR manager organising things like this was part of his job and I made him look bad in front of them over a “reasonable assumption”.. Now I feel a bit bad.

A simple lunch turning into a quiet showdown? This woman’s honest “no halal options” reply exposed a classic workplace blunder. Her manager’s assumption—eating during Ramadan equals non-religious—left her sidelined, a slip-up glaring under the bosses’ gaze. She’s juggling diabetes and faith, paying fidya to stay true, yet faced non-halal bento boxes.

Workplace inclusion isn’t just a buzzword. A 2022 SHRM report notes 76% of organizations now prioritize dietary accommodations, reflecting diversity’s rise (source). Assumptions about faith, like here, trip up progress.

Dr. Huda Fadel, an expert on Islamic health practices, says, “Medical exemptions from fasting don’t negate faith—halal adherence often persists” (from Islamic Horizons, source). Her words fit: the hijab signaled devotion, yet no form arrived. Solution? Managers, send dietary forms to all—zero guesses. She did right by speaking up.

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These are the responses from Reddit users:

Reddit swooped in like a lunchtime crew, dishing out takes with a sprinkle of wit—imagine a break room debate, forks waving as opinions fly! Below, the top comments weigh this woman’s candor against her manager’s fumble, serving up laughs and lessons.

itsybitsyash − NTA. Had he done his job correctly he wouldnt have to worry about it and honestly I'm incredibly annoyed by your coworkers making assumptions about you not being a practicing Muslim without even asking you.. Edit: My first gold!! Thank you!

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Music_withRocks_In − NTA. You didn't lie to cover up how your boss didn't do his job in a way that hurt you. That is what happened. He deserves whatever he gets.

Beka_Cooper − NTA. You did not make him look bad, *he* made himself look bad. What an i**ot. Are we now also assuming that Jews who work on Friday evenings are not keeping kosher? Or Hindus who do not regularly show up to work with a bindi on their foreheads would love eating steak?

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junaidaslam1983 − Info: what was in the vegetarian option that made it not halal?

loudent2 − NTA - Look, the manager should have sent that form to everyone. It's standard CYA material. The fact that he just assumed whatever doesn't make him an AH, but 'giving you the stinkeye' afterwards does.. He made a (poor) choice and his bosses saw it. Not your fault.

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Daemarcus − My chief sergeant under me when I was in the military always scolded the men when they fked up by asking 'you thought, who confirmed?' It was always funny to hear these squirming guys try and respond to this madly respected badass of a sargeant like 'uh I thought that you were ok with xxxx and yada yada is why'.

He would then ask, when appropriate 'then?' In response to their responses. I have never heard someone respond to his 'then?'. His view was that if you were so sure that you were doing the right thing, why wouldnt you just get confirmation anyway.. But yeah, call people out. NTA.. This is also a pretty good prolifetip.

[Reddit User] − NTA.. ***Everyone*** should have received a form asking about allergies and dietary preferences. ***Everyone*** should have been accommodated for. I've been in charge of organizing food for events beforehand, and its crucial to be inclusive.

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Your manager f**ked himself up, and the fact that you're the only one in the room who was to be given a special form is just...dumb? Its not even about the religion. Someone could have had a severe allergy and gone into anaphalaxis because of this. What if there was a vegan? It makes zero sense.

maybe-crazy-girlfrnd − NTA - It is always up to the organizer of work events to send those types of forms beforehand, he doesn't get a pass because he 'assumed' you weren't religious without ever asking. You shouldn't have to lie about why you turned down a lunch just to save face for others who made a mistake.

MyFaceSaysItsSugar − NTA. You could have had an allergy to something, he should have sent you the form. You wear a hijab and he thought you weren’t a practicing Muslim? I don’t know a ton about Islam but I do know that there can be medical reasons that prevent someone from fasting and it doesn’t mean the person doesn’t adhere to their faith.

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manywaters318 − NTA in this day and age I feel like asking about dietary restrictions is sort of standard. Even if you think that your eating during Ramadan may have put him off, what if some of your office mates were vegan? Had Celiacs? I mean kudos to him for knowing it’s Ramadan, but I think it’s also silly for him to assume that someone who is faithful enough to wear hijab (and kudos to you) wouldn’t be observing in some manner.

These are popular opinions on Reddit, but do they really reflect reality? Maybe she sparked a needed wake-up call, or maybe a white lie could’ve cooled the heat.

What a tasty twist! This young woman’s honest “no halal” moment at a company lunch flipped the table on assumptions, leaving her manager red-faced and coworkers split—some giggling, some wincing. Faith, health, and a forgotten form collided, spotlighting inclusion’s delicate dance. She stood her ground, but was it the right play? Reddit cheers her on, and a fix seems simple: ask, don’t assume. What would you do if you found yourself in a similar situation? Toss your thoughts below—share your take, your stories, and let’s chew on this together!

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