AITA for telling my sister I don’t pity her after she lost two of her toe fingers?

In a quiet suburban home, tension brews like a storm on the horizon. A Reddit user, juggling the care of their young nephew and financial aid for their struggling mother, faces a family rift that’s anything but subtle. Their sister, recently recovering from a car accident that cost her two toes, seems more concerned with her gym routine than the family’s hardships. The bombshell? She’s sitting on an $18 million fortune from a business sale, yet hasn’t offered a dime to help.

This tale of wealth, resentment, and toe-related drama unfolds with raw emotion, pulling readers into a whirlwind of moral questions. Should family step up when they have the means, or is it fair to keep their wealth private? The Reddit user’s fiery outburst at their sister’s complaints sets the stage for a debate that’s as heated as a summer barbecue gone wrong.

‘AITA for telling my sister I don’t pity her after she lost two of her toe fingers?’

My sister was in a mild car accident and two of her toe fingers were pretty damaged. Long story short, she had to have it removed. In the meantime, our mother is being evicted from her home and I've been raising my 7yo nephew after our sister died of a d**g overdose two years ago.

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I've been helping our mother out financially by supplementing her with $400-500 a month as she is on a fixed income. It's been a struggle. After my sister had her surgery, she asked my mom to stay with her at her house to help with her kids while her husband worked.

My sister and I are estranged, but apparently she wanted to reconnect. I was open to it. I told her she could call me whenever. I was going to ask how she was doing and recovering. Then my mom dropped a bombshell. My sister and her husband sold their business to a well-known company for $18 million dollars a couple of years ago.

Right around the time when I took in my nephew and I've been the ONE giving my mother $500 a month out of my $4000 monthly paycheck. I was PISSED. And yes, my sister knew. She eventually called me and wailing and crying over it and complaining how it will affect her at the gym.

I told her I couldn't care less about her toes and she could go to Hell. She asked me what I was talking about. I said I was in a bad situation a couple of years ago and have been adjusting financially to help our nephew and mother. She had the means to help and she didn't. I said I knew about her $18 million dollars.

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She had no obligation and honestly I wouldn't have expected her to. That is her money. But I don't want to hear about her $18 million rich person problems. She didn't want to talk about it. I told her that I wished her nothing but the best, but she's a b**ch and an a**hole and don't want anything to do with her.. EDIT: Toe fingers are your 'toes.'

Family dynamics can turn a simple disagreement into a full-blown feud, especially when money’s involved. The Reddit user’s frustration is palpable, caught between raising their nephew and supporting their mother on a tight budget. Their sister’s silence about her $18 million windfall feels like a betrayal, especially when their mother faces eviction. Meanwhile, the sister’s focus on her toe loss highlights a disconnect in priorities, leaving the family’s emotional bonds frayed.

Dr. John Gottman, a renowned relationship expert, notes, “In family conflicts, it’s not the disagreement itself but the repair attempts that matter most” (source: The Gottman Institute). Here, the sister’s lack of outreach deepens the rift. Her wealth could ease the family’s burden, but her silence suggests either obliviousness or deliberate detachment, both of which sting.

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This situation reflects a broader issue: financial inequality within families. A 2021 study by Pew Research found that 27% of U.S. adults financially support aging parents, often straining their own resources (source: Pew Research Center). The Reddit user’s sacrifice is common, yet their sister’s inaction underscores a lack of reciprocity, a key pillar of family trust.

For resolution, open communication is crucial. The Reddit user could initiate a calm discussion, expressing their hurt without accusations. If the sister remains unresponsive, setting boundaries may protect their emotional well-being while maintaining minimal contact.

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Here’s how people reacted to the post:

Reddit’s got no shortage of spicy takes, and this story lit up the comments like a firecracker. Here’s what the community had to say:

[Reddit User] − INFO: What the heck are toe fingers?

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LivingGate − I just laughed for 5 minutes at this. Everyone got so hung up on “toe fingers” that they barely could address the question.

Twinkiepunter − YTA for making me try to figure out what a toe finger is for the past 5 minutes

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Doctor-Amazing − Could be worse. I knew a guy that lost both his feet hands.

sharby2308 − NTA but question a 'mild car accident' considering loss of toes? Not familiar with that terminology. Towards that , the sale of the business and final payout could have taken a good while. Consider how her life changed, your estrangement,

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and what seems like obvious resentment on your behalf. Medical bills and rehabilitation can go on years too I totally hear your struggle, but you are not a victim, as your family has leaned on you. Pity is one thing, compassion is another .

pirkle1 − I'm gonna go with ESH. I think she should have helped out and contributed if she had the means, but she's also allowed to be upset about losing two toes.

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[Reddit User] − NTA. She is quite self centred. Having said that, thanks for the laugh. “Toe fingers” . Still not sure what that phrase means (but am guessing you meant toes?) but it made me laugh

cherralily − ESH. She more than you for not helping out keeping your mom in her home. I cannot fathom having that kind of money and letting my mother get evicted while my sibling is raising our nephew and still helping out. But still, losing a limb isn't trivial.

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spritzdown − info: what is a toe finger. a finger? a toe? please god i need to know what are toe fingers

[Reddit User] − NTA. I can’t imagine having that much money and watching my mom and sister struggle. Not that she should be paying all your bills but damn, she could help out here and there if you both really need it. Obviously your mom needed it. Jeez. And you’re taking care of your other sister’s kid! Good for you not letting your nephew in the system. I’m glad to see families look out for each other.

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These hot opinions range from side-splitting confusion over “toe fingers” to heated debates on family duty. But do these virtual verdicts hold up in the real world, or are they just keyboard courage at its finest?

This saga of toes, millions, and family tension leaves us questioning where loyalty lies. The Reddit user’s anger is raw, but is it fair to expect help from a wealthy sibling? Should the sister have stepped up, or is her money her own to keep? Share your thoughts below—what would you do if you were caught in this family firestorm?

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