AITA For not stopping my habit of staying on my balcony late at night?

Picture a crisp, quiet night, stars twinkling like scattered diamonds, and a 17-year-old curled up on their balcony with a book, savoring the chilly air. For four years, this ritual has been their sanctuary, a moment to unwind before bed. But enter a new neighbor with a dog—a furry ball of fury that barks like it’s auditioning for a horror flick. Now, this teen’s peaceful habit is under fire, with the neighbor demanding they ditch their balcony time.

This Reddit saga is a classic clash of personal freedom versus neighborly peace. The teen’s balcony bliss is pitted against a dog’s midnight meltdowns, raising questions about boundaries and responsibility. With a touch of humor and a lot of heart, this story invites us to ponder: who’s really in the wrong when a dog’s bark disrupts the night? Let’s dive into the drama!

‘AITA For not stopping my habit of staying on my balcony late at night?’

I am 17 and for the past 4 years, I go and sit on my balcony almost every night that I spend at home. Typically after midnight. I'd generally spend at least 1 hour straight before I go to bed there. For instance, if I scheduled to sleep around 2 am, I'd go and chill on my balcony around 1 am.

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I do that for many reasons, first and foremost, it's chilly outside which calms me down and helps my body relax before I attempt to sleep. Furthermore, it's 1 hour of quality time I get to enjoy reading a book or gazing at the stars.

My neighbor's whole garden is visible from my point of view and vice versa, he recently got a dog, I don't know her race but I do know that she's a huge and scary dog with anger issues! For the past couple of days my presence at night wakes up the dog and she starts barking uncontrollably.

I don't mind it, it's not loud enough to distract me, but loud enough to wake you up if the dog is literally inside your property. Yesterday, the neighbor bumps into me and asks me if I could stop spending time on my balcony at night because the dog starts barking and that wakes them up and they want to sleep because they wake up early in the morning for work.

I told them that it was always a habit of mine(which they were probably aware of) and I don't plan to change it just because you decided to put a dog in your garden, you could change her position, or perhaps don't get a dog at all if a dog's bark concerns you and is a problem to you.

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He didn't like that so I offered to meet his dog in hope that the dog stops thinking of me as a threat and therefore stops barking when she sees/hears me, he refused, quoting that their dog is probably too dangerous for me and that I can't go on his property.. AITA?

This balcony brouhaha is less about barking and more about respecting personal space. As Dr. Deborah Serani, a psychologist specializing in stress management, says, “Setting boundaries is key to mental health, especially for teens carving out personal time” . The teen’s balcony habit is a healthy coping mechanism, offering calm in a chaotic world. Forcing them to abandon it dismisses their emotional needs.

The neighbor’s frustration is understandable—nobody loves a 1 a.m. bark-fest. But blaming the teen ignores their own responsibility. Pet ownership comes with a duty to train and manage animals. The American Kennel Club notes that 47% of dog owners struggle with barking, often due to insufficient training . The neighbor’s refusal to let the teen meet the dog or explore solutions like indoor housing shows inflexibility.

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Serani’s boundary-setting advice applies here: both parties need clear limits. The teen shouldn’t have to sacrifice their routine, but they could explore quieter balcony activities, like using headphones. The neighbor should invest in training or bring the dog inside at night. Open dialogue—perhaps a friendly chat over coffee—could bridge the gap.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

Reddit brought its A-game to this one, dishing out opinions with equal parts sass and sense. Here’s a peek at the community’s hottest takes, served with a sprinkle of humor!

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lectricpharaoh − NTA at all. Your neighbor sounds extremely entitled. They get a dog, they refuse to train the dog, they refuse to keep it inside, and they blame *you* for *their* dog's behavior. Just firmly tell them that *you* are not responsible for *their* dog's behavior. If they are rude about it, start calling someone (strata, police, etc) with a noise complaint when the dog goes nuts. These people don't sound like good pet parents at all.

BookReader1328 − NTA - But your neighbor is. He's admitting to owning a dangerous dog, so make a note of that. When it attacks someone, you can be a witness. Beyond that, dogs belong with their pack, not forced to sleep outside alone.

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Juliennix − NTA! they don't need to leave their dog outside at night. i know some animals love it but you don't need to stop a quiet activity you do on YOUR property for their sakes. they should get the dog training. continue to enjoy your balcony!

[Reddit User] − NTA. 'You're disturbing my dog - go back inside your house' is the most entitled and assholish thing I've ever heard of. As the owner of two barkers, I can tell you that it's the OWNER'S RESPONSIBILITY to keep the dog from barking, not the neighbors' responsibility.

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Fiery1ce − NTA. The dog is your neighbors responsibility and properly training a dog is their responsibility. You even offered a solution and they rejected it so don't fret about it.

locomama83 − NTA - you haven’t done anything wrong. If he is concerned about his dog barking, HE needs to do something. Not your responsibility.

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ten_before_six − NTA. You're not intentionally antagonizing the dog, you're just existing in time and space on your own balcony. What's next, every time the dog barks at someone, are they going to ask that person to change their habits? Can't walk by their house! Can't talk too loud next door! They're being unreasonable because they want an easy fix without really thinking about what they're asking of you.

XStonedCatX − Of course NTA. You are entitled to use your balcony whenever you want, for as long as you want. They sound like terrible pet owners, and it's not your job to change your routine to accommodate someone else's dog.

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LovelyTina2218 − Hold up! So they got a overtly vicious dog.... Put it in their backyard... And when it barks at your existence on your balcony which is completely in your right... It's their problem? Like... Your habit is observable and something they should have come to you sooner about or planned around...

Or maybe gotten a dog that wasn't a pair of sentient teeth and pipes.. No, NTA. But be careful if Fido is too dangerous for you to meet so he doesn't bark an entire sonnet about you, he is not someone you want to meet should he somehow manage to get beyond their fence...

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ibagbagi − NTA. But I think you meant breed, not race 😂

These Redditors didn’t mince words, but are they onto something, or just barking up the wrong tree? Let’s see how their advice holds up in the real world!

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This starry-night showdown reminds us that home is where you make it—whether that’s a balcony or a backyard. The teen’s right to their ritual clashes with a neighbor’s plea for peace, but the real culprit is an untrained pup. With a bit of compromise, both sides could find harmony. Would you stick to your balcony or try to tame the neighborly tension? Share your thoughts below and let’s keep the conversation glowing!

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