AITA for fully expecting my husband to follow through and sell the truck that his brother all the sudden wants for FREE?

A rusty truck, parked like an unwelcome guest in a cramped driveway, becomes the spark for a family showdown. For seven years, it’s sat untouched, a relic from a complicated father, forcing a woman to park awkwardly and dodge snowplows. When her husband finally lists it for sale, a young buyer’s excitement promises relief—until the husband’s brother swoops in, demanding it for free. Her firm stand to honor the sale ignites a fiery clash of loyalty and principle.

The brother-in-law’s late claim, laced with accusations of her overstepping, turns a practical decision into a personal battle. With her husband caught between family pressures, she digs in, determined to see the truck go to its rightful buyer. This Reddit tale pulls readers into a tangle of family dynamics, where a dusty old truck revs up tensions over fairness and boundaries.

‘AITA for fully expecting my husband to follow through and sell the truck that his brother all the sudden wants for FREE?’

My husband was given a truck 7 years ago and has not driven it once. He never wanted the truck because he already had one. BUT where it was his fathers (still very much alive; just a royal piece of s**t) he felt he needed to keep it around so that his dad didn't flip out and be ignorant about it. So it has been sitting in our driveway for 7 years.

I finally had enough of it sitting there. As it is, I currently have to park sideways at the end of our driveway to be out of the road and can't have my parking spot, where this truck is sitting. Nearly every year I get plowed in by plow trucks because I am parked sideways. It is just super inconvenient. So I told my husband that the truck needs to go.

I don't care where but he isn't doing anything with the thing so it needs to go. At first he was all for it. He went out, started it up and checked all the fluids/electrical, etc. Thing still runs and doesn't appear to have any issues. He listed it on FB marketplace for $1,250 OBO. He has had a few bites but nothing actually serious until last night.

There was this young boy, maybe 19 who was very interested in the truck because he said it reminded him of his gramps old truck and even offered $1500 (which obviously we weren't going to make him pay more for the vehicle). My husband is due to meet up with the kid this Saturday with the title.

Well, all of the sudden my husbands brother (who has been over a s**t load of times and never once said anything about wanting this vehicle) tells us that he wants the truck and expects it to be free because it has been 'sitting too long to be worth anything'.

My husband has always cowered down when it comes to his brother because of how ignorant and manipulative his brother is. So he immediately started retracting and saying he would call the boy and tell him he wasn't selling.

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I put my foot down and said absolutely f**king not and that the truck was going to this kid. I would be more likely to give the kid the truck for free than my husbands brother (who does nothing but mooch and free load off my husband).

My husband isn't saying anything about it because he wants the boy to have this truck but now my husbands brother is being a cunt and saying I am 'trying to control something passed down by family' and says I need to stay in my lane. AITA?

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This driveway drama revs up tensions over family boundaries and fairness. The woman’s insistence on selling the truck, unused for seven years, reflects her frustration with its inconvenience and her husband’s hesitation, driven by fear of his father’s reaction. The brother-in-law’s sudden demand for it free, after ignoring it for years, smacks of opportunism. A 2022 study by the American Psychological Association notes that family conflicts often arise when entitlement clashes with established agreements.

Dr. John Gottman, a relationship expert, states, “Clear boundaries in families prevent resentment from festering”. The brother-in-law’s manipulative tactics and accusations of the woman “controlling” a family heirloom exploit her husband’s reluctance to confront him. Her stand to honor the sale to a young buyer upholds a verbal agreement, prioritizing fairness over family pressure, though her strong words risk escalating the conflict.

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The broader issue is navigating manipulative family dynamics. The brother-in-law’s demand, only after a buyer emerged, suggests he’s leveraging familial ties for personal gain. The husband’s wavering reflects a pattern of yielding to his brother, which the woman’s firm stance counters. Her frustration is valid, but a calmer delivery might have kept the focus on the sale’s fairness rather than personal jabs, especially in front of family.

The couple should discuss setting firm boundaries with the brother-in-law, reinforcing the sale’s legitimacy. The husband could explain to his brother that the truck’s sale was a joint decision, not a personal slight. If tensions persist, family mediation could help address underlying issues. The woman might consider a polite but firm message to the brother-in-law, affirming the sale.

Check out how the community responded:

The Reddit community backed the woman, praising her for standing firm on selling the truck to the young buyer. They called the brother-in-law’s last-minute demand manipulative, noting he had years to claim it. Many urged the husband to resist his brother’s pressure, emphasizing that honoring the sale was fair and ethical.

Commenters suggested the brother-in-law’s reaction stemmed from entitlement, not genuine interest, and supported the woman’s refusal to give in. They encouraged her to prioritize the sale and use the money for her own needs, reinforcing that her driveway, her rules, should hold firm.

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TheBestPeter − NTA. He had seven years to take it and you already made a deal with the kid. Tell the brother the sale has been finalized and it’s too bad he wasn’t half a decade quicker about expressing interest in it.

[Reddit User] − NTA The b**lshit brother-in-law had plenty of time to get the car while it was sitting there for years, you have an actual offer for it to make money and help a kid out. It should go to the person who’s trying to actually buy it and your husband needs to stand up to his brother.

bcharbo − NTA - Verbal Contract made. Please update to tell us how the young man appreciated his new truck!

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[Reddit User] − Hey…if that were me, I’d tell the BIL that my driveway is **my lane**, and that he can go back down that lane, back to his own house, and stay there. You are NTA…although you have a husband problem in addition to a BIL problem.

andreaak88 − My mom said the same s**t to her husband who pulled the same bull s**t for ten years. He had two cars, (one in the garage, one in the driveway,) both unable to move with out being towed, so she had to also park on the side of the road.. Someone ended up ramming into her car, which is when my mom told him the cars had to go.

He finally ended up selling these piece of junk cars, but almost gave them away to a friend who wanted them for nothing since they were 'junk.' My mom said that she refuses to of had these cars sitting in her garage and driveway, making her have to park on the road, for ten years, go for free.

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While she was glad that they were finally leaving her property, she wanted something for her emotional distress. So I completely get where you are coming from with wanting something for the hassle of having to deal with driveway being a scrap metal yard for years.. Get that money and use it on yourself.. NTA

slydog4100 − I'm going with NTA ONLY because your husband already agreed to the sale to the kid and to back out now is bad form and you said no to the BIL because its going to the kid.

I'm hoping you kept the part about giving it to the kid before the BIL to yourself because that would nudge you into ah territory yourself, all be it for justifiable reasons. If the sale to the kid falls through, though, give the truck to the BIL and be happy its out of your driveway.

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No-Jellyfish-1208 − NTA. First, your husband has already made arrangements to sell the truck someone. Second, he owes nothing to his brother.

RadioSupply − NTA. You have someone offering cash for it, and brother could have spoken up sooner. He can match the offer or not.

Critical_Aspect − NTA Sounds like your BIL is only interested because he thinks he can then turn around and sell it himself. I agree, it should go to the kid, maybe with a nice discount.

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AlvinsH0ttJuiceB0x − NTA-if your husband truly wants this kid to have the truck, but has trouble standing up to his brother and his manipulation…then you must absolutely stand your ground. Help be your husband’s back bone in the situation but, I cannot stress this enough…ONLY if it is what he wants…don’t push your preferences on him.

From an ethical stand point, I wholeheartedly agree that this kid should be allowed to purchase the truck from you-there was some kind of verbal agreement and I personally think it would be crappy to back out of it. But, you’re not married to this kid and if not giving your BIL the truck is going to cause tension within your relationship…is this really a hill you’re willing to die on?

This tale of a rusty truck and a bold stand revs up the tension of family loyalty versus fairness. The woman’s push to sell, against her brother-in-law’s entitled grab, defends a promise to a young buyer and her own peace. While her fiery words stirred the pot, they came from years of frustration. It’s a reminder that clear boundaries keep family drama in check. Have you ever had to stand up to a family member’s unfair demands? Share your stories in the comments and join the conversation about fairness and family ties.

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