AITA for causing my mom distress by ignoring her because she took my Simba plushy from my bed that my dead dad got me and gave it to my half sister without asking?

A teen’s bedroom holds a treasure: a Simba plushy, a gift from her late father, steeped in love and memory. But when her mother gives it to her half-sister without asking, 17-year-old bonds unravel. The plushy, once a nightly comfort, returns dirty and torn, deepening the rift.

For years, tensions with her mom’s new husband have simmered, and this betrayal stings hardest. Ignoring her mom’s pleas, she stands firm, grappling with grief and loyalty. Is her silence too harsh? Reddit’s weighing in, and we’re diving into this tender tale of family, loss, and boundaries.

‘AITA for causing my mom distress by ignoring her because she took my Simba plushy from my bed that my dead dad got me and gave it to my half sister without asking?’

My dad bought me a Simba plushy before I (F17) was even born. He was a huge Lion King fan and wanted to share that with me. I used to bring Simba everywhere and I had help keeping it in really good condition. I slept with it every night and when my dad died I used to wrap some of his clothes around Simba so he'd smell like dad. I slept with Simba in my bed every night, even up until my mom took it.

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5 years ago my relationship with mom changed. She had decided to settle down again with the guy she's now married to. After dad it had just been the two of us but she had dated some. She was dating a few guys at the same time when she made the decision to settle down.

Two I knew. The guy she's married to and a guy she broke up with to be with her husband. I liked the other guy. We got along pretty well and he was nice. He respected my space when it came to stuff about dad. I never liked her husband.

He's probably not a bad guy but he doesn't respect my space when it comes to stuff about dad and even when he and mom weren't serious he would try to take on a parental role with stuff like telling me what to do, or trying to say what I should do, and even talking about classes I should take in high school that he believed were better for the future.

My mom knew I didn't really like her husband and liked the other guy. She told me she liked her husband more and I needed to accept that. Then she told me she wanted me to make it work with him and build a close familial relationship with him. She told me once they were married there was no space with dad stuff.

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That he'll be a full functioning member of the household and nothing can be out of bounds for him. Then she told me he'd be my new functioning father and it didn't make sense to lock him out of my grief. The three of us did therapy together but it made me dislike him more.

He wanted to give away stuff of dad's that mom hung onto and throw the rest in the garbage and said that I had Simba from dad so I didn't need more to cling onto a memory of someone. The therapist got mom to agree not to. But even the suggestion from him that he could decide what I did and didn't need or should and shouldn't have from dad really pissed me off.

My mom told me to please look at more than that but she knew it made my opinion of her husband worse and it fractured our relationship because she was mad at me and I was disappointed that she couldn't understand. She had my half sister 3 years ago.

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That was another point in our relationship where things changed for the worse because I am entirely indifferent to my half sister being born and her birth was not some happy occasion for me. Two months ago my mom had a miscarriage when she was 17 weeks pregnant.

She decided she was done being pregnant before she miscarried but she was advised to keep that decision by her doctors. So mom's been grieving and struggling. Almost a month ago I came home from school and my half sister had Simba. My mom said she had gone into my room and taken it off my bed because my half sister wanted him after mom left the door open and she didn't see the harm because a child will get more out of a toy like him anyway.

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I told her she gave away the one thing her husband considered fine for me to have from dad. She looked like I slapped her. I told her Simba had been with me my whole life. Dad bought him for me, not her kid with that a**hole she calls a husband. Mom tried to defend her choice but I told her not to talk to me.

She tried talking to me a few times over the next 4 or 5 days but she got no response from me. Then she tried to give me Simba back. He was covered in drool and there was a tear in him. I pointed out the condition he was in without speaking and refused to engage. Mom started getting really distressed. She had him washed and she took him to someone who closed the tear. But it wasn't enough for me to forgive her or talk to her again.

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She sent in my grandma last week to talk to me and ask how long this will continue. I told grandma after what mom did I don't see a point in pretending I still want her in my life. I told her our relationship changed when she chose her husband and it's been downhill from there.

That my mom showed me just how much I mattered to her. I said mom hadn't asked because she knew what I'd say, she knew that Simba was something I treasured and that given her husband's comments about dads stuff and Simba, she had to know it made her giving it away worse.

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And I said she made it worse by trying to give me him back torn and covered in her daughter's slobber. Grandma asked if I'd go to some therapy with my mom to try and work it out or at least let mom talk to me and I said I can't stop her talking but I don't have to listen.

A few days after that my mom's husband stormed into my room and called me a selfish b**ch who was causing mom so much distress after she's been through every mother's nightmare already and already suffered so much in her life. He told me I treated his child like a disease by acting so repulsed by her having Simba for a short while.

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I told him to get out of my room and he told me to get out of his house. Mom heard and stopped him and said I was not being kicked out. But because I just shut my door he started yelling more about how awful I'm being to mom. I don't really care what he has to say. But I can see my mom's not doing good. So I want to ask AITA?

This teen’s silent protest over her mom’s mishandling of her Simba plushy reveals a deep wound in their relationship. The plushy isn’t just a toy—it’s a tether to her late father, a symbol of love she’s fiercely protected. Her mom’s decision to give it away without asking, especially knowing its significance, breached trust. The stepfather’s earlier push to limit her dad’s keepsakes only amplifies the betrayal, framing Simba as a last stand.

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Grief expert Dr. Alan Wolfelt says, “Mourning requires honoring cherished memories.” For teens, sentimental objects like Simba can anchor identity after loss. Mom’s choice, though likely impulsive, dismissed her daughter’s emotional needs, and returning Simba damaged deepened the hurt. The teen’s silence is a boundary, signaling her pain and need for respect.

The broader issue is navigating blended families during grief. About 30% of teens in stepfamilies report feeling caught between loyalties, per family studies. Mom’s push for unity with her husband overlooked her daughter’s need to preserve her dad’s legacy. The teen’s indifference to her half-sister suggests unresolved resentment, which therapy could address.

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She could take Simba back and store it safely, as Reddit suggests, and consider a calm letter to mom: “Simba’s my link to dad; please respect that.” Family counseling, when she’s ready, might rebuild trust.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

Reddit’s community rallied around the teen, offering support and practical ideas, minus the harsh edges. Here’s their revised, toned-down take:

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AnotherRTFan − NTA take Simba back now that he's fixed and hide him somewhere in your room. Tell the therapist what your stepdad said, tell your grandma, tell every trusted adult word for word what he said to you. You don't have to forgive her at all. But for your sake take Simba back and keep him somewhere safe.

iknowsomethings2 − NTA. Are you f**king kidding me?! She let the toy that your father gave to you, bought for you before you were even born be stolen by her other child. F**k that.. Her husband is a POS and your mum is weak and pathetic.. She’s ruined her relationship with her daughter for a man.

Frankly I don’t give a s**t how distressed a grown ass woman is who has treated her daughter like s**t. She can get f*cked.. Is there somewhere else you can go? What about your dads side of the family?. He tried kicking you out, honestly I would just go to other family members and move out.. Go NC with your mum as soon as you turn 18.

Few_Throat4510 − NTA. I’m so sorry your mom has treated you so poorly. You’re the child and she is the adult. It’s not your job to make her feel better. Her husband should not be calling you any curse words. Please tell your grandmother and a school counselor or other trusted adult.

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That is abuse and possibly a precursor to even worse behavior from him. You shouldn’t be going through this and I’m sorry that you are. Your mother’s job is to protect and take care of you and she chose not to do that.. You’ve done nothing wrong.

Sensitive_Ad2681 − NTA... interesting it took until you're almost an adult for her to suddenly pretend to care about your feelings.

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mollypocket7122 − Are you US based? If so, you have like a month left before summer break? Could you spend the summer with your Dad’s family to get some space?

professionaldrama- − NTA. I’m proud of you because you know how to keep your boundaries at this young age even if it’s your mom. You’re going to be just fine because you have a good head on your shoulders, unlike your mom. You’ll be fine, just save up and make an exit plan.

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Answer_The_Walrus − NTA. Reminds me of a similar post from a year ago, Simba plushy and all. I don't get parents/step-parents who thinks it's ok to just give away their kid belongings, let alone a sentimental item.

Different-Leg7609 − From a woman whose mother chose two men over her child, once as a child and the other as an adult, NTA OP! *hugs & best wishes from this internet stranger! Sometimes we are not given the mother we deserve & need but that doesn’t mean that you are the problem. It’s a her problem & is not a reflection on you & your worth! Please follow the others advice and tell your grandma or check in with your dad’s side of the family if there are any.

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FeedsBlackBats − Can you trust your Grandparents to have Simba at their house, or a friend, post it to your Dads family? I'm concerned your Mom's husband is going to try punishing you by destroying it.

cgrobin1 − Your mother stole from you. She allowed memories of your father be taken from you. She expects you to respect HER daughter, while disrespecting YOUR father. Why should you respect her property, when she doesn't respect yours?. Is there anywhere else you can go? Anyone on your Dad's side?. NTA

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These Reddit voices are a chorus of support, but is the teen’s silence the best way forward? Is there room for healing?

This tale of a Simba plushy and a fractured family shows how grief can strain even the closest bonds. The teen’s stand to protect her dad’s memory is a powerful act of love, but her silence risks widening the gap with her mom. Reddit’s call to safeguard Simba and seek support offers a path forward, but healing will take time. So, readers, what’s your take? Would you forgive mom or hold the line? How do you honor loved ones’ memories in a blended family? Share your stories below and let’s keep the heart-to-heart going!

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