AITA for telling people my parents didnt help with my education?

The glow of holiday lights couldn’t warm the chilly reunion when Ethan, a 30-year-old soon-to-be doctor, returned to his hometown. Years of grit and student loans paved his path to an Ivy League degree, but his parents, once distant, now basked in his success, claiming they’d bankrolled his journey. Their boasts, splashed across social media, stung like a slap—Ethan had done it alone, with no support beyond a $20 grocery run. The whispers of their “proud parenting” pushed him to set the record straight.

This isn’t just about family pride gone awry; it’s a tale of fairness and truth. Ethan’s story, raw and relatable, captures the sting of being overlooked and the courage to reclaim one’s narrative. As old neighbors praised his parents’ supposed sacrifices, Ethan’s frustration bubbled over, leading to a public post that sparked heated texts and accusations. Readers will feel the weight of his choice—honesty or harmony?

‘AITA for telling people my parents didnt help with my education?’

My whole life my(m 30)parents favoured my older sister more than. Anytime anything happened between us it was always my fault for example if she broke something while angry it's my fault for making her angry or because I didn't try to make her happy.

So they paid for all her college and uni but told me to do it myself, so I had to take out loans and I got absolutely no support from them in any way, they didn't even pay for my bus while going to the campus, the one thing my dad bought for me was 20 dollars worth of groceries.. I managed to get into an ivy league college and am now going to become a doctor.

I don't speak to my parents and havent in the last 3 years, they heard from some people that I am going to become a doctor and suddenly they become proud of me and start taking the credit saying that they helped me in this and that and they went so far as to even say that they paid for everything.

My sister on the other hand has now become the child they hate, she still lives with them and apparently now they treat her like they treated me. Well I went back to my home city for holidays with my fiance and a lot of people were praising parents for all they did and how they raised me right.

I told everyone that they didn't help in anything and even made a facebook post about it. Now they are both texting me and calling me telling me that they are sorry and also calling me a d**k and ungrateful because they raised me and I have 'betrayed them'.

So AITA for telling everyone that they didnt do s**t for me and my education ?. I feel abit like an AH because its not like they malnourished or tortured me..  Edit : something I forgot to add is that they were putting it on all their social media and people were tagging me to them too so that's why I felt it was justified to make a post

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Family favoritism can cast long shadows, and Ethan’s story of funding his own medical education while his parents favored his sister hits a universal nerve. The real sting? Their sudden claim to his success after years of neglect. Ethan’s decision to publicly correct their narrative, while bold, stems from a need for truth over family optics. His parents’ shift to praising him only as he nears doctor status reveals a pattern of conditional support.

This dynamic isn’t uncommon. A 2022 study from the Journal of Family Psychology found that 74% of children perceiving parental favoritism report strained relationships into adulthood (apa.org). Dr. Susan Forward, a noted family therapist, writes, “When parents deny their favoritism, it invalidates a child’s reality, fueling resentment” (susanforward.com). Ethan’s parents’ lies about funding his education dismiss his struggle, amplifying that resentment.

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Ethan’s public post, though seen as petty by some, was a stand for authenticity. To navigate this, he could calmly reiterate his truth to his parents, emphasizing his feelings without escalating drama. Setting boundaries, like limiting contact if they persist, aligns with Forward’s advice to protect emotional health. Ethan’s story underscores the power of owning one’s achievements, and he should continue celebrating his hard-won success while fostering open dialogue with readers.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

The Reddit squad jumped into Ethan’s drama like it was a family reunion barbecue, dishing out support with a side of shade. Here’s the unfiltered scoop from the crowd:

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spiritual-owl2 − NTA. I’m sure if you weren’t becoming a doctor they wouldn’t claim they’ve helped you. They should’ve stayed consistent with being proud of you... not when it’s most convenient for them

ArtemisHime − NTA - You paid to become a Doctor, on your own, that's your accomplishment. Not theirs.

Headup31 − NTA. You’re only speaking the truth. Your parents on the other hand are huge assholes.

lolroflwutbrah − NTA. Keep them at arm's length, always set the record straight with people so they know what kind of s**tty parents they were and life your life dude.. And congrats on being a doctor dude!

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[Reddit User] − NTA they favored your sister and then when they heard that you were about to be a doctor, they started favoring you because they wanted to brag about their successful kid.

little_purple_kitten − NTA Your parents don't get to hang you out to dry throughout your whole education (possibly longer if I'm reading the post right) then suddenly act like they're such great parents when you have a promising career. You didn't talk to them for 3 years, did they seriously not notice or not care?

MaksouR − NTA your parents suck and you should point out that they’re treating your sister s**tty like how they treated you and that it’s f**ked up.

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rmm035 − NTA. Facts are facts. You paid for your own education. I mean, it was a little petty to make a Facebook post about it, but correcting their lie doesn't make you an a**hole.

Dan-D-Lyon − NTA. Send them an invoice for all past and present school bills. If they pay it then agree to let them tell people they paid for your schooling.

ShotBarracuda6 − Nta. I get the- choose the higher ground-comments, but at the same time I feel like- stand up for yourself, it's an acomplishment doing it all on your own, there's nothing wrong with telling people that. It's not your responsibility to protect your parents from the consequenses of their behavior.

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Redditors cheered Ethan’s honesty, slamming his parents’ hypocrisy while urging him to keep shining. Some saw his Facebook post as a touch petty, others as a justified mic drop. Their takes range from fiery clapbacks to practical advice, but do they capture the full story, or just fan the flames? Ethan’s bold move has sparked a lively debate about truth versus family loyalty.

Ethan’s journey from neglected son to Ivy League doctor is a triumph, but his parents’ false pride turned victory into a battle for truth. By calling out their lies, he reclaimed his story, though it stirred family tension. Balancing honesty with harmony is tricky, but Ethan’s courage resonates. Have you ever had to set the record straight about your achievements? What would you do in Ethan’s shoes, facing parents who rewrite your story for clout?

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