AITA for leaving a dog at a park?

Picture a dusty highway at dawn, where a skinny, collarless dog darts through traffic, tail wagging despite its hunger. For one Reddit user, a spontaneous rescue mission turned into a day-long odyssey of closed doors and tough choices. After scooping up the friendly stray with some string cheese, they hit a wall: no shelters would take the dog, their apartment banned pets, and no one could help. In a desperate move, they left the pup in a fenced dog park—only to return minutes later and find it gone. Was this a betrayal, or a last resort born of care?

This story is a raw tug at the heartstrings, blending compassion with the gritty reality of limited options. With a roommate throwing shade and a conscience heavy with guilt, the poster’s dilemma asks: what do you do when you’ve tried everything for a stray? Let’s dive into this tail-wagging tale of tough choices.

‘AITA for leaving a dog at a park?’

Yesterday morning on my way home from work, I “rescued” a stray dog from the middle of the highway. I work in a plant and the area of town I was in is all factories, no houses or apartments. He didn’t have a collar and was skinny but was very friendly.

I was easily able to get him in my car with the help of string cheese and decided to take him to a shelter. When I got to the shelter, they were not taking any animals unless you had an appointment and they didn’t have any appointments for 18 days.

They gave me a list of other shelters in town so I drove around to try to see it any would take him. All were full or wouldn’t take pets on that day. I stopped and got the dog some food and bought some cheap bowls from Walmart to feed him and give him water with.

Finally, I decided to go to my city’s animal control shelter even though it’s a kill shelter. When I got there they told me they didn’t take animals in after 1 pm on Saturdays and I could come back on Tuesday, the next day that they had intake.

I begged them and told them the whole story. The worker suggested I let the animal loose where I found it and warned me that if I let it loose on their property that I would be fined. No pets are allowed in my apartment building so I called everyone I knew and made a post on all my social media accounts to see if I could find a place for him.

Some of my friends referred me to rescue groups but they all were full. I couldn’t find one person to take the dog even until Tuesday. By that time it was 9 pm and I was in full panic mode about the dog. I don’t have a lot of money so couldn’t board them dog or get a pet friendly hotel.

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I called a few friends back to see if I could borrow money until my next paycheck but none had any. I called my roommate to ask if I could sneak him in our apartment for the night and she said we couldn’t risk being fined or evicted.

I was sitting at a park. It was fenced with a dog park next to it so I took the dog to the dog park. He ran around pretty happy and we played. I fed him some more. I decided to leave him there. It was a closed off area that he couldn’t get out of and I left him food.

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I felt really s**tty about it but I couldn’t think of anything else to do with him. In my mind it was a nice neighborhood and maybe one of the people there would take him in. I drove off crying but about 15 minutes into my drive I turned around to go get the dog.

When I got back I couldn’t find the dog even though there was no way for the dog to escape. The dog bowl was still there. I combed the entire dog park and the park outside of the dog park.

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When I got home, I told my roommate what I did and she freaked out on me and told me I was a horrible person. I told her if she was that concerned she could have let me sneak the dog in or helped come up with a solution. Now she’s not talking to me.. AITA?

This Reddit post is a gut-wrenching glimpse into the messy reality of stray animals in a system stretched thin. The OP’s marathon effort—driving to shelters, buying food, pleading with animal control—shows a heart in the right place. Yet, leaving the dog in a park, even a fenced one, sparked a firestorm of guilt and roommate drama. It’s a classic case of good intentions colliding with hard limits.

Animal welfare expert Dr. Julie Levy notes, “Stray animals often fall through the cracks due to overcrowded shelters and limited resources” (source: University of Florida Shelter Medicine Program). A 2024 ASPCA report estimates 6.3 million companion animals enter U.S. shelters annually, with many facilities turning away strays due to capacity. The OP’s predicament reflects this crisis: no appointments, no intake after hours, and no pet-friendly options at home.

The decision to leave the dog in a dog park was a gamble, banking on a kind stranger in a nice neighborhood. While the fenced area and food were thoughtful, the choice risked the dog’s safety—a point the roommate’s outburst hammered home. Dr. Levy suggests community networks, like local fosters or social media groups, as alternatives, though the OP tried these without luck. Moving forward, they could connect with local rescues for future emergencies or advocate for better shelter access.

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Check out how the community responded:

Reddit rolled over and barked loud on this one, dishing out empathy with a side of sass. From praising the OP’s efforts to throwing shade at the roommate’s hypocrisy, the comments are a lively kennel of opinions. Here’s the scoop—grab a leash and dive in.

[Reddit User] − NTA. You honestly did your best. Also, f**k your roomate. Not for saying no dogs allowed, but for guilt tripping you after the fact and saying the opposite in hindsight.

alex_moose − NTA. You did the best you could for him in a tough situation. My guess is another dog owner came to the park, saw this dog without a human, and took him home with them. That's what I'd do on that situation. So you put him in the best possible place you could!

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GlamourCatNYC − NTA and I just donated $10 to my local rescue because this story made me cry.

myfluffycreatures − I read the title and was ready to come in with a hard Y. T. A But after reading, it is very clear you tried everything you could so NTA. Leaving the dog where you did was a good idea vs releasing it somewhere it could have been hit by a car.

Given how quickly you went back I'm guessing someone saw you leave it, or came by soon after and took it (something I have done before when coming across dogs alone). Your roommate is being a bit ridiculous, if she cared she should have tried to help you, instead of telling you you couldn't sneak it in and then freaking out on you.

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hoodlumhippie_eva − NTA you feed the dog and did everything you could but your roommate is the a**hole for refusing to help you and yelling at you after you did everything right

ShoelessBoJackson − NTA. You did everything possible to find the dog a home.. Your roommate is a piece of work.. 'No you cant keep the dog here'. 'I exhausted all options, left him in a park in a nice neighborhood'. 'MONSTER!!! YoU mUrDeReD hIm'

DropInASea − NTA, you did what you could - which was a lot. There is no shame in being unable to resolve the issue. He was homeless, you fed him and tried pretty much everything to find him a home.

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There is nothing else you could have done - all the doors were closed. Anyone who tries to shame you or guilt you at that point are hypocrites.. You did/tried more than most people would have, you are allowed to feel good about that. It's very sad and difficult to swallow reality sometimes, but at some point we have to accept that not everything is within our control.

[Reddit User] − Aw honey you’re NTA. You KILLED yourself trying to take care of the poor guy! Idk what else you could’ve done!! Honestly, I imagine someone found him and took him home. Thanks for trying so hard ❤️ And PS your roommate is kind of the a**hole for freaking out at you she she wasn’t willing to do any thing to help

mountaingoat05 − NTA. I think you did a really good thing. Your roommate sucks. I'm also annoyed with the rescues that they didn't have any kind of contingency plan for an emergency like this.

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hsjsjsjaaax − NTA. You tried everything you could have to help the dog and for your roommate to get angry because you left it is unfair. You asked them if you could sneak the dog in and they said no, and from what I see there are no other options you could have chosen to help the dog.

These Reddit takes wag a cheeky question: was the OP a hero for trying, or did they fumble by leaving the pup? The community leans toward compassion, but the roommate’s rage suggests not everyone’s on board. Real life’s messier—sometimes even good deeds come with a bite.

This stray dog saga is a rollercoaster of heart and hard choices. The OP went above and beyond, only to hit a wall of closed shelters and no-help friends. Leaving the dog was a desperate act, but their quick return shows a conscience that cares. Should they shrug off the roommate’s guilt trip or make amends? Drop your thoughts in the comments—what would you do with a stray and nowhere to turn?

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