AITA for leaving in the middle of a job interview?

In a sterile waiting room, the clock ticked louder than the hum of anticipation, as a fresh college graduate sat, resume in hand, ready to seize their first big break. But when 45 minutes crawled by with no update and an interview panel that seemed clueless about their qualifications, frustration bubbled over. The candidate’s bold exit from the dentist chain’s office wasn’t just a walkout—it was a stand for self-respect, leaving readers to wonder if they dodged a bullet or burned a bridge.

This tale dives into the nerve-wracking world of job hunting, where first impressions cut both ways. The graduate’s decision to leave sparks a debate about professionalism, respect, and the value of one’s time in the high-stakes game of landing that first job.

‘AITA for leaving in the middle of a job interview?’

I just discovered the sub and this happened several years ago. Interested to hear your opinions on the matter. I had just graduated college and been out for about 6-8 months. I was looking for entry level accounts payable positions. I applied to a local dentist chain and was called in for an interview.

I arrived about 10 minutes early and checked in with the secretary. During the interview process, I was always punctual and the extra few minutes gave me a little time to relax before hand. So I went to wait in the waiting room. There was no one else there.

About half an hour goes by and I hadn't been called in. Frankly I was getting a little irked and asked the secretary if I was still scheduled. She called someone and told me they would be out momentarily. Another 15 minutes or so goes by and a couple of employees greet me walking by as I'm sitting down. I smile and politely greet them back.

Not long after, the secretary takes me to a conference room. Those people who greeted me moments prior were running the interview process. They started to inquire about my background and ask typical interview questions. They had a copy of my resume but the way they were asking questions made me believe they were just reading it for the first time.

I don't remember the exact exchange but they asked some question about why I was interested in working for their company and I politely responded by saying I don't think I'll be pursuing a career at the company based on how they handled my interview.

I said it was okay that they were late (sometimes s**t happens) but to not even keep me posted and just leave me hanging felt unprofessional. And when I mentioned that it seems like my resume hadn't even been looked at before that meeting they just sat there stone-faced like I told the truth. I told them to have a nice day and I left. I had some meh interviews before but I felt like their behavior told me all I needed to know about the company. WITA?

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Job interviews are a two-way street, but this one veered into a dead end. The OP’s 45-minute wait and the interviewers’ apparent unfamiliarity with their resume signal a lack of respect. Career coach Alison Green notes, “How a company treats candidates reflects its workplace culture” (Ask a Manager). A 2023 survey by Indeed found 68% of job seekers expect timely communication during hiring, and delays often signal disorganization (Indeed).

The OP’s choice to leave was a stand for self-worth, though their blunt delivery may have ruffled feathers. The interviewers’ stone-faced reaction suggests they weren’t prepared to address their own missteps, which could hint at broader workplace issues. This situation underscores a larger issue: companies often undervalue entry-level candidates, assuming they’ll tolerate poor treatment.

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Green advises candidates to trust their instincts when red flags appear. The OP could have stayed for practice but wasn’t obligated to endure disrespect. Moving forward, they might frame their exit more diplomatically, like saying, “I don’t feel this is the right fit,” to avoid burning bridges. Job seekers should prioritize employers who value their time, ensuring a healthier work environment.

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

The Reddit posse rolled in with a mix of cheers and jeers, serving up a spicy blend of support and shade. Here’s the raw scoop from the crowd, buzzing with opinions:

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PeaPod117 − NTA. I wouldn’t wanna work for a company that runs an interview like that either unless I was desperate. It’s pretty unprofessional

[Reddit User] − NTA, they were giving off some pretty big red flags that it wouldn't be a good place to work, so you weren't required to stay.

[Reddit User] − NTA. Especially if you were pretty calm and respectful during the whole exchange.

hxcn00b666 − ESH. I'm not giving an excuse for their actions but tbh those seem like very normal things to run into... I would have continued with the interview just for the experience and practice, even if you didn't want the job in the end. You don't know how many applicants they had and you acted as if they should have memorized your resume.

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Headwallrepeat − YTA. Yeah, they didn't handle it properly, but at the same time there is no reason to burn bridges because you never know who you will run across 2,5, or 10 years down the road. Don't get the job, fine, nobody will remember. Leaving the way you did they will all remember the pompous self-important a**hole. Probably part of the reason you are still looking for a job.

[Reddit User] − NAH They made a bad first impression, but in a job hunt first impressions are everything. They didn’t bother to pretend to be sorry for being late. They didn’t bother to pretend like they had reviewed your resume.

They clearly believed their time was more important than holding a polite meeting, but you don’t have to give them the benefit of the doubt. Your gut feeling may be wrong from time to time or in the long term, but it’s all you have in these situations.

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In the future, you don’t even need to give them a reason why you are retracting your interest, you can just stand up and say “Actually, I think I’m good, have a nice day” and leave. Im sorry to say this, but it’s very doubtful they will even consider your criticisms if they have already disregarded you like they did.

But honestly, who knows what they have going on that made them act that way, Interviewers often have ridiculous notions about what a job interview should be like. I don’t think it makes them assholes, just ignorant.

[Reddit User] − NTA. I had a similar interview a few years ago while I was between good jobs. They neglected to mention it was going to be a group interview, when I arrived I was handed a packet to fill out that asked for almost all of the same info that my resume had.

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On top of that, the group interview was going to be held in a hot ass warehouse. I arrived at about 10:15 for a 10:30 interview. At 11:15, I had still seen no one officially come in to talk to any of us, so I grabbed every bit of paper I had put personal info on and left.

I got a call about 15 minutes later from the secretary asking me why I'm not there and that there would be important info etc. I just told them that if they were wasting peoples' time this early on and can't even be up front about how they run their interviews, I was doing myself a favor by leaving.

A interview is a two-way street. If it isn't the right fit for you, you are better off somewhere else. A lot of people don't feel like they can make that choice though, and businesses end up trapping people in a toxic environment.

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dgl6y7 − NTA It's possible they had some kind of medical emergency they were tending to which made them late. But they should have kept you apprised and apologized. I did the same thing once. I took a day off work and drove 2 hours for an interview only to have them cancel 30 minutes before the start time.

They wanted to reschedule for the next day. I told him no thanks. when I talked to the recruiter he was pissed and chewed them out. It turned out they had a power failure so their office was dark. So I guess I understand but they didn't explain any of that to me or apologize.

TheMedsPeds − YTA you a freshly graduated applicant, especially for an entry level position. You hold 0 cards. They can be as late as they want because they are the employer. Welcome to the real world. Get used to the double standards.

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Cows-go-moo- − YTA your resume would have been read by HR not them and the receptionist should have kept you informed. You claim they were unprofessional while being unprofessional.

Redditors largely backed the OP, seeing the company’s behavior as a red flag, though some called their exit overly dramatic. Their takes spark a lively debate: is walking out a power move or a risky misstep?

This story of a graduate storming out of a botched interview highlights the delicate dance of respect in job hunting. The OP’s exit, fueled by frustration, raises questions about when to stand up for yourself versus playing the long game. Have you ever walked away from a situation that felt disrespectful? Share your thoughts and experiences below!

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