AITA for making a “mad wall” in the bar I work, with pictures of people who tried to take their anger out at the bartenders?

In a cozy small-town bar, where neon lights hum and glasses clink, a bartender and their coworkers have cooked up a cheeky way to handle rowdy patrons. Picture this: a wall plastered with security camera stills of customers caught in their worst moments—red-faced, mid-rant, forever immortalized as cautionary tales. Dubbed the “Mad Wall,” it’s a playful jab at those who cross the line with staff. But when a casual fling calls it cruel, the bartender wonders: is this clever clapback too harsh?

The story unfolds in a tight-knit community where everyone knows your name—and your bad behavior. The bartender’s lighthearted approach to curbing rudeness sparks debate: is the wall a brilliant deterrent or a step too far? Readers, buckle up for a tale of barroom drama, where respect (or lack thereof) takes center stage, and the community’s got plenty to say.

‘AITA for making a “mad wall” in the bar I work, with pictures of people who tried to take their anger out at the bartenders?’

I'm a bartender along with Jen and Mikey, and sometimes we have really angry problem customers. We have security cameras at the bar and recently my coworkers and I grabbed some stills of the people who got the most mad for no reason.

We stuck them on the wall next to the 'smile you're on camera' sign and when someone acts obnoxious now we are all like 'do you wanna be on the wall? It's not a good look, bro.' Anyway a guy i was casually seeing, joe, comes to the bar and he gets in some stupid disagreement with Mikey, who tells him to cut it out or he's going on the wall.

Joe told me that it was f**ked up to threaten people with that, it's a small town, being forever embarrassed like that where everyone in town can see can have a effect on people's jobs and family and stuff like that.

I was like 'oh well guess they can stay mad enough to stay outta here then' and he told me that I was being a petty person and that if my coworker ever put up a picture of him he'd be coming in to take it down.. I told him maybe he should go, and it was super awkward. AITA for having the 'mad wall' in the bar?

Publicly shaming rude customers might feel like sweet justice, but it’s a tightrope walk between accountability and overreach. The bartender’s “Mad Wall” aims to deter bad behavior, but as Joe points out, it risks lasting harm in a small town. According to a 2021 study by the University of Michigan, public shaming can reduce undesirable behavior but often escalates tensions, especially in close-knit communities. The bartender’s intent—protecting staff—clashes with Joe’s concern about social consequences.

Dr. Pamela Rutledge, a media psychologist, notes, “Shaming can backfire, reinforcing defiance rather than compliance”. Here, the wall might deter some but provoke others, like Joe, who felt threatened. The bartender’s approach is creative but subjective—deciding who’s “mad enough” for the wall lacks clear boundaries, risking unfairness. A better solution? Clear bar policies and verbal warnings before escalating to public displays.

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The broader issue taps into workplace respect. Service industry workers face high rates of harassment—37% of hospitality staff reported verbal abuse in a 2023 Restaurant Opportunities Centers United survey. The “Mad Wall” reflects a push for dignity but could benefit from transparency, like posting specific offenses (e.g., “yelled at staff”). This balances accountability with fairness, ensuring patrons know the rules.

Ultimately, the bartender’s heart is in the right place—protecting their team. To avoid legal or social fallout, they could pair the wall with clear guidelines and offer redemption, like removing photos after apologies. This fosters respect without burning bridges in a small town.

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Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

The Reddit crew didn’t hold back, dishing out a mix of cheers and side-eyes for the “Mad Wall.” From fist bumps for the bartender’s bold move to warnings about slippery slopes, the comments are a lively mix of support and skepticism. Here’s the raw scoop from the community, served with a side of humor.

[Reddit User] − NTA. All of the people saying that everyone sucks are prioritising the reputation of the people on the wall over your right to be able to do your job without facing harassment or abuse. If people dont want to be shamed then all they need to do is be respectful to staff.

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[Reddit User] − Maybe I am in the minority but seems like a fun way to make the point. Also, I have a feeling you guys would take down the photo of someone who came back the next day and apologized.

Helpyjoe88 − NTA. Don't want to be put on the wall for acting a d*ck? Then don't act a d*ck.

Hopeful_Avocado_300 − NTA. This is hilarious. The cardinal rule: don’t f*ck with people that handle your food/drinks. It costs nothing for someone to act like a decent human being and not treat someone in the service industry like they are some how below them. Good for you. I wish more places did this.

[Reddit User] − Joe told me that it was f**ked up to threaten people with that, it's a small town, being forever embarrassed like that where everyone in town can see can have a effect on people's jobs and family and stuff like that. well, you know, consequences for our actions, and things like that. don't want to be embarrassed in your small town? don't act like a drunken fool. NTA

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IllustratorNew8801 − NTA. Servers deserve kindness, if you don't want consequences thinks of your actions

Unblued − Joe told me that it was f**ked up to threaten people with that, it's a small town, being forever embarrassed like that where everyone in town can see can have a effect on people's jobs and family and stuff like that.

Oh sure. Yea, it was totally the bartender's fault I looked like an a**hole. Now everyone knows I'm a d**k because of the picture and definitely not all those times I was a d**k in public.. NTA even before he threatened to come back and fight over taking it down.

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Trashmanjoe − NTA. It sounds like you give people warning before they go on the wall, if they continue, then that's on then. You've mentioned in another comment that your boss is aware of the wall and even thinks it's funny. So you've got the ok of a higher up and you're not effecting his business without giving him warning.

The only thing I'd be concerned about is the legality of recording them and then posting their photo. If you're in America the legality of that varies from state to state. I don't know how other countries game this at all. Do some research to make sure you don't wind up in hot water over this. But if you're in the clear by all means continue.

[Reddit User] − I'd say in a broader sense, it's a 'slippery slope' issue. It's not controversial to say that there are some things it's okay, even encouraged, to publicly shame people for, but it becomes an issue of where you draw the line. For example, what exactly was the 'stupid disagreement' here about?

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Was 'Joe' actually justified or did he have a point, regardless of whether or not he was being a jerk about it? Joe's 'how dare you!?' reaction *was* overblown and ridiculous, but, depending on what all went down, 'Mikey' was being kind of power-trippy about the whole 'wall of shame' thing, like 'say *anything* I don't like,

and you're going on the wall!' EDIT: Another way to put it is that a lot of these kinds of 'walls' are for very specific, concrete offenses like 'these people are shoplifters or dine/drink-and-dashers.' A 'Wall of Jerks' is *very* subjective.

Whoisdis1909 − Info what will get someone on the mad wall? like give a example on the last person who got put up.

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These Redditors rallied behind the bartender’s stand against rudeness, with some chuckling at the wall’s cheeky genius. Others, like Joe, worried about its impact in a small town. But do these hot takes capture the full picture, or are they just stirring the pot?

The “Mad Wall” is a bold swing at curbing bad behavior, blending humor with a hint of vigilante justice. It’s a reminder that respect in service spaces is non-negotiable, but it also raises questions about fairness and consequences. In a small town, where reputations stick like gum to a shoe, is public shaming a fair play or a risky move? Share your thoughts—what would you do if you were behind the bar, facing a rowdy crowd?

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