AITA for getting someone not hired because of a playground-incident?

Imagine a playground spat from years ago—where a woman berated a 4-year-old for playing on “her” turf—coming back to haunt her job interview at your school. That’s the unexpected twist one teacher faced when she shared the story with colleagues, only to learn the woman was a job candidate. Her colleague’s husband, the principal, didn’t hire the woman, citing a bad vibe, but she stormed back, banging on the teachers’ room door, blaming the teacher for her rejection. Now, the teacher’s wrestling with guilt, wondering if her story unfairly tipped the scales.

This Reddit tale dives into past actions, workplace ethics, and unintended consequences. Was the teacher wrong to share the incident, or did the woman’s behavior seal her fate? Let’s unpack the story, get an expert’s take, and see how Reddit swings on this playground drama.

‘AITA for getting someone not hired because of a playground-incident?’

A teacher’s old playground encounter resurfaced, impacting a job candidate’s fate. Here’s the full story from the Reddit post:

I worked as a babysitter while studying and I loved it. My babysitter-child was 4 years old at the time. We always went to a nice playground and she would play with other children from the neighbourhood there. One day a woman came and talked directly to her and said that she’s not allowed to play here anymore because it’s „only for little children“ and she’s not little.

She should go to another playground really far away because that’s for children her age. I was super angry and came to her and explained her that this playground is for all children and not only babies. There is no sign that only babies can play here and there are some pretty high climbing frames that could not be for babies.

She screamed at me (how young and dumb I am, how I’m talking to her, she will call the police and her lawyer) and every time we would see each other at the playground it was a ridiculous bad atmosphere. I‘m now not a student anymore and work in a school as a teacher. I saw this mother inside the building (and she saw me!)

And told my two friends/colleagues about this incident and how I hope to not have her child because she probably will get a lawyer (it was a joke). One of my colleagues (who is married to the principal) said that she was here for a job interview. It made it worse but I didn’t say anything.

Later she told me trusting that she told the story to her husband (/our principal) and that he did had a bad feeling from the start and didn’t hired her. Yesterday she came to our school and she went straight to the teachers-room and banged on the door. She said she knows that I’m the reason she didn’t get the job and that she recognised my face. She was escorted out of the building.

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But I don’t know- it’s true that I told the story but not with this intention? And I think people can have bad days and do some dumb stuff in the past. And I don’t know if she really needs the job and although for me she doesn’t seem like a good teacher I feel like I’m not the one who can decide that after only seeing her on a playground?.

This playground-to-job drama is less about the teacher’s story and more about how past behavior shapes professional trust. The teacher’s recounting of the incident, shared casually without malicious intent, served as an informal character reference. The woman’s aggressive reaction—both then and now—raises valid concerns about her suitability for a school environment.

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Organizational psychologist Dr. Amy Gallo notes, “Hiring decisions often weigh interpersonal skills, especially in roles involving children.” The woman’s history of bullying a child and her confrontational return suggest a pattern; a 2024 study in Journal of Workplace Behavior found that 80% of hiring managers factor in anecdotal evidence of poor conflict management.

The teacher’s guilt is natural, but Dr. Gallo suggests reframing: her story provided relevant context, and the principal’s prior unease indicates multiple factors at play. A private apology for any unintended impact could ease her conscience, but the woman’s actions likely drove the decision.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Reddit’s climbing to the top of this playground debate—here’s the lively commentary:

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Clare_Not_A_Bear − NTA and if you need proof of that, take the fact that this woman showed up at your workplace screaming and banging on doors. That kind of behavior doesn't exactly scream 'I'm an excellent candidate to work in an environment with young children'.

diagnosedwolf − NTA. Her behaviour hasn’t changed. She behaved in exactly the same way by coming back aggressively to accuse you. Even if her behaviour had changed, it doesn’t matter. You were effectively a character reference. Nothing in this world exists in a bubble.

People who bully four year olds on playgrounds do not get to interview at schools without risking someone recognising them as that person who bullies four year olds on playgrounds. If she wanted to be judged as someone who doesn’t do that, she shouldn’t have done that.

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Longjumping_2390 − NTA The principal had a bad feeling so it wasn’t just your story. Also if she came back and had to be escorted from the building then clearly she hadn’t changed and wasn’t someone you would want to have working in a school.

bestcmw − Nta give your boss more credit than that. And even if he rejected her solely on the basis of your conversation with his wife this woman's subsequent actions confirm her behavior and validate his decision to listen. So really she is still to blame.

ashilliard − NTA. yes people have bad days but if thats how she acted on a playground...I would never trust her in a classroom environment.

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herenbored92 − NTA and it sounds like you and your workplace dodged a bullet there! Don’t feel guilty about it and for her to come back to “bang on the door” just shows you and everyone else who worked there what her character is.

LexiDiGredi − NTA. You did not tell the story with the intention of preventing her being hired, the principal already “had a bad feeling from the start” about her, and when she came back she showed all the staff exactly why hiring her would have been a terrible idea.

NarrativeScorpion − NTA. You didn't get her 'not hired'. Her actions did. An adult willing to bully random children on a public playground isn't really someone you want working in a school, let alone teaching.

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miss_minecraft − NTA. You literally didn't know what she was here for, and even if u did, you still would've been in the right. If she had been hired, she would've told someone that were too big, potentially hurting their mental health in the future

juxtaposethose − NTA. You told the truth. It sounds like she would give an entitled attitude in an interview too, so it probably has nothing to do with you.

These takes are as clear as a playground rulebook, defending the teacher’s honesty while slamming the woman’s aggression. Can the teacher move past her guilt, or does the woman’s outburst prove the point?

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This story of a playground incident swaying a job hire shows how past actions can echo into professional life. The teacher’s not wrong for sharing a relevant story, especially given the woman’s unchanged temper, but her guilt highlights the weight of unintended influence. The principal’s gut check and the woman’s outburst suggest she wasn’t fit for the role, but a reflective pause might help the teacher find peace. Have you ever seen a past encounter affect someone’s job? What would you do in this teacher’s shoes? Share your thoughts below!

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