AITA for not letting my neighbors kids play in my yard until they pay to fix damage to my house?

A homeowner’s generous offer to let neighborhood kids play in their two-acre yard backfired when five siblings left $800-$900 in damages—graffiti, dented siding, and shattered windows. When their parents refused to pay and accused the OP of lying, the kids were banned until repairs are covered, sparking a fiery clash with an angry mom and skeptical neighbors.

This Reddit tale captures the clash of property rights and community expectations, where a line in the grass turned into a suburban standoff. The OP’s stand raises questions about accountability and neighborly bonds, resonating with anyone guarding their space.

‘AITA for not letting my neighbors kids play in my yard until they pay to fix damage to my house?’

My father bought the house in the 80s and held onto it as different developments sprung up around it. I inherited it 3 years ago and have been living in it since. I have 2 acres while my surrounding neighbors have maybe 1/2 an acre if they’re lucky. The house is fairly small (2 bed 2 bath) so I have a very large front and back yard.

I use maybe 1/5th of the backyard as a garden and the rest is basically an empty field. I’ve always loved kids so I was happy to let my neighbors kids play in the field with the understanding that they would respect the property. Most of the kids are great, very respectful and understand that this is not their backyard. The problem is with my neighbors to the right.

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They have 5 kids (f1, m3, m5, f5 and m7) who generally run around unsupervised. They don’t come to my yard to play very often unless the other kids are playing soccer or baseball. The 7 year old is “in charge” as much as a 7 year old can be but obviously he can’t replace parental supervision.

5 days ago the kids were playing baseball and he must have lost track of the 5 year olds at some point because when I came home from work I found their names sharpied onto my wall (name and name were here) along with some rude drawings (a man pooping, several piles of poop, that sort of thing) all along the right side of the house.

I found their parents the next day and asked them to pay for the paint I’ll need to cover it up, they were very offended, accused me of lying and said they weren’t going to pay. If this had been all I probably would’ve let it slide and covered the paint since it would only be like 20 dollars but later that day m5 decided it would be funny to throw rocks at my house.

There are several dents in the siding where the rocks hit and two of my windows are broken. From what I’ve been quoted to fix it it’s about $800-$900 worth of damage. I talked to the parents who accused me of doing it myself to make their kids look bad. I’ve decided those 5 are not allowed to use my yard until the damage is paid for, which I think is more than fair.

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When they came by this morning to play soccer with the other kids I politely explained the situation and said they would have to leave as they aren’t allowed to play here anymore. The 7 year old was very upset (more sad than a temper tantrum which is understandable) but the 5 year olds were very angry.

About an hour later their mom came by and cussed me out, yelling at my doorstep about how I’m a horrible person who hates children because I’m “bitter and can’t find a husband”. I’m standing my ground either way but a few other parents came by and seemed a little frustrated by my explanation as to why that family is no longer welcome which is making me question things. AITA for banning them from playing here?.

The OP’s decision to ban the kids after significant property damage reflects a clear boundary, but it’s stirred tension in a close-knit neighborhood. The neighbor’s kids, left largely unsupervised, caused $800-$900 in damages, and the parents’ refusal to take responsibility—dismissing the claims as lies—escalated the conflict. This situation underscores a breakdown in accountability, with the parents’ reaction suggesting entitlement to the OP’s property.

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Property disputes are not uncommon. A 2023 survey by the National Association of Realtors (source) found that 18% of homeowners face conflicts over property misuse or damage, often tied to unclear expectations or lack of supervision. The OP’s case highlights the risks of informal arrangements, like allowing kids to play without strict oversight or agreements.

Real estate expert Barbara Corcoran advises, “Protect your property with clear boundaries and documentation—kindness doesn’t mean being a pushover” (source). The OP’s proactive steps—installing trail cameras and exploring liability waivers—align with this, fortifying their position against further issues. Corcoran’s guidance also suggests escalating to small claims court if the parents remain uncooperative, given the significant repair costs.

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To de-escalate while standing firm, the OP could send a certified demand letter outlining the damages and repair quotes, offering a payment plan to ease tensions. Consulting local authorities or a mediator might also help.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

Reddit weighed in with a mix of support and practical advice for the OP’s backyard battle. Here’s what the community had to say:

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Impossible-Feed-1541 - NTA, not one bit.. I’m worried that this might escalate and the family will cause further damage to your property out of anger. I’d get some cameras set up if I were you, to protect yourself and so you have definitive proof if/when there is a “next time”

Dizzy_Yard7671 - YTA for not calling the police. Are you really just going to eat $800 and 'not allow them in the yard?'. How about they pay and they're *still* not allowed over, and if they come you call for trespass.

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GrymDraig - NTA. Your response was very reasonable.. Have you considered putting up a security camera? It may be helpful if you have any further issues.

NanaLeonie - NTA. Let those destructive little kids play in the yards of the of the families who are frustrated your yard is now off limits. Put up cameras and when you catch property destructing in progress, call the cops and then sue the parents. Even 5 year olds should know better than to do what those kids did. Poor kids, what inadequate parents they have.

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Midwest69Swing - NTA. It is your property. You don’t have to have a reason to tell others to stay off. The fact that they damaged your property gives you cause to not just politely ask them to pay for repairs, but to press charges and sue for damages.. You have AH neighbors. Put up security cameras. Call the police if they continue trespassing. Sue for damages.

I broke a neighbors window accidentally growing up, my parents offered to pay for the damages or have me work off the cost of the repairs doing chores for the neighbor. They split the difference. My parents paid half and I did yard work for the neighbor all summer. Plus, a bunch of extra chores for my parents to repay them.

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My kids accidentally damaged my neighbors Rise bushes one spring. Similarly, the neighbor was compensated with my kids doing yard work. Parents that don’t raise their kids to respect the property of others and take responsibility for their actions, accidental or intentional, are s**tty people raising more s**tty people.. Let the legal system help address the problem.

ceastwood1963 - NTA, but you need to be very careful. As someone else suggested,you need cameras desperately. There is no telling what can and will go on at any time while kids are playing on your property. If someone gets hurt, you get sued. Have the kids work off the damage by doing yard work or have them clean and paint it themselves. With supervision.but cameras, please

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Tdluxon - Definitely NTA Their parents should 100% have apologized for the drawings and the damage and offered to pay for whatever needed to be fixed. Coming over and yelling at you is even worse. Also, what kind of crappy parents leave 5 kids all under the age of 7 to play outside by themselves? I feel bad for the kids sounds like terrible parents.

The other thing is, you should probably stop letting any kids play in your yard anyways and put up a no trespassing sign. As crazy as it seems, if you let them play on your property and one of them gets hurt, you could end up getting sued... that's our fantastic legal system.

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tippytappy04 - NTA but I'd sue for damages because with parents like those, I doubt they'll ever pay the money.

NotHisRealName - NTA. Time for fences and cameras.

Buddhadevine - NTA but I’d make it a rule now that no kids are allowed on your property. It’s a liability issue along with the property damaged. If those kids happen to get hurt on your property, you will have to pay out.

These fiery takes back the OP’s stand, but do they overlook the complexities of neighborhood dynamics or the kids’ lack of supervision?

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The OP’s ban on the kids draws a firm line between generosity and accountability, but it’s left neighbors divided. This saga highlights the challenge of maintaining community ties while protecting personal property. Where’s the balance between being a good neighbor and demanding justice? Have you faced property damage from unsupervised kids? Drop your stories and strategies—let’s unpack this suburban feud!

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