AITA for tricking my mom into thinking I quit my job?

Balancing a teaching job and a dream of writing novels is no easy feat, but for one young woman, her parents’ relentless push for a bestselling book added a bitter twist. Tired of their naive belief that she could churn out a JK Rowling-level hit overnight, she pulled a cheeky prank, telling her mom she quit her job to write full-time—cue panic and a plea to return to work. The joke landed with a thud, leaving her mom rattled and calling her out.

Reddit’s serving up laughs and lessons on this family prank gone awry. Was her stunt a clever way to deliver a reality check, or did it cut too deep? As the sting of misunderstanding mixes with a dash of humor, let’s dive into this tale of creative dreams and parental pressure that’s got everyone buzzing.

‘AITA for tricking my mom into thinking I quit my job?’

When parents’ expectations clash with a writer’s reality, a prank can stir the pot. Here’s the original Reddit post that’s got the internet chuckling:

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I’ve always wanted to write books for a living. The older I got, however, the more I realized it couldn’t be a full time job, not until I got a few books published anyway. So, while I majored in English and have always kept writing, I got a full time job teaching. I love what I do and try to find time to write when I can.

My parents are incredibly supportive but think getting published is easy. They think that I can just write in a Starbucks and become JK Rowling over night. I’ve explained that success on your first book like that is rare and there’s a reason why people like her make the news. They say I should just try harder, as if it’s that easy.

I’ve tried to explain myself and ask them to please back off, but they persist. It can be annoying and digs at my creative process. At brunch last week, they started again, telling me it’s been 2 years since I graduated. Where’s my bestselling book? I tried to explain it to them again (I’m working on it, but even when I start the publishing process, it’s going to take awhile and I’ll probably still have to teach).

They wouldn’t listen. Here’s where I might be the a**hole. On Tuesdays, I get done early. I decided to call my mom and say “Hey, get my old room ready. I quit my job and I’m coming home.” She was confused and I said “Well, this way I can focus 100% on writing my best selling novel. I can’t pay rent without my job though, so I’ll have to give up my apartment. Probably my car.”

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She started freaking out, saying she never told me to do that. She was begging me to go get my job back. I let her squirm for an hour and called her back, saying it wasn’t real. I asked how it felt to be hit with the reality of what would happen if I only focused on writing right now. She called me a b**ch and said that I had no right to scare her like that.. I did apologize but both of them say it was too far. AITA?

For this young teacher, her parents’ insistence on a bestselling novel ignored the gritty reality of writing, pushing her to a prank that left her mom reeling. Pretending to quit her job to write full-time was a sharp jab at their unrealistic expectations, but the hour-long panic it caused sparked hurt feelings. While meant as a lesson, the stunt revealed a deeper communication gap in the family.

The pressure to succeed creatively is common; a 2023 Writers’ Guild survey found 70% of aspiring authors feel family expectations hinder their process (Source). Creativity coach Eric Maisel advises, “Families must respect the slow, uncertain path of creative work; open dialogue prevents resentment” (Source). Maisel’s insight suggests the prank, though effective, could’ve been a calm conversation instead.

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The woman might try explaining her writing journey’s challenges again, perhaps sharing a timeline of publishing realities. Her parents could learn to celebrate her teaching while supporting her writing patiently.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Reddit’s dishing out applause and a few raised eyebrows for this writer’s bold prank, with users weighing in on family dynamics and creative struggles. Here’s what they had to say:

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Change2001 − NTA. You just served a reality check for what she is trying to demand from you.

[Reddit User] − Lol this made me laugh. NTA, what so ever. The creator of game of thrones spent his entire life developing those books, it's seriously just not that easy to just write a brilliant book over night.

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MonarchOfDonuts − NTA, though IMO it would've been better for you just to tell your mom what it would entail 'I'd have to quit my job, move in with you, probably give up the car,' etc. Rather than claiming you already had. Yeah, they're being serious nags and needed a reality check, but you could probably have accomplished that without freaking your mom out so badly.

kushbaby709 − NTA, Im literally in the same exact situation as you, two years out of school with an English degree. My dad thinks I'll write a novel we can all retire off of. He would love for me to quit my job and live with him while I write. I value my independence and privacy too much to do so. We should be sitting in Starbucks for a few hours a week writing though, if they see it in us it's probably there.

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MiaouMiaou27 − ...they started again, telling me it’s been 2 years since I graduated. Where’s my bestselling book? How long do your parents think it takes to write a book? Do they fart out completed manuscripts in their sleep?

Why are they rushing you? This situation is a little tough to decide, but I think you're mostly NTA. Your prank didn't cause any actual harm and hopefully taught your parents a lesson about hassling you.

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[Reddit User] − nah that’s kinda funny tbh but damn your parents gotta chill.

wingding456 − Few people make enough from writing to live on. You are being very realistic.

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TheBrassDancer − The way your mum is acting, she's expecting you to write for her sake. Tell her that if she wants a bestseller published pronto, she can do it herself. Otherwise, she should back off entirely.. NTA.

stannenb − NAH.. The thought of you coming home to live scares her? That’s unfortunate.

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baboonontheride − Writer here with unsolicited advice. Stop talking to these people about your work. They are only able to support your success. They have no interest in the journey.. NTA.

These are the lively takes from Reddit, but do they capture the full plot of this family drama, or is there more to pen?

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This teacher’s prank was a witty attempt to show her parents the harsh reality behind their bestselling dreams, but it left a mark deeper than intended. While her mom’s freak-out was a wake-up call, a heart-to-heart might have worked better. Her writing journey deserves support, not pressure. Have you ever used a prank to make a point with family? What would you do in her shoes to balance dreams and expectations?

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