AITA For asking for this guys insurance?

Picture a moonlit dirt road, a car stuck in the muck, and a stranger’s truck rumbling to the rescue. What started as a kind gesture turned sour when the helper’s truck slid, denting the stranded driver’s shiny new ride. Hours later, with a bulldozer and buddies in tow, the car was free—but the driver’s request for insurance left the good Samaritan frowning.

Was it ungrateful to demand coverage for the damage, or just practical? This Reddit tale dives into the muddy waters of gratitude, responsibility, and roadside kindness gone awry.

‘AITA For asking for this guys insurance?’

Last night i misjudged the quality of a dirt road and got my car stuck, luckily this guy pulled up and tried to help but ended up sliding his truck into my car putting a dent about the size of a head into the fender,

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eventually he called his buds to bring their bulldozer down and help us out, eventually after ~2 hours we got out. I really appreciated the help but still wanted his insurance (which made him look a little upset) because its a relatively new car. Am I the a**hole?. edit: dang i figured i was the a**hole

A dented fender after a roadside rescue is a classic case of good deeds getting complicated. The driver’s request for insurance, while legally sound, stung the helper who spent hours pulling them out. Dr. Robert Cialdini, an expert on social influence, notes, “Reciprocity drives human behavior—kindness expects kindness in return” .

The helper likely felt unappreciated, as his effort was met with a demand rather than gratitude. The driver’s focus on their new car’s damage is understandable—repairs aren’t cheap, with fender fixes averaging $500-$1,500 .

Cialdini suggests balancing reciprocity with empathy. The driver could thank the helper warmly, offer to cover any truck damage, and discuss repair costs collaboratively. Resources like Influence by Cialdini offer tips on fostering mutual respect. By prioritizing gratitude alongside fairness, both parties can feel valued.

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Here’s how people reacted to the post:

The Reddit crew rolled in like a tow truck, unloading opinions with the force of a bulldozer. Here’s the unfiltered scoop from the crowd:

LadyRarity − Definitely the a**hole. I get the car is new and *technically* you are right, he hit your car, he did it because he was being a good Samaritan and tried to help you. If he hadn't, you'd still be stuck in that ditch.. What you basically did is say to him 'thanks for the help by the way you're paying for this.'. No good deed goes unpunished I guess.

FIVE_DARRA_NO_HARRA − You're the reason why that guy won't stop for the next person. Yes, a**hole.

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arkenex − Are you serious? Not only are you an a**hole, you are the definition of what’s wrong with humanity

Lederhosenpants − Total d**k move OP. Being penalized for an act of kindness makes me grind my teeth.

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Not_Luigii − Yes you're the a**hole. Assuming you'd call a wrecker to tow your car out, the company is not liable for any damages during a tow. He saved you time and your car. Edit: grammar

[Reddit User] − Gonna say yeah a**hole. He spent two hours of his life helping you, including his other friends time at no cost. I have no idea how much detailing is to fix our car but I would bet it would be the same if not more than a labor crew to get you out of the ditch. Honestly I would buy the guy a case of beer and tell him not to sweat it.

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[Reddit User] − Yes your an ungreatful a**hole he should have left you stuck thanks for the lesson i won't help anyone like that anymore

Dazeydevyne − Figure out the cost of your repair, and then figure out the cost to rent a piece of heavy machinery, and to pay multiple men to work that equipment and everything else they did to get you unstuck. Also the cost to repair any damage to his vehicle. Be sure to add a premium charge for after hours service.. I think you got a pretty good deal, overall.

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ALPNOV − Call him immediately, tell him you're sorry and grateful and say that you will be paying for it. You are the assholes.

PerilousAll − Not only are you an a**hole, but you need to send this guy a substantial gift card for helping you out.

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Redditors slammed the driver’s insurance demand as ungrateful, warning it could deter future kindness. Some suggested a thank-you gift instead of a claim. But do these hot takes overlook the driver’s right to protect their property?

This dirt-road debacle shows how quickly kindness can skid into conflict. The driver’s insurance request, while valid, overshadowed the helper’s generosity, leaving both sides dented emotionally. A little gratitude could’ve smoothed the ride for everyone. How would you balance fairness and appreciation after a stranger’s help goes wrong? Share your thoughts and experiences below!

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