AITA for ignoring my neighbors and their HOA group?

On a serene lakeside, where the hum of a seaplane blends with lapping waves, one homeowner’s peaceful retreat turned into a battleground. After installing buoys to safeguard their Piper Super Cub, they faced the wrath of an overzealous HOA, despite owning their historic cottage free of their rules.

Reddit erupted with cheers for the homeowner’s stand and jeers for the HOA’s audacity. This tale of property rights versus neighborhood control invites us to dive into a clash where buoys and tempers mark the boundary lines.

‘AITA for ignoring my neighbors and their HOA group?’

I live in a cottage that I inherited after my grandfather passed away three years ago. The cottage is one of the oldest homes in the area and unlike my neighbors I am not a member of the HOA. The cottage itself is a waterfront one in which I have a small grass yard that turns into a beach on the lake. I never had a problem until recently over a seaplane and buoys.

Due to having a private pilot’s license and being really fortunate, I own a Piper Super Cub on floats. When I am not flying the plane is either tied to my dock or is pulled up onto the beach and strapped down when the weather is bad.. ​ A month ago I decided to make some new additions to my property, these additions were two lines of buoys at the edge of my property with signs on each.

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The buoys extend 15 feet past my dock and are still technically on my property. The signs themselves are ones that I got custom-made warning about prop wash. I decided to add the buoys and signs because whenever I take my seaplane out there are sometimes boaters/ kayakers who will stop to watch me leave.

Normally this is not an issue if they keep their distance however recently they have been getting too close for comfort.. ​ With the addition of the buoys, I can keep a 100 X 300 ft safety rectangle. This makes it so that at the bare minimum I will always have around 100ft off of each wing of safe space.

Additionally, it prevents people from cutting me off when I come to dock or park on the beach. About a week and a half ago I got a letter from the HOA.. ​ The HOA is demanding I move my plane to a local seaplane base as well as remove my buoys and signs.

In response, I wrote them a letter explaining the reasons behind having the buoys and told them I have no intention of changing anything. About two days later I got an angry visitor who was an HOA member, I told her that if she or the HOA comes onto my property again they will get arrested for trespassing. Before leaving she used some very colorful words and called me an a**hole.

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Owning a slice of lakeside paradise comes with perks—and pesky neighbors. This homeowner’s buoys and seaplane, perfectly legal on their non-HOA property, sparked a showdown with an HOA hungry for control. The conflict hinges on boundaries: the homeowner’s right to manage their land versus the HOA’s attempt to dictate terms.

HOAs often overstep, with 74% of homeowners in a 2022 National Association of Realtors survey (source) reporting frustration over restrictive rules. Real estate attorney Sarah Johnson notes, “HOAs lack jurisdiction over non-members, but disputes can escalate without clear communication.” Here, the homeowner’s firm stance is legally sound but risks neighborly tension.

The broader issue is HOA overreach. Legal clarity—verifying property laws and documenting compliance—can defuse conflicts. Installing cameras, as suggested by Reddit, adds protection. For solutions, Johnson advises sending a formal cease-and-desist letter through an attorney to halt harassment.

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Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

Reddit brought the heat, tossing shade at the HOA with gusto. Here’s the unfiltered scoop from the community, served with a side of snark:

CharlesMuskrat - NTA. yet another HOA thinking they can flex on their neighbors. s**ew 'em

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BaronsDad - NTA. You mention in other comments that you have documentation on your ownership that proves the legality of your actions. I would hire attorney and stop replying to them yourself.

Have the attorney send a letter to the HOA to kindly stop harassing you when you are not part of their HOA and that any harassment would be reported to the authorities.. If you can afford it, set up cameras. And let them know any trespassers will be recorded.

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myshellly - INFO: Are you 100% sure that what you are doing is legal according to the property laws of your county/state/country? Where I am, private property does not extend out onto water like that. If you are in violation of any ordinances, laws, codes, etc., you would be the a**hole. If not, then not. But this is a more nuanced question than just whether you are subject to the HOA or not.

[Reddit User] - NTA, HOAs are just about always TA. I understand the benefits to an HOA, and why some people choose to be in them, but they attract control freaks. Imagine the audacity of *demanding* someone change how they use their own property even when they're not in your club of complainers.

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Euphoric_Strength_38 - NTA. do what you want, you’re allowed to do whatever you please on your property.

[Reddit User] - NTA. HOAs are so frigging toxic.

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[Reddit User] - Anybody who pisses off a HOA is never an a**hole!

The__Riker__Maneuver - NTA 1) Go to your city or state and make sure you are 100% within all laws and regulations with regards to your plane and buoys. Do your best to get that in writing if possible.

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2) Go ahead and speak to a lawyer, explain the situation, your compliance with the laws, and ask if you should send a legal letter to the HOA now, or wait until they escalate their harassment. 3) Get cameras for your property because these people will be back

403badger - Info: is what your doing considered legal by whatever local/state municipality?

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[Reddit User] - NTA - my god these type of HOA people really annoy me. It's like this weird need to assert their power over people for the sake of it, over things that to most people are insignificant.

These fiery takes light up the HOA’s overreach, but do they capture the full picture? One thing’s certain: this lakeside saga has Reddit buzzing.

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This waterfront standoff pits personal freedom against HOA meddling, leaving us to wonder where the line should be drawn. Was the homeowner’s defiance a bold stand or a spark for more conflict? Share your thoughts: how would you navigate a nosy HOA trying to rule your roost?

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