AITA for walking out on my job with no warning when i’m one of the only employees?

In a bustling coffee shop, where the aroma of fresh brews swirls through the air, an 18-year-old barista faced a moment that turned her world upside down. She loved her job, quietly mastering the art of lattes and closing shifts, until a manager’s cruel “prank” shattered her trust. Imagine biting into your favorite vegetarian sandwich, only to discover meat slipped in deliberately—yep, that’s the gut-punch she felt.

This young woman’s story isn’t just about a sandwich gone wrong; it’s about respect, boundaries, and standing up for yourself. Her decision to walk out without notice sparked a Reddit firestorm, with users rallying behind her or questioning her choice. Let’s dive into her tale, explore the fallout, and see what experts and the community have to say about this workplace drama.

‘AITA for walking out on my job with no warning when i’m one of the only employees?’

I (F18), have been working at this coffee shop for over two years now, i close 4 days a week with only me and one manager left to run the store from about 2pm to close. The other three days a kid (M16) closes with a different manager.  This is about the only staff we have excluding the owner (who will never close),

another kid (M19) who can only work day shifts do to collage, another kid (M18) also works days and does night classes, and a grown man who works in the back baking all morning and has another job in the after noon making him only available in the mornings. So they very clearly need me working there with them.

I’ve been there for a while now and i really don’t mind the people, they can be a bit rude sometimes but i’m super shy and don’t talk much anyway so i stay out of everyone’s way and just get all my work done. Anytime i’ve worked with my manager she tells me about how i’m the best employee she’s worked with and she likes how i just get stuff done.

Fast forward to a week ago, i went inside of work on one of my off days to say hi order a coffee and get a sandwich, i am a vegetarian, i’ve struggled a lot with food and being able to eat enough for my whole life and i always had a hard time not getting grossed out when eating meat, so i stopped and my relationship with food got much better, so i ordered a grilled cheese and got my coffee and left.

I was driving away and i went to take a bite, i take one swallow and it’s fine. When i went to take another i felt a super gross texture and i instantly spit out my food and pulled it apart, they put chicken in my sandwich,(they know my diet and what i normally order), i was so upset but thought it was a mistake so i took the loss on the 3$ sandwich felt a little gross and moved on.

The next day when i went into work, when i get there there is normally a shift change so i get to see my other coworkers as they leave. I was talking to a guy in the break room while getting ready to work and he was about to leave.

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I casually made a little joke about how i’m never coming to this place after after they got my order wrong (just trying to mock rude costumers) and i told him about my grilled cheese i ordered and how it came with meat. He laughed and told me that it was actually our manager that made me that and it wasn’t an accident,

she wanted to “pull a prank” on me and make me try the chicken cause she said it’s delicious and she even gave it to me free of change anyway. After he told me what she said, i packed up all my stuff took my hat and apron off and told the manager what i heard, how i’m done, and how disrespectful that was to do.

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I’m still getting calls and texts telling me how rude it was to leave with no two weeks notice and how much this shows that i’m just petty and can’t take a joke. They are so short staffed now they close early and i know it’s affecting Business .. So am i the ass hole ?

This barista’s ordeal highlights a shocking breach of trust in the workplace. Deliberately tampering with someone’s food, even as a “prank,” crosses serious ethical lines. According to workplace psychologist Dr. Amy Cooper Hakim, “Respecting employees’ personal choices, like dietary preferences, is fundamental to a healthy work environment” . The manager’s actions not only disrespected the barista’s vegetarianism but also eroded her sense of safety.

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The barista faced a clear conflict: stay in a toxic environment or leave abruptly. The manager’s prank, meant to be “funny,” ignored the barista’s lifelong struggle with food, showing a lack of empathy. This reflects a broader issue: workplace bullying often hides behind “jokes.” A 2023 study from the Society for Human Resource Management found that 43% of employees have experienced or witnessed workplace incivility .

Dr. Hakim suggests, “When boundaries are violated, employees should feel empowered to address the issue directly or exit if the environment feels unsafe.” The barista’s decision to leave was a stand for her dignity, though it left the shop struggling. For others in similar situations, documenting incidents and reporting to higher management or HR can be a first step before quitting.

Ultimately, the manager’s failure to apologize and the team’s harassment via texts show a toxic culture. Employees deserve respect, not pranks that undermine their values. If you’re facing similar disrespect, consider discussing boundaries with your supervisor or seeking workplaces that prioritize respect.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

The Reddit crew didn’t hold back, dishing out fiery takes like they were serving espresso shots at rush hour. From calling the manager’s prank “food tampering” to labeling it outright bullying, the community had plenty to say. Here’s the unfiltered scoop from the Reddit hive mind:

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[Reddit User] − NTA. What she did is food tampering. I believe that is against health regulations and can be a crime in some places. I don't know the rules where you live.

YDHmanC1 − NTA. Not having enough employees is the owners fault. The prank wasn't harmless at all

rainyreminder − NTA. Two weeks is a courtesy, not a legal requirement. This establishment stopped deserving your courtesy when your manager played a prank on you forcing you to eat something you don't eat. You burned that reference, but given how s**tty they're being about this, they probably weren't going to give you a good reference anyway.

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[Reddit User] − NTA. They're lucky you're not suing them. It's never OK to mess with someone's food. They didn't know whether you had an allergy or some other health issue. This was not a prank, it was bullying.. Good on you for standing up for yourself. I wouldn't have had the confidence at your age.

sparrowhawk75 − NTA. I bet she's the type to feed someone a known allergen to 'test' them.. The manager's lack of hiring is not your fault. The manager's inability to be professional is not your fault.

rjhancock − NTA. Your vegetarian for a reason and they know it. They disrespected you and your choices. For all they know you could have an allergy to some meats and could have killed you 'as a joke.' I'd leave a review somewhere telling people what happened (you ordered a grilled cheese and they willfully put chicken in it despite never requesting it nor it being part of the recipe).

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Independent_Pie_5999 − NTA. You manager deliberately disrespected your boundaries concerning what you eat. It’s not a joke if you don’t find it funny. Also, they got called out and didn’t even try to apologize. They know they’re short-staffed, and they’re still treating employees like that?

If they can’t respect a dietary choice, you can’t trust them with more complicated workplace issues. Your ex-coworkers should stop harassing you and block their numbers. You don’t have to work at a place that doesn’t make you feel welcome.

Lady_Ellie119 − NTA that's not a prank it's a**ault, and plain dumb who purposely adds meat to grilled cheese as a prank, good or not. I'm not a veggie person and would be pissed if someone added chicken to grilled cheese. The manager clearly has zero respect for you. Please leave bad reviews, that shop deserves to go under

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NanoPsyBorg − NTA for walking out, but you should absolutely report this to the owner. What the manager did was very wrong, and the owner deserves to know about it.

poddy_fries − NTA. You can quit for any reason or no reason, but being openly disrespected and laughed about behind your back is definitely a reason. There is no reason they should expect you to stick around for weeks after,

listening to them b**ch about how you can't take a joke and you're causing a problem for nothing and you're so dramatic, which is, btw, what would happen right up to your last day. Your boss knew she was playing dominance games, so why was she unprepared to lose?

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These Redditors rallied behind the barista, slamming the manager’s disrespect and cheering her bold exit. Some urged her to report the incident, while others saw the shop’s staffing woes as the owner’s problem. But do these fiery comments capture the full picture, or are they just brewing more drama?

This barista’s story is a stark reminder that respect in the workplace isn’t optional—it’s essential. Her swift exit was a powerful statement, but it left the shop in chaos and her phone buzzing with guilt-tripping texts. It’s a messy situation with no easy answers, sparking debates about loyalty, boundaries, and what constitutes a “joke.” What would you do if you found yourself in a similar situation? Share your thoughts and experiences below—let’s keep the conversation brewing.

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