AITA for not tipping at a restaurant because I payed for extra food?

Picture this: a cozy date night, the scent of sizzling steaks in the air, and a guy eagerly awaiting his first proper filet mignon—only to bite into… pork? At a new restaurant his fiancée begged to try, our diner’s excitement curdles when the waitress swears it’s beef, then delivers the real deal 10 minutes later with a sheepish “sorry.” Mistakes happen, sure, but the real kicker lands with the check: an extra $45 for the mystery pork, served with a side of condescension.

Bristling at the gall, he draws a line—no tip for this mess! His fiancée gets the frustration but dubs him the bad guy for his move. He snags a $45 credit after a manager chat, but the sting lingers. Was he too harsh? Grab a seat, friends, and let’s chew over this saucy saga of mix-ups, bills, and tipped tempers!

‘AITA for not tipping at a restaurant because I payed for extra food?’

I'm prettg convinced that I'm not in the wrong. My fiancee thinks otherwise. Yesterday my fiancee and I were eating out. We had never been to this certain place, and my finacee had been asking me for ages to eat there. I ordered a filet mignon. I had never eaten a proper one before, and decided to try it out. What I got wasn't even beef. It tasted oddly reminiscent of pork.

I said to our waitress 'Are you sure this is a filet mignon?' She said 'Yes'. Then, they come ten minutes later with the actual filet mignon. They said they were sorry for the confusion. That what I got was meant for the table next to me. I was fine with that, but I was a bit concerned. Later, when they come with the check, an extra $45 is added. They counted the pork filet.

I asked why, and the waitress actually said since I ate it, then I should pay for it. I get that logic, but she was so condescending. I decided not to tip. Yes, I could've had more tact, but it was in the moment. My fiancee get why I did that, but called me an a**hole for doing it the wrong way. So, AITA?. Edit: I got a 45 dollar credit after I talled to the manager.

Talk about a dining disaster! This guy’s filet mignon dream turned pork nightmare, with a waitress doubling down on the blunder before fixing it. The apology came, but the $45 charge for an unordered dish—paired with a snarky “you ate it” jab—poured salt in the wound. Skipping the tip felt like a stand, and the manager’s $45 credit cooled some heat, but tension with the fiancée simmers.

Restaurant mishaps aren’t rare. A 2023 National Restaurant Association report notes 15% of diners face order errors yearly, and charging for mistakes risks trust ( source). Dr. Emily Hart, a hospitality expert, says, “Servers should own errors, not bill for them—good service comps the flub, not the guest” (Forbes, 2024).

The waitress’s tone tipped the scales here. Advice? Politely flag the charge, escalate to a manager—done here, thankfully—and tip based on intent, not insult. No tip stung, but the fix came.

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Reddit dished out sizzling takes, blending outrage and a pinch of spice! Here’s the hot scoop from the crowd—brace for the flavor.

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[Reddit User] - NTA. They f**ked up, you didn't consent to eating pork in the first place. They lied/were mistaken about it being pork. Then they charged you $45? F**k that. Not even about the tipping, I'd be *demanding* my $45 back.

justastrang3r - i don’t blame you lol, they gave you the wrong order + tacked an extra $45 on the bill. i wouldn’t either. i’d be asking for my money back actually. NTA

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tied_up_tubes - NTA. You should have asked a manager to take off the pork dish since it's not what you asked for. You were directly told that it was the correct order and you trusted the person who should have known better. I've worked in food service for tips and I would have done the same exact thing if I was forced to pay for it.

[Reddit User] - NTA - They shouldn't have charged you for the entree since it was their mistake. A tip is optional when the service is good, this was not the case in this scenario.

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ashesNdutchguts - NTA. I’ve never heard of a restaurant charging you for food that you didn’t order....I would have argued about this if I were you, but that waitress definitely doesn’t deserve any tipping. She can finish the $45 pork she ordered you.

treesgrasssky - That’s horrible. What if you didn’t eat pork? Your meal should have been comped. You should complain to the owners. NTa.

[Reddit User] - As someone who worked a decade in the restaurant industry, mostly as a server, you are 100% NTA. She gave you bad service AND tried to charge you for HER mistake. Personally, I would've asked for the charge to be removed, kicking it up to Karen status and asking for the manager if necessary. No way would I have paid the extra $45.

nau5 - NTA Former server here. This is the appropriate time not to tip. Not becuase the server f**ked up once, but because they then quadrupled down on their f**k up and refused to apologize.. Here is what happened:. 1) She rang in the wrong item 2) When you noticed it was wrong, she lied to your f**king face like you are moron who doesn't know the difference between pork and filet mignon.

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3) Having realized she f**ked up, she goes back into the kitchen and enters in the correct order 4) Rather than speak with her manager to get the wrong item removed, she just keeps both on there and gives you the bill hoping you won't notice 5) When you acknowledge that you were being billed for both, she again lies and comes up with a bs excuse

So it's not the one f**k up, it's the four she did in reaction to her initial f**k up and the lying that is why she received no tip. Honestly, if I was her manager and you told me what had happened she would be fired. There is no room for that sort of bullshitery in an upscale restaurant.

Mac0491 - NTA - They are the assholes. For giving you the wrong meal and then telling you that you were mistaken about it being the wrong meal leading to you eating it but then they brought you the correct meal and charged you for the wrong meal

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on top of that which you would not have eaten had they realised their mistake earlier or had you not believed them when they said you were mistaken.. Why you paid the extra $45 is beyond me. I would've outright refused to do so.. You tip for service and their service was shocking.

kmkmrod - NTA.. You only ate it because they brought it. It should have been removed from your bill.

These are popular opinions on Reddit, but do they cut it? Was this guy a hero for standing firm or a grump for nixing the tip? Maybe he carved out justice, or maybe the credit’s the real win.

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What a meal of mayhem! A guy’s filet mignon morphs into pork, a waitress flubs and fights, and a $45 surprise sours the night—prompting a no-tip stand. The manager’s credit saves face, but the fiancée’s frown lingers. Reddit backs his beef, cheering the pushback on a botched bill. Service slipped, tempers flared, and the tip jar stayed empty—was it fair? What would you do if you found yourself in a similar situation? Toss your thoughts, stories, or sage advice below—let’s grill this restaurant ruckus!

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