AITA I didn’t drop my wife to her job because of which she got fired?

Picture a quiet morning in a cozy home, where the clock ticks past 8:30 a.m., and a husband stands by the door, lunch packed, waiting for his wife—who’s still snoring away. Frustrated, he heads to work alone, only to return to a firestorm: his wife, now jobless, blames him for her firing. This Reddit tale from the AITA subreddit is a spicy mix of marital tension, late-night TV binges, and a clash over who’s responsible for getting to work on time.

The story strikes a chord with anyone who’s juggled shared responsibilities in a relationship. With the wife storming off to her parents’ house, it’s clear this isn’t just about a missed ride—it’s about accountability and the delicate balance of support in a marriage. Buckle up as we dive into this domestic drama that’s got Reddit buzzing.

‘AITA I didn’t drop my wife to her job because of which she got fired?’

My(28M) wife(28F) wakes up really late(8:30am) because of watching tv until 3 am. Because of which she's always late to her work which starts at 9. Her work is a 20 minute drive from our home. Today I was getting late for work as it is and she wasn't waking up.

I had already prepared her breakfast and lunch and was waiting for her to get dressed so we could leave. But she was still in bed at 8:30 am!! So, I gave up on trying to wake her up and left for my job which was at 9:15. My work is a 40 minute drive from home.

When I came home, she started yelling at me because she was fired for repeatedly being late to work. I told her it wasn't my fault and if she had had enough self control to sleep early and wake up early, this would've never happened.. She's not talking to me and she left for her parents' home.. AITA for her getting fired?

Edit : We had had her consult a physician and sleep specialist. He said it was just sleep procrastination and she probably doesn't feel tired enough at the end of the day to fall asleep easily.

He advised her to exercise but I don't try to enforce it on her because I don't want her to think she's fat or doesn't look good. She still hast started doing it despite multiple physicians saying the same thing when we go for a consultation.

This tale of tardiness is less about a single missed ride and more about accountability in a partnership. Marriage counselor Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, notes, “Responsibility for one’s own actions is critical to a healthy relationship” (The Five Love Languages). Here, the wife’s habit of staying up until 3 a.m. watching TV, despite knowing her job starts at 9, points to a pattern of self-sabotage, not her husband’s failure.

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The OP’s frustration is valid: he prepared breakfast and lunch, waited, but ultimately prioritized his own job. His wife’s firing wasn’t due to one late day but repeated tardiness, as confirmed by her employer. The sleep specialist’s diagnosis of sleep procrastination, coupled with her refusal to exercise as advised, suggests a deeper issue of avoiding responsibility. Her blaming OP and fleeing to her parents’ home only escalates the conflict.

This scenario reflects a broader issue: mismatched expectations in marriage. A 2021 study by the American Psychological Association found that poor communication and unshared responsibilities contribute to 65% of marital conflicts (APA). The wife’s reliance on OP to manage her schedule mirrors a parent-child dynamic, not a partnership. Dr. Chapman advises clear communication to reset expectations. OP could suggest a structured routine, like setting multiple alarms or a shared evening wind-down, to support her without enabling. Both need to discuss roles calmly to rebuild trust.

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Here’s how people reacted to the post:

Reddit brought the heat, serving up a feast of opinions on this marital mess. From clapping back at the wife’s blame game to suggesting she invest in an alarm clock, the comments are a lively mix of support and snark. Here’s the raw scoop from the crowd:

0biterdicta − NTA. She wasn't fired just because of what happened this morning. She was fired because she's been repeatedly late. That's on her.

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crazeyal − NTA. Let her stay at the parent's house. The fact that she went home to mommy over her own actions tells me there is more going on than just chronic lateness. You didn't get her to that point. She's clearly not adult enough to be married. Good luck on the divorce.

naranghim − NTA. *You* didn't get her fired, she got herself fired through her own actions/choices. It sounds like she would have been fired anyway for always being late.

whatsmypassword73 − NTA, not your problem, except that you married her, any thoughts on that front?

invisibleinsomnia − NTA - she's an adult and needs to start acting like one. You're not her parent; it's not your job to set her bed time and wake her up every morning. It's 100% her fault for repeatedly being late to her job that get her fired.

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Misenica − NTA. she was fired for repeatedly being late to work.. She should try turning up to work on time in the future to avoid this.. wakes up really late(8:30am) because of watching tv until 3 am. I like to stay up late like her too, but I own an alarm clock, and my phone has an alarm on it, and so does my watch, and my alexa hub, your wife might want to buy an alarm thingy.

bowser_mcgee − NTA. She's your wife, not your teenage kid.. Maybe it's best to let her **stay** with her parents.

cassowary32 − NTA. Your wife choose to stay up late knowing she already had been late multiple times. If she's trying to function on 5 hours of sleep, it's possible her lateness wasn't the only issue.. How did she get to work after you left or did she just not bother?

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literalgarbageyo − NTA. Some people just can't accept accountability for their actions.

Evil_Queen_93 − NTA. Your wife herself is responsible for loosing her job and since she doesn’t want to accept her mistake, she’s blaming it on you. How does she think, she is going to manage her time when & if you have kids or even pets??

These Redditors rallied behind OP, calling out his wife’s lack of accountability and her dramatic exit to her parents’. Some questioned the marriage itself, while others urged her to take charge of her schedule. But do these spicy takes capture the whole story, or are they just fanning the flames? This couple’s clash has Reddit talking.

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This story of a missed ride and a lost job reveals the cracks in a marriage where responsibility isn’t evenly shared. OP’s stand highlights the need for personal accountability, but his wife’s reaction shows communication is key to mending fences. Could a heart-to-heart or a stricter routine save the day? What would you do if your partner blamed you for their own missteps? Share your thoughts and experiences below!

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