AITA for taking my medication infront of my future stepsiblings?

Picture a 16-year-old girl, sitting awkwardly in her living room, trying to bond with her mom’s boyfriend’s kids. Her epilepsy medication is a routine part of her day, but when she takes it, the room turns icy. The boyfriend’s glare could freeze a campfire, and her mom’s silence stings worse than any seizure. This isn’t just a family visit gone wrong—it’s a clash of ignorance and health needs that leaves her questioning her actions.

This Reddit story pulls us into a suburban home where a teen’s medical condition becomes a battleground. Jeff, the boyfriend, flips out over her taking prescribed pills in front of his young kids, and her mom backs him up, leaving her punished and confused. Readers are hooked, wondering: is she wrong for managing her health, or are the adults failing her?

‘AITA for taking my medication infront of my future stepsiblings?’

I 16F have epilepsy, I have seizures bc of it and I take medication for those seizures. It's a condition I can not control which many ppl in my life don't rlly get (except for dad) unfortunately. My mom and dad have been separated for 3 yrs. She started dating this guy 'Jeff' who's a single dad of 2 kids ages 6 & 8.

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He comes over with his kids to visit us every week. Yesterday, he visited and brought the kids, I don't usually...like sit with him but this I had too to 'get to know my future stepsiblings better' as my mom says. Anyways, while we were sitting I grabbed my medication which made Jeff side eye me for like ...30 secs.

He then told his kids to go to the other room then started berating me asking 'what the hell I just did' I was so confused by his language not knowing what he meant. He told me it was not OK for me to take medication infront of his kids...I was like 'up why not??'

And he started ranting about how his kids shouldn't see 'this stuff' and that I should of went to my room or any other room to take my medication if 'it was so important to me'. I was shocked and mom didn't even say anything at the time which rlly got me questioning what I did.

He then said those are my stepsubkings, they're of young age and should not be 'exposed' to such 'sights' and that I'm gon' have to come up with a better way to 'deal' with my condition and medication intake because he doesn't want his kids exposed to that once we all start living together as a'family'. I told him it wasn't my problem which caused the argument to escalated. Mom sided with him and I had to go to my room to calm down a bit.

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After he and his kids left, mom picked another argument with me saying I should of been more consuderate' of the kids seeing my medication and said that Jeff has a point but I was being too rude to him. She told me she's expecting me to apologize and get right with Jeff next time he visits but I said no.. Now I'm punished for next weekend for my 'attitude' towards my stepdas but am I the a**hole here?

Managing a chronic illness like epilepsy is tough enough without family turning it into a spectacle. This 16-year-old’s routine pill-taking sparked an overblown reaction from Jeff, who seems to think her medication is a moral failing rather than a medical necessity. His demand to hide it from his kids—ages 6 and 8— reeks of ignorance, and her mom’s complicity is a gut punch. The teen’s defiance, refusing to apologize, shows grit, not rudeness.

This scenario exposes the stigma around visible medical conditions. Jeff’s outburst suggests he views epilepsy as something shameful, not a manageable condition affecting 1.2% of the population (per CDC). His kids, far from being “protected,” miss a chance to learn about health. As Dr. Orrin Devinsky, an epilepsy specialist, notes, “Education about seizures reduces fear and stigma” . Jeff should have explained the medication’s purpose to his kids, normalizing it.

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The broader issue is how blended families handle health differences. The teen’s mom failed to advocate, prioritizing Jeff over her daughter’s well-being. Living with her supportive dad, as Reddit suggests, could be a solution if feasible. She should calmly explain her condition’s necessity to Jeff, offering resources like Epilepsy Action.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

The Reddit crew rolled in like a supportive squad, unloading on Jeff and mom with a mix of outrage and empathy. They rallied behind the teen, calling out the adults’ nonsense. Here’s the unfiltered scoop from the crowd:

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Hemenucha − NTA. Is there any way you can go live with your dad? Huge red flag that your mother didn't stand up for you.

treatyourselftocats − NTA.. have epilepsy, I have seizures bc of it and I take medication for those seizures. You're not taking these drugs recreationally, you're taking them to **treat a medical condition**. Your mom and her boyfriend are the AHs here, your mom should have backed you up instead of taking the side of a guy who clearly doesn't have common sense.

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AffectionateEscape13 − Go live with your dad. Like, now...

Inallea − NTA and fellow epileptic here. Children need to understand the difference between medication and lollies. Children also need to understand about seizures because if they don't know about it it can be alarming to see one. This was a teaching moment for the children. What Jeff should have done was talked to his children about it.

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About seizures. That medication is important and that it is only for the person the doctor prescribed it for. That it isn't something anyone else can take. That it is important for your health. I openly took my medication in front of my child.

All medication was on top of the fridge out of reach but I always made sure she knew that the medication was for mommy to keep mommy well. I'm glad I did and talked her through everything, explained about epilepsy because I did have a seizure in front of her when she was 6.

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Kris82868 − NTA. I can't even come up with a reason why there would be an issue taking the medication in front of the other children. I mean seems it's something they should be exposed to and have some basic knowledge about the condition you have.

toofat2serve − NTA. Every adult in that situation is an a**hole. Holy s**t. What a hill to choose to fight for. You have a medical condition, that requires medication. That's all that they needed to explain to the kids, but they can't be bothered to do that?. Assholes, all of them, and I can't wait for you to be free of their garbage.

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[Reddit User] − NTA. Next time Jeff visits ask him if he would like his kids to see you have seizures or can you take your medication to prevent that. I bet the answer to seizures is no.

waapple − NTA. It's healthy for kids to see people taking medication, it shouldn't be taboo what if they developed a condition that required them to take regular medication? Would they be comfortable taking it if they've been taught by their dad it's something to be ashamed of? Absolutely not

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[Reddit User] − NTA. Ok, I am at a loss here. How are his kids seeing you take your prescribed medicine a problem? This guy is unhinged. Is it possible to live with your dad? You just know this guy is going to make your life hell in the name of 'bonding as a family'.

PommieGirl − Totally totally NTA. He as a parent needs to educate himself and also his kids about your condition. You should not have to hide the fact you have to take medication.

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These Redditors are all-in for the teen, but are they too harsh on Jeff’s misguided protectiveness, or spot-on about his overreach? This health drama has everyone fired up.

This teen’s fight to take her medication without shame is a powerful stand against ignorance. Jeff’s overreaction and her mom’s silence turned a routine moment into a family feud, but her refusal to back down shows strength. It’s a reminder that health conditions shouldn’t be hidden to appease others. Living with epilepsy is tough enough—why add stigma to the mix? Have you faced judgment for managing a medical condition? How would you handle Jeff’s demands? Share below!

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