AITA for calling my coworkers assholes because they don’t want me to work from home because they can’t?

Picture a sterile office in Germany, fluorescent lights humming as one worker, let’s call them Alex, sits at a desk, staring at a screen that could just as easily be at home. With government mandates urging remote work to curb a pandemic, Alex is baffled: why are they stuck commuting when their job screams “work-from-home”? When colleagues who can’t go remote push back, citing “solidarity,” Alex snaps, calling them “egotistical (a**holes).” Now, the office is buzzing with more tension than a coffee machine on Monday morning.

This isn’t just about a desk job—it’s about fairness, health, and workplace politics in a pandemic world. Alex’s outburst has colleagues clutching their pearls and Reddit clutching their keyboards. Was Alex right to demand their remote work rights, or did their sharp words unplug the team spirit? Let’s log into this workplace drama and find out.

‘AITA for calling my coworkers assholes because they don’t want me to work from home because they can’t?’

In Germany we have to work from home now, the government themself called it mandatory. Anyway my company doesn't have a valid reason, at least as far as I know, why we can't work from home.Well, some of our employees can't do their job from home. Like the technician for example. That's fine, they're exempt of course.

Why do I need to come into the office every day to sit behind my screen literally all day then? My job is a cakewalk from home.  The infrastructure needed is most certainly available.. So I asked my boss the reasons.. According to them, it's unfair if I worked from home, because a handful of other employees can't..

After demanding to work from home regardless, I got called an a**hole for a lack of solidarity. I remarked that the people that actively try to keep Positive things from people because they themselves can't have them are egotistical assholes instead.. Am I the a**hole for calling my those people egotistical assholes?

Alex’s fiery retort to colleagues opposing their work-from-home request is a snapshot of workplace tensions under pandemic rules. Dr. Amy Edmondson, a workplace dynamics expert, notes, “Perceived unfairness in policy enforcement can erode team trust” , require employers to enable remote work where feasible. Alex’s desk job fits this bill, making their company’s stance questionable.

The broader issue is workplace equity during crises. A 2021 study by the International Labour Organization found that remote work policies often spark resentment among non-remote workers, like technicians . Alex’s colleagues’ push for “solidarity” seems less about unity and more about envy, but Alex’s name-calling escalated the conflict. Their boss’s refusal to comply with mandates risks legal scrutiny, as employees can report violations to local labor authorities.

Dr. Edmondson suggests, “Transparent communication can defuse workplace conflicts.” Alex could approach HR with evidence of government mandates, calmly citing their right to remote work. Apologizing for the outburst while standing firm on policy compliance might smooth tensions. By focusing on health and legal grounds rather than personal jabs, Alex can advocate effectively without alienating the team.

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Here’s how people reacted to the post:

Reddit swooped in like a virtual water cooler chat, tossing out takes with the energy of a post-meeting rant. Here’s the unfiltered scoop from the community:

Mizuyah − NTA. I also work from home although occasionally I have to go in for face to face lessons but I would be furious if I had to go in for a lesson that I could do behind my screen. Guilting you into doing something doesn’t sound like a nice boss to work under.

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Libba_Loo − NTA- This whole resistance bosses/companies have to their employees working from home has nothing to do with 'solidarity' and everything to do with control.

frumpypat − NTA Your reasons for wfh are valid as they are government mandated. In other cou tries, only select people are considered as 'essential' and can't wfh. You don't seem to be one of those that fit in this category because you're working a deskjob. Bring this issue to your HR and even to third party arbitrator if your company fails to adhere to new mandates.

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ewearehere − NTA. And you should be working from home under the current conditions if you 'can' and it's government mandated.

[Reddit User] - Unter Abschnitt 2.5.2 findest du die für dein Bundesland zuständige Arbeitsschutzbehörde, an die du dich wenden kannst, wenn der Arbeitgeber die Home Office Auflagen nicht erfüllt. Wenn es einen Betriebsrat gibt oder du Gewerkschaftsmitglied bist, ist es auch eine gute Idee, sich dort zu melden.. Edit: NTA

Saraqael_Rising − Life isn't fair. You are able to work from home (mandatory) and it's necessary they be in the building (essential). It has nothing to do with solidarity and more to do with safety. They're being childish and not worth the name calling. NTA

crbryant1972 − NTA I am surprised you are not working from home if you can. Of course, each region / country is different and usually they add in some loopholes for companies to exploit. But unfortunately this pandemic has caused problems across the board - whether it is real, where it came from, etc.. Teamwork is important but so is your health.

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IHaveNoUsernameSorry − NTA. Government called it mandatory.

Knitsanity − NTA My husband has been remote since March 1 2020 with no intention of going back in to the city except for big meetings and the occasional trip. There is no reason for it. He has a fantastic setup at home (a mini mission control) in a private room with an en suite.

Eventually people who want to be in person will be able to but he is old enough and senior enough to refuse.. I fully acknowledge he is very fortunate to be in this position.. I know people who have had to go back and some are pleased and some are not.. Flexible work environments will become more of a norm going forward.

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Cules_Ved − NTA. WTF, have they conveniently forgotten there is a pandemic going on and the whole point of work from home is to avoid it, even as per the government's orders? You aren't asking to work from home on a whim.

These Redditors backed Alex’s push for remote work, slamming the company’s flimsy “solidarity” excuse. Some urged escalation to HR or authorities, while others roasted the colleagues’ petty stance. But do their fiery opinions debug the whole issue, or are they just piling on the office gossip?

Alex’s stand for work-from-home rights turned their office into a battleground, with government mandates on one side and colleague resentment on the other. Calling out coworkers as “egotistical (a**holes)” was a bold move, but was it a fair shot or a workplace foul? With health and fairness at stake, Alex’s fight is relatable. What would you do if your job ignored remote work rules for “solidarity”? Share your thoughts below and let’s unpack this office saga!

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