AITA for telling people a fake baby name?

Picture a sunny family BBQ, burgers sizzling, and relatives buzzing with baby name questions for an expecting couple. The OP and her husband, self-proclaimed nerds with a love for mythology and gaming, shared their plan for a fandom-inspired name, only to be met with eye-rolls and harsh words before even revealing their picks. Stung but sly, they dropped a bombshell—naming their child Dovahkin or Elpheba—turning the picnic into pandemonium. The couple’s cheeky fib unleashed a storm of family outrage, leaving them dodging nasty texts and debating if their prank went too far.

This tale of trolling gone wild is a delicious mix of humor and family drama, pulling us into the chaos of clashing tastes. With the Reddit community chiming in, we’re left wondering: was their joke a stroke of genius or a step too far?

‘AITA for telling people a fake baby name?’

This happened yesterday af a family bbq. My husband and I are having a baby, and we already have some names that we like. A When asked by family what we were thinking for names, we made the mistake of telling them. My husband and I are really nerdy and we're also into mythology and are big gamers.

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We're both very much the odd ones out in each of our families. We wanted a fandom name - but not something we thought was ridiculous - and we mentioned this, which caused some relatives to get really pissy and start calling us names, saying we were being cruel (before they even heard what names are on the list).

So my husband and I shared a look and we had the same thought to just take the p**s. So I said that if it was a boy, he'd be named Dovahkin (the player character from Skyrim) and if it was a girl, she'd be named Elpheba from Wicked. Well, it was chaos. They were super angry, my MIL started crying because we've 'ruined the child's life already'.

We kept to our lie and made a hasty exit after nobody would calm down. We got n**ty messages all night and this morning. (My husband congratulated me on my choice of names in the car and thinks we should keep it up until after the baby is born.) I met up with my best friend today and told her the full story and she said we acted horribly towards our family and we deserve the comments we got.

She also said that if we don't set the record straight then any personalised baby gifts we might receive would end up being a waste of money. So tell me, AITA? Edited to add that some of the names we actually have on our list and WILL be naming the baby are Scarlet, River, and Rory.

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This BBQ blowup is a masterclass in family expectations clashing with personal choice. The couple’s playful trolling, while hilarious to them, lit a fuse under relatives already skeptical of their “nerdy” vibe. Parenting expert Dr. Laura Markham, in her article on Peaceful Parenting, notes, “Family pressure over baby names often stems from a need to control or conform, but parents have the right to choose what resonates with them.” Here, the family’s preemptive judgment pushed the couple to double down with a fake name, escalating the drama.

The situation reflects a broader issue: naming a child is deeply personal, yet 68% of parents report family interference, per a 2023 BabyCenter survey. The couple’s real names—Scarlet, River, Rory—are mainstream, showing their fandom leanings were never extreme. Their trolling was a defense against unsolicited criticism, but it backfired, fueling family outrage.

Markham suggests setting boundaries early: “Acknowledge family input politely, but firmly state your decision is final.” The OP could clarify the joke to defuse tension, perhaps saying, “We were kidding about Dovahkin, but we’ve got names we love.” For others, the lesson is to share less during pregnancy or redirect nosy relatives to neutral topics like nursery decor.

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Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Reddit brought the heat, serving up a buffet of laughs, support, and some shade. Here’s what the community dished out:

guitargamel − NTA. Even if you did name your child something stupid because it's a fandom you love, that's not their place to criticize. It sounds like they're getting way too involved with what *you two* are going to name *your* child.

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Sledge313 − NTA. Even if family doesnt like the name, to act like they did is way overboard. We just didnt tell anyone until the baby was born. What you guys could do is simply say something along the line of 'No those are not the names. But based on how you all reacted, maybe we should do those names. Your behavior was atrocious and unless you want your grandchild named that, stop acting like an i**ot.'

Ruple − NTA. We wanted a fandom name - but not something we thought was ridiculous - and we mentioned this, which caused some relatives to get really pissy and start calling us names, saying we were being cruel (before they even heard what names are on the list).

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You tried to open up about the process of choosing a name, and your family shat on you before you even listed any names. If I were being an obtuse stickler about it I'd say you guys were a-holes via an ESH judgment for retaliating, but seeing as I'm not I refuse to slap you with that judgment.

She also said that if we don't set the record straight then any personalised baby gifts we might receive would end up being a waste of money. Personalized gifts would only be a waste of money if you have a s**tty attitude about it. If someone gets the kid a personalized onesie with 'Dohvakin' on it you don't have to throw it away or whatever.

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It's genuinely a funny story about the process of choosing your kid's name. If anything, it'll give you a story to tell your kid when they're old enough to notice all the different names in their baby stuff. 'We tricked your Grandma so now you have a bunch of stuff with the wrong name' isn't exactly going to be a traumatic story for the baby to hear.

Beautiful-Peak399 − NTA, your child, your choice - so troll them if you want to. It seems like they wouldn't be happy with whatever you name them anyway. They are WAY too invested.

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witcher_rat − Per this sub's FAQ, the word 'a**hole' isn't in the English sense, but rather do we blame you because you should have known better.. Your family's reaction is over-the-top and nuts, so they're AHs for that. _You_ were fine initially, but then decide to 'take the p**s' and troll them. So you're an AH for that.. ESH all around, but I admit I have the same sense of humor.

annedroiid − I’m surprised but the votes on this post, normally the consensus is that if the name is that terrible you need to speak up to try to save the baby 18 years of pain. ESH. You knew exactly what telling them those names would do as those would be cruel and horrible names to give to a child.

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AlukaCrystal − NTA.. You didn't deserve the backlash you received and I frankly find their reaction ridiculous. I don't understand the notion that you HAVE to know everything about a baby as soon as it's mentioned. Especially, if it's not even born. So much can (unfortunately) happen between now and the birth. You don't have to share the name (actual or potential) of your baby with anyone, but your partner.

The two of you should of course be on the same side about it. Until the birth you might change your minds again and again until you find THE name you want to you. Don't let anyone lecture you about ruining your child's future. Your ILs had their chance to name their children, same with friends.

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KneelorFacetheWhip − NTA, as someone who named her daughter Amelia after the same show you are taking two of those names from. Also, Dovahkin is hilarious and I wish I had thought to use that as a fake out when I was pregnant.

TheAshenDemon4 − NTA though I’m not really sure why you’re stirring the pot so much.

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Used-Atmosphere2422 − ESH. Your family’s response was horrible but also there is no reason to lie about something like that for amusement.

Talk about a spicy spread of opinions! From cheering the couple’s troll to tsk-tsking their antics, Reddit’s takes are as varied as BBQ sauces. But do these hot takes hold up, or are they just grilling the couple for fun?

This baby name saga is a reminder that family gatherings can turn into battlegrounds over something as personal as a child’s name. The OP and her husband’s prank was a cheeky jab at meddling relatives, but it left them dodging digital tomatoes. Choosing a name is your call, but trolling might not be the best seasoning. Have you ever clashed with family over a big decision? Spill the tea—what would you name your kid to stir the pot?

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