AITA for refusing to order plain cheese pizza for my girlfriend?

Imagine the scene: a long workday winds down, and a guy dreams of a hot, sizzling pizza loaded with pepperoni and bacon to greet him at home. His girlfriend, the usual chef of delicious dinners, takes a rare night off, and he’s thrilled to order takeout. But wait—plot twist! She texts, craving a simple cheese pizza, a curveball he’s never heard before. Suddenly, the pizza party’s on thin crust, teetering between compromise and chaos.

Tensions bubble as he pushes for toppings, she digs in for plain, and a half-and-half deal flops. Frustrated, he scraps the plan, and now she’s fuming, calling him inconsiderate. Is he a pizza tyrant, or is she too picky? This tasty Reddit AITA drama serves up a slice of couple conflict—grab a seat and dig in!

‘AITA for refusing to order plain cheese pizza for my girlfriend?’

So in short  my girlfriend gets off of work a few hours before I do and she typically cooks for me which I genuinely appreciate. Today she was feeling lazy and didn’t really have any ideas for dinner (no big deal) so I told her I had been craving pizza and wouldn’t mind ordering that for dinner and she agreed. I told her that I would order it before I left for work so by the time I got home it would be there.

She texts me back and said that’s fine, but to please order cheese pizza. I asked her why and she said she didn’t really enjoy the topping I usually get which are super normal things like pepperoni, or bacon (mind you this is the FIRST time I’m hearing this, she has eaten pizza with those toppings before)

so I’m like okay is there like ANY toppings you would like to eat on you’re pizza as opposed to just having it plain because at that point it’s just not really doing anything for me or filling that craving I had for some pizza. She said no that she just wanted plain pizza.

I told her well if I’m buying it I’m going to get what I want on it and suggested that she could pick off the toppings if it bothered her that much or that we could do a sort of half and half deal where half was cheese. Then she said that she could still usually tell or taste residual flavors or oil from the toppings when she did that and didn’t even want to do that, and said we could just order an entire other pie for her…

neither of us are going to eat an entire pie so that just seemed frivolous to me so I said let’s just forget the pizza idea and scrap it as a whole. Then she started telling me that I was being a jerk and really inconsiderate and I told her I sort of thought that she was being selfish a little bit and now she’s very upset with me and isn’t speaking to me… AITA?

Pizza night shouldn’t be a battlefield, but this couple’s topping tussle reveals a deeper dish! Our guy, used to his girlfriend’s home-cooked meals, wants a loaded pie to satisfy his craving. She, however, pleads for plain cheese, citing distaste for greasy residuals—news to him after shared slices in the past. His refusal to budge, nixing pizza entirely, leaves her feeling dismissed.

This mirrors a classic couple clash: flexibility versus fairness. A 2022 survey by YouGov found 34% of couples disagree on food choices, often tied to appreciation and compromise (source). She’s the daily cook; he’s the rare buyer—balance feels off.

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Dr. Gary Chapman, relationship guru, notes, “Small acts of consideration, like honoring a partner’s preference, build love” (source). Here, a small cheese pizza could’ve shown care. A fix? Order two smalls—her cheese, his loaded—split the cost, savor leftovers.

Check out how the community responded:

Reddit dished out some saucy takes—served hot with a sprinkle of sass and wisdom!

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FlyingDutchLady - YTA. If your gf usually cooks for you and your contribution is getting pizza one random day then you can buy your gf the pizza she wants. I don’t even know what else to say - you are exhausting.

Overall-Recover-8685 - YTA- like there’s different sizes of pizza you could have gotten, like two smalls or a medium and a small. It also seems like you guys always order toppings and she just kinda dealt with it or just didn’t say anything to start something. You could have just compromised and gotten this one as just cheese and then next time get one with toppings. Kinda like an every other situation.

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[Reddit User] - YTA Just buy her a cheese pizza and yourself something else. Pizza is easy to reheat so it's not like the leftovers go to waste. Why are you making such a fuss over this?

IAmAStressedMess - YTA dude. It's a pizza, it's not like you're hand-crafting a gourmet buffet. Just order two small ones instead of one big one. It's the least you can do considering SHE'S the one that's always cooking for YOU. I can't believe this was even an issue you had.

[Reddit User] - YTA, this girl cooks dinner for you most days and you can’t order her, her own cheese pizza? She deserves better than you.

[Reddit User] - YTA You literally told a grown woman what she can't eat. When she balked against you dictating what she wants. You doubled down by telling her what annnnd how to eat.. Y are the biggest A to ever AH.

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CoochieCoochieCoup - LMAO enjoy your pizza. Hope you like it more than her home cooked food because I bet you’ll be having a lot more pizza in the future.. eta: oh crap I can’t believe I almost forgot to say, YTA :)

BlueBelle2019 - YTA. Just order two pizzas. We did it last night because I wanted something lighter than the 8 million kinds of greasy meat toppings my husband likes. We had some leftovers for lunch and I put the rest in the freezer.

DreamingofRlyeh - YTA. You could have just eaten the leftovers for the next couple of days.

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abajablast - YTA. Just get her a small cheese pizza and get yourself whatever you want. Spend the extra $10 or whatever to make your girl (who generally cooks dinner for you every day) happy. Jesus

These zesty opinions flew on Reddit, but do they slice the truth? Is he a topping tyrant, or is she tossing out fair play?

This pizza predicament—toppings versus plain—whips up a storm of hurt feelings and silent treatment. Our guy’s craving clashed with her simple plea, and instead of a tasty compromise, dinner’s off the table. She cooks daily, he buys this once—where’s the give-and-take? A small cheese pie might’ve saved the night, but now it’s a cold war. What would you do if your pizza dreams hit a relationship rut? Toss your thoughts, feelings, or saucy solutions below—let’s heat up this chat!

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