AITA for having my cable and internet shut off?

In a cozy suburban home, the anticipation of a fun-filled Mario Kart tournament with the kids was brewing, only to be doused by the stubborn presence of an entitled brother-in-law and his girlfriend, glued to the TV like barnacles on a ship. The homeowner, itching for quality family time, faced a standoff in their own living room, where Netflix binges trumped bonding. Frustration simmered as the couple, lounging in days-old pajamas, dismissed the request with audacity, sparking a bold move that would unplug more than just the TV.

This tale of household tension unveils a classic clash of boundaries, respect, and family loyalty. The homeowner’s drastic decision to cut off cable and internet sent shockwaves through the house, leaving everyone—spouse included—reeling. Readers can’t help but wonder: was this a genius power play or a petty overreach? The story pulls us into the messy, relatable chaos of balancing generosity with personal space.

‘AITA for having my cable and internet shut off?’

I got off of work a little early yesterday. I thought it would be a perfect opportunity for my kids and I to have a Mario Kart tournament. When I got home I'm told my kids about my plans they were super excited.

My POS brother-in-law and his girlfriend who currently lives with me decided that they couldn't give up binge-watching Netflix on the front room TV for an hour or two so I can play with my kids. He flat out told me to go to my room in my own f**king house.

It was 4 in the afternoon and these pieces of s**t haven't even accomplished anything yet. They're both in the same pair of pajamas that they've been wearing for the last 3 days. I tried to get my wife to stick up for me, but she insisted that I was being rude to expect them to shut off if they was watching right away. I was furious.

But I refuse to let my children see me act in an irrational manner. So I decided to take more meticulous actions. I called the cable company, and had all my services shut off. Now I know my brother-in-law and his girlfriend are you going to be forced to take a shower and change out of those damn pajamas,

and actually have a productive day for once. My wife is mad at me, because my actions are punishing her too. She should have thought about that before she stuck up for her brother instead of me.

This living room standoff is more than a fight over a TV screen—it’s a battle over boundaries in a shared home. The homeowner’s drastic move to cut the cable highlights a deeper issue: freeloaders overstepping their welcome. The brother-in-law’s audacity and the wife’s defense of him reveal a tangled web of family loyalties clashing with personal space.

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Dr. John Gottman, a renowned relationship expert, notes, “Conflict is inevitable, but how couples manage it determines the health of their relationship” (Gottman Institute). Here, the homeowner’s reaction, while satisfyingly petty, sidestepped communication with their spouse, escalating tension. The brother-in-law’s entitlement reflects a lack of respect, but the wife’s enabling suggests unspoken family dynamics at play. Both sides needed clearer rules from the start.

This situation mirrors broader issues of cohabitation stress. A 2023 study from the American Psychological Association found that 68% of households with extended family reported boundary conflicts (APA). The homeowner’s frustration is valid—guests overstaying their welcome can strain resources and relationships. However, shutting off services without discussion risks alienating the spouse, who’s caught in the middle.

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The solution lies in setting firm boundaries. The homeowner and wife should hold a family meeting to outline expectations—TV time, chores, or even move-out timelines. Dr. Gottman’s advice on collaborative problem-solving applies: approach conflicts as a team, not adversaries. By establishing written rules, as suggested by some Redditors, everyone can align on respect and responsibility. This approach fosters harmony without resorting to power plays.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

The Reddit crew didn’t hold back, serving up a spicy mix of cheers and jeers for this cable-cutting caper. It’s like a virtual barbecue where everyone’s grilling with their hottest takes—some rooting for the homeowner’s bold move, others calling it a childish tantrum. Here’s the raw scoop from the crowd:

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Foamsword21 − NTA. Lol they 100% deserved it and hey, your wife should've stuck up for you if she didn't want you to take this route! It's your house, if you're paying the bills they get off the TV when you ask them to

Krazyrobus − NTA. First of all wtf, no f**king freeloaders are going to come to my house, mooch off me then dictate terms on my bonding time with my kids. I may have laid down some serious law there and tell em, don't like it, leave.

john_rev68 − I was leaning towards not. But your final line here pushes it to ESH(Except your wife): My wife is mad at me, because my actions are punishing her too. She should have thought about that before she stuck up for her brother instead of me. Your actions were mostly fine, but not discussing it with your wife first is a problem.

Obviously your brother In law and his girlfriend need to grow up - and a little push is good for them. But you did the thing you didn't want to - your kids will see (and hear) you behaving irrationally, because kids pick up on that stuff, and there will be arguments, or resentful grumbling.

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DClawdude − ESH. They should be grateful and conscientious that it's your space, but you over-reacted and were super immature.

[Reddit User] − YTA. But I refuse to let my children see me act in an irrational manner.. Mission failed.

chubby_penguin − NTA - your house, your TV.

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hidinginthepantry − ESH. You are being petty in how you handle this. Have a family meeting with your wife, your brother-in-law and his girlfriend, and set some boundaries. Yeah, it's your house and they need to be respectful (they sound like awful freeloaders) but you don't need to lash out like a child.

You are an adult and you're setting a terrible example for your kids on how to manage conflict. You obviously have a lot of resentment about your house guests, but you need to handle it maturely.. Edit: whoa, thanks for the silver, kind stranger!

this-here − I called the cable company, and had all my services shut off.. Excellent, so now no-one can use them!

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Grubej2 − NTA - you could've kicked them out, so I'd say this is less of an overreaction.

Anianna − ESH - This issue is not this one event. You are stressed over a far more systemic problem than this one moment. There are people in your space using your things and they feel entitled to it as if it was theirs.

You and your wife need to establish boundaries with your 'tenants' and really should have before they were permitted to move in. Work out what rights they have to access your space and your things (when and how) or establish that they need to get their own.

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Your response was an angry reaction to a perceived slight rather than to any established rules that everybody understood. Your BIL was wrong for feeling entitled, your wife was wrong to enable his entitlement, and you were wrong for throwing a tantrum over it.

All of you were wrong for engaging in an awkward living situations without established boundaries.. Work out boundaries. Get them in writing. Make sure everybody understands and agrees to them.

These Redditors rallied behind the homeowner’s stand or roasted the lack of maturity, with some pointing fingers at everyone involved. The debate sizzles: is cutting the cord a masterstroke or a meltdown? One thing’s certain—this story has the internet buzzing. Do these fiery opinions nail the truth, or are they just adding fuel to the drama?

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This saga of a Mario Kart night gone wrong shows how quickly family generosity can curdle into resentment without clear boundaries. The homeowner’s cable-cutting gambit was a bold, if messy, stand for respect in their own home. Yet, it also strained their marriage, proving communication is key even in the heat of frustration. Readers, have you faced freeloaders who tested your limits? What would you do if your home became a battleground for control? Share your thoughts and experiences below!

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