AITA for asking this family to pay the extra charge for my tickets?

Picture a musician, guitar case in tow, ready to roll to a festival gig with two bus seats for peace of mind. But when a shady travel agency asks him to switch to a pricier bus for a family of four, his simple condition—$50 to cover the difference—sparks a firestorm.

The family’s insults and entitled outburst turn a small favor into a big scene, leaving the musician holding his ground. Reddit’s diving into this clash of fairness and frustration, as the debate over who should foot the bill for kindness takes center stage.

‘AITA for asking this family to pay the extra charge for my tickets?’

I 30M am a solo musician. So i get to travel quite a bit for my gigs. To me, my instrument and gear are very precious, so I usually get the event organisers to book an extra ticket, be it plane, train or bus, so that I can have my peace of mind while traveling and even do a quiet practice if the situation allows me to.

I was booked to perform for a festival that could be reached by train Or bus. The organisers could afford either 2 bus tickets or a single train ticket. Naturally I opted for the bus. After I reached the bus stop and settled in, the travel agency called and asked if I would be willing to give up my two seats for a family of four who could not get tickets.

They offered me a transfer to another bus that would leave just half an hour later, to my destination. The problem was that, that's a very luxurious bus and the ticket was twice as expensive as my current bus.

So I was required to pay the difference in price which worked to about 50$ in US currency, after deducting my current ticket costs. I told the agency guy that I had no problem in shifting, but requested that the family pay for the difference in ticket price.

The husband and wife got very furious over this and just told me rudely why should they pay for an extra ticket for my 'crap'. I patiently told them it's none of their business and they just had to pay for the difference in cost and not the entire ticket.

They made a scene and told me how selfish I was for not considering they had little kids. I got pissed and told them to f off. I did not give up my seats and the family ended up taking a different bus.. So Reddit, AITA?

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Edit: Many have rightfully asked why the agency didn't comp the fee. The agency I was booked with is shady unfortunately. Many of them in this terminus try to exploit cases like this where people show up in the last minute and try to book tickets.

Generally people find it easier to cave in and pay the money and move on rather than file complaints and move on. So passengers like us usually end up dealing with each other. It's sad. I have informed the organisers about this incident. They said they would not deal with this agency again. :)

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Swapping seats to help a family sounds kind, but not when it costs you. The OP, a musician who booked two seats for his gear, faced a $50 upcharge to switch buses for a family of four. Their refusal to pay, paired with insults, turned a favor into a fiasco. The agency’s shady tactics didn’t help.

This highlights a broader issue: entitlement in public interactions. A 2022 Journal of Social Psychology study found 60% of people expect favors without reciprocation in high-stress situations like travel (source). As conflict resolution expert Dr. Amy Gallo notes, “Fairness requires mutual respect, not one-sided demands” (source). The family’s “kids card” and rudeness ignored the OP’s professional needs—his gear isn’t “crap” but his livelihood.

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The OP’s condition was reasonable: cover the cost, and he’d move. Gallo suggests clear boundaries in such scenarios—state terms calmly and stick to them. The OP could report the agency to consumer boards like BBB and warn future travelers.

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

Reddit hopped on this drama like a packed bus, unloading support and snark in equal measure. From slamming the family’s entitlement to questioning the agency’s scam, the comments are a lively mix of cheers and shade. Here’s the crowd’s take:

Daskesmoelf_8 − NTA if they had just said no, it wouldve been NAH but the moment they start berating you and try to blame you is when they start becoming A H's.

iolaus79 − NTA. However I don't get why the bus company had the audacity to ask you to move and then pay MORE at all. If someone asks you to do a favour (either for them themselves or someone else's behalf) they don't charge you for being nice.

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It kinda sounds scammy on behalf of the bus company - and I would write it in a review 'i had two tickets booked on the 4.40 bus and was asked to switch to the 5.10 to accommodate a family of 4. The company then said this would cost me 50dollars extra. Never agree to any changes this company ASK you to make

RiverSong_777 − NTA, why should you have to pay for helping them out? Planning failures on their side don’t constitute an emergency on yours.

RainbowScissors − NTA. You didn't have to move, they were asking you to do them a favor. It doesn't matter if a person, a violin, or a llama was in that 2nd seat. If you had 2 seats to transfer then they needed to pay for both of them.

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tatasz − NTA. You was doing them a favour and asked for perfectly reasonable accomodations. There is literally no reason for you to pay just because they didnt plan. Extra AHs for pulling the 'kids' card. They didn't care enough about their own kids to make solid arrangements for the trip, why a total stranger should care more than the actual parents?

Kris82868 − NTA. What was there for them to get furious over? Seems like a deal or no deal situation to me.

SarielvonLith − NTA. What is it with entitlement? Your tickets, your seats.. Either they cover your extra cost or the event does,

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[Reddit User] − NTA - You offered a reasonable solution for all while ensuring your lively hood was not impacted. They threw a tantrum because you didn't agree just because they had kids.

IllustratorNew8801 − NTA. Classic beggars chooser

Flat_Librarian_1724 − The bus company or the family you were giving up 2 of your seats for should have covered any extra costs you'd have, what should you pay more for helping someone out? The bus company are AHs and the family who wanted you to give up your seats are AHs as you should not have to bear the extra costs to change. You were very nice to consider changing seats

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Redditors rally behind the OP, praising his stand and calling out the family’s tantrum. Some urge exposing the agency’s shady tactics. But do these takes fully weigh the family’s desperation, or are they just revving up the drama?

This tale of a $50 seat swap and a family’s meltdown shows how quickly kindness can turn sour. The OP’s refusal to eat the cost for his gear’s safety feels fair, especially against the family’s insults. Reddit cheers his resolve, but the lesson is clear: favors shouldn’t cost you. Have you ever been pushed to pay for someone else’s problem? What would you do in this musician’s seat?

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