AITA for calling out my friend after they “borrowed” my MacBook and basically never gave it back?

Imagine lending a friend your prized MacBook, trusting them with a sleek machine worth $1,200, only to be left chasing vague promises for weeks. That’s the pickle our OP landed in when a close pal borrowed their laptop for “a few days” of schoolwork, only to claim it vanished during a move. The kicker? A casual $100 tossed as “compensation” for a device that’s practically OP’s right hand. Sparks fly when OP calls foul, and mutual friends cry “petty.”

This isn’t just about a lost laptop—it’s a tale of trust betrayed and friendships tested. When does holding someone accountable tip into “valuing money over mates”? Reddit’s AITA community jumps into this digital drama, dissecting loyalty, responsibility, and the audacity of a lowball offer. Let’s boot up this saga and see where the fault lines lie in this techy tussle.

‘AITA for calling out my friend after they “borrowed” my MacBook and basically never gave it back?’

A while ago, my friend asked if they could borrow my MacBook “for a few days” because their laptop stopped working and they had school stuff to do. They were a good friend so I trusted them and I agreed. Days passed, then Weeks.

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Every time I asked about it, they’d say they were still using it or would “get it back soon.” Eventually, they admitted they lost it while moving and casually handed me $100 as “compensation”. My MacBook was over $1,200 new. 

told them that wasn’t even close to fair, and they acted like I was being greedy and should just let it go since it was “used anyway.”. Now some mutual friends think I’m being petty and putting money over friendship.. AITA for being angry and not accepting the $100 as enough?

Lending a valuable item like a MacBook is a leap of faith, but when it’s “lost” with a shrug and a $100 bill, it’s no wonder OP’s fuming. This saga isn’t just about hardware—it’s about trust and accountability. The friend’s cavalier attitude and the measly compensation offer turned a favor into a feud, with mutual friends siding against OP’s “greed.”

Dr. Irene Levine, a friendship expert, notes, “Healthy friendships require mutual respect, especially when borrowing valuables” were later found sold or kept, suggesting possible deceit.

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The mutual friends’ judgment—calling OP petty—ignores the principle: a loan isn’t a gift. Dr. Levine advises setting clear terms upfront, but post-loss, OP’s within rights to demand fair replacement value. The friend’s gaslighting, framing OP as greedy, flips the script on who’s wrong. Legally, small claims court could enforce repayment, as texts prove the loan .

For solutions, OP should issue a written demand for the MacBook’s replacement value ($800-$1,000) by a deadline, citing police or small claims action if unmet. They could also lock the device via iCloud , rendering it useless if sold. Mutual friends need a reality check—would they shrug off a $1,200 loss? OP should prioritize self-respect over appeasing enablers.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

Reddit swooped in like tech support with a vengeance, dishing out advice, outrage, and some sleuth-level tips. It’s like a group chat where everyone’s got a theory and a grudge. Here’s the unfiltered buzz from the crowd:

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mavenmim − NTA. You didn't gift them the macbook, you loaned it. You didn't sell it, and if you were asked to sell it you wouldn't have accepted $100 for it. You are not being unreasonable. I'd look up the value of the same model on eBay and what you'd get for trade in and ask for that as the minimum, but I'd still be annoyed to lose my work and files and to be treated with such disrespect.

This isn't a friend. You don't know what happened to your macbook either (they may still have it, or have sold it). And your emails show that it was a loan if you ever needed to take legal action to get your money back, so they should be acting like a grown up, apologising and paying you a fair price for your loss.

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Timely_Egg_6827 − NTA I don't think they lost it. I suspect they stole it. Also even if used, insurance tends to pay out the replacement value. Also the pettiness of putting money first rests with the person who 'lost' your Macbook. They borrowed something from you and lost you - they owe you a replacement.

Give them back the $100 and tell them to get you a replacement macbook as used ones are so cheap. I'd consider reporting to the police if you have a series of texts and emails asking for it back (and then admitting to still having it). Edit: do you know if they have an ebay seller account or checl the local pawn shops? I'd also block the macbook if you can as if they did sell it, the person they sold it to is likely to bring it back and complain.

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zealot_ratio − 1) they didn't lose it. Can you brick a MacBook like you can a phone? If so, do so.. 2) They're gaslighting you. 3) if they did this, made you pursue them, and then offered far less than it's worth even used, they chose not to be a friend. You have no moral requirement to be a better friend than they are.. NTA

AdministrativeSun364 − Tell them they have xxx days to return say laptop to you or you will be reporting it to the cop/taking them to court for the full value of it. Once money and police are involved, people tone change.

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devsfan1830 − Lost it? They stole that s**t. NTA and call the cops.

me123456777 − Sue them in small claims court if you’ve texted them and they’ve replied you’ve got the proof right there. That’s all you need replacement cost plus interest NTA.

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MediumRare000 − Give them a firm deadline in writing (text/email) to return your MacBook and advise them if not returned in pristine working and physical condition you will be reporting to the Police as stolen with them as the perpetrator.

Also, if you can contact their parents I would, and advise them of the same thing, ie your child borrowed for a few days and you have been super gracious but it ends now, they have stolen your property, it is expensive and either they return it by x date or you are filing against them with the police.

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Do not engage further with any of them besides just copying and pasting your same message back to them if they try to guilt or BS you. You want to make sure it is all in writing or recorded audio (if you can in your state/1 party).

Gather all your other evidence against them, texts, voice memos, anything you have about them borrowing and not returning to you in case you do have to file in small claims. Don’t let people take advantage of you.

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This person and the others saying let it go are not your friends and don’t be afraid to lose them and speak up about what is going on and your confusion on why they would support a blatant thief. Turn the tables and don’t let them or anyone gaslight you.

RaxisPhasmatis − Nta mabooks have gps chips, login to your iCloud n find your device

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reflp − NTA go to and lock your device/mark it as lost. It essentially becomes a brick and you can also track where it is/leave a message in case they sold it

West-Fig-8227 − Info: Yo do you have it connected to any other device to search for it? also NTA- your friend decided to buy it from you when they “lost“ your loan. They need to pay full price or replace same model and year. Tbh I would take them to small claims court If they bawked Further. A judge would 💯 side with you. Any friend that disagrees should burn 1200$ and see how they feel.

These Redditors backed OP’s anger, sniffed out theft, and pushed for legal action or iCloud lockdowns. Some urged a hard line—sue or report—while others suggested flipping the “petty” label back on the friend. But do these fiery takes crack the case, or are they just overheating the drama?

OP’s MacBook loan started as a kind gesture but crashed into a lesson on trust and accountability. Calling out their friend wasn’t petty—it was standing up for fairness in a friendship that failed the stress test. As OP weighs next steps, from legal moves to cutting ties, they’re asking us to chime in: What would you do if a friend “lost” your $1,200 laptop and lowballed you? Drop your thoughts below and let’s keep this digital debate humming!

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