I 33M feel like i’m losing my mind from the things my wife F33 does and thinks nothing of?

The sun dipped low, casting a golden glow over the neighborhood park where swings creaked and children’s laughter echoed. For one 33-year-old dad, a routine outing with his 6-year-old daughter unraveled his patience. An innocent playdate morphed into a stinging accusation at home, fueled by a child’s playful fib and a wife’s deep-seated doubts.

His frustration simmered as his wife’s words cut deeper than usual, painting him as unfaithful despite his unwavering loyalty. The weight of his exasperation pulls readers into a relatable tangle of love, insecurity, and parenting chaos. This story unfolds a heartfelt drama, as maddening as it is human, where trust hangs by a thread.

‘I 33M feel like i’m losing my mind from the things my wife F33 does and thinks nothing of?’

today i took our daughter F6 to the park down the street, she plays often with two young boys whose parents we are fimiliar with, today i sat and had a conversation with the boys mother as they played which i have done in the past.

my daughter then got on the circular swing with the one boy and asked me to come push them, before i could get my dog to come with me my daughter yelled “ stop talking to your girlfriend and come push me” i told her “ that’s (boys names) mother don’t be weird”

we come home and my wife gets home from work, i tell her what our daughter did and how awkward it was. she starts taking shots immediately “ oh you have a girlfriend around the corner “ “ maybe that’s why you go to the park”. due to past similar events this already angers me greatly.

i go to shower, my daughter tells my wife that i was sitting there holding hands with the mother and looked like we were in love. totally untrue but she’s 6 years old. I get out of the shower to her on the bed waiting to question me. She says “ can i ask you a question “ i say yes.

she asks if i was holding the mothers hand i say no that is ridiculous how can you think that’s even a possibility. we just talked for all of 5 minutes. she doesn’t back down, she carry’s on with more and says she believes my daughter. i told her to go to the mothers house and talk to her then. like wtf

i hate this, it feels like such an insult and just shows me our whole marriage is b**lshit and she thinks nothing of me. she’s so insecure and always accusing me of things and i just feel like i am going to explode and i can’t take it anymore.. can anyone relate or offer advice on this ?.

UPDATE:. okay so a lot of feedback here, i’ll try to touch on some of the points for clarity.. - initially i did tell my wife that nothing happened it was the continuation that angered me -my wife has what i would call aggressive insecurity, we have been together 13 yrs and she has been like this the whole time.

I HAVE NOT CHEATED. I have 0 relationships with females in my life. I am in construction and told my wife about a situation at work involving one of the site superintendents who happens to be a woman and she questioned me immediately asking if i like her and is she pretty etc.

That’s an example of her typical behaviour. i have been dealing with this for years and i have no mental bandwidth, patience or empathy left to offer her for this behaviour. - my daughter has never said something like this before, and i refuse to blame her. was it wrong yes and i talked to her about it.

Many people are aggressively saying “ of course she believes your daughter “ which is okay, but to continue to believe her after i tell her it’s entirely untrue is not okay. - i have not seen the mother of the boys in at least a month, i had not been to the park in a few weeks.

this is not a common occurrence, and i have never planned a park visit to be social with anyone i go there so my daughter can play and be outside. Sometimes the boys father is there instead who i also have a friendly relationship consisting of small talk every once in a while.

Am i wrong to feel like this constant doubt of my character and essentially accusations of stupidity are something i shouldn’t have to deal with? Like if i was a cheater why would i do it 100’ from my house and in front of my child

This park playdate gone awry reveals how fast miscommunication can erode trust. Insecurity, like the wife’s here, often roots in deeper, unaddressed fears. The husband’s exasperation runs deep, and the daughter’s role adds complexity to the drama.

Psychologist Dr. John Gottman, a leading voice on relationships, states, “Trust is built in very small moments” (source: Gottman Institute). The wife’s choice to trust a child’s fib over her husband’s denial points to a trust gap, worsened by her “aggressive insecurity” over 13 years. His clean record—no cheating, no female friendships—makes her accusations sharper, challenging his integrity.

This reflects a wider issue: insecurity can destabilize even solid marriages. A 2021 study in Journal of Family Psychology linked unresolved jealousy to higher divorce risks. The daughter’s innocent lie amplifies the wife’s fears, showing how kids can unwittingly escalate tensions.

Dr. Gottman’s advice—fostering trust through open, empathetic dialogue—fits here. Counseling could help the couple tackle the wife’s insecurity and the husband’s resentment. The daughter needs gentle guidance to grasp her words’ impact. Small steps toward honest communication could mend this rift.

See what others had to share with OP:

Reddit’s hot takes are as spicy as a summer barbecue! Some users urge addressing the daughter’s lie, seeing it as a red flag needing immediate attention. Others sympathize with the wife’s initial concern, noting a 6-year-old’s story could raise eyebrows.

Many back the husband, arguing that constant accusations reflect deeper trust issues that counseling might resolve. Group therapy is a common suggestion to untangle this mess. These opinions are bold, but they spark debate on whether the marriage is salvageable or if the trust is too far gone.

Arkytez − At any point didnt you stop to think why is your daughter is doing what she is doing? To me this is so much more important than whatever is going on with your wife.

Dry-Butterscotch4545 − You need to address with your daughter the consequences of lying, sooner than later. She’s old enough to know better.. Also, along the same lines, she repeats what she hears/sees, so check yourself and your wife.

lilolememe − Your daughter is lying, and you're nonchalant about it because of her age. You need to find out what's going on because something isn't right here. Your wife has every right to be suspicious. Her 6 year old is lying and making up stories that make you look like you're having an affair.

Why would she think she's capable of making up things like this? I think you guys need to get professional help. Your daughter is lying. Your wife doesn't trust you. You're clearly frustrated with not being trusted. Get help and fix this before you end up getting divorced.

killakate8 − At about 3 months postpartum with my last baby I was at a stoplight near my house and I was so tired and distracted by my new baby fussing behind me that I accidentally left my foot off the brake and gently rolled into the car in front of me.

We both drove to the parking lot ahead of us and we get out and a nice young kid surveys our cars and I'm apologizing profusely, almost in tears, he asks about the kids, everyone's okay, and I was so shaken up he literally hugged me and said everything was okay. Didn't need to exchange insurance or anything.

Well, we get home and my 7yo had witnessed all this and says to my husband, mama tried to marry some guy- she hit his car on purpose to try to get another husband. Like, what? Anyway, that's kids for ya.

RichieJ86 − Feel like you told us the middle of the story.. 'maybe that’s why you go to the park”. due to past similar events this already angers me greatly.'. What's the context on this? Has their been any affairs on either side, or any affairs in previous relationships?

darknessnbeyond − this reminds me of something i read a while ago here on reddit. a kid about the same age as OP’s daughter got pissed at being disciplined for something so she decided to blow up her parents’ marriage by telling one parent the other was cheating on them.

that parent believed her 100%, divorced, and tried to crawl back after it came out the kid had made up the whole thing. needless to say that didn’t go over very well. maybe someone else can recognize the story and link the post.

Sweet_Justice_ − This is a daughter problem not a wife problem. You need to address this with your daughter asap - 6yrs old is well and truly old enough for her to understand that she is lying and trying to cause trouble. Nip that in the bud now! The fact that you completely ignored this glaring point is extremely odd to me.

obooooooo − I don’t think its unreasonable to be wary when your 6 year old daughter is telling her that’s how things went down. I would obviously believe my daughter because why in the name of hell would she be making up lies like that? She’s 6 years old. Kids lie because they are kids, but very few kids are making up stories about their parents having affairs.

Why is your daughter saying all that? This is a problem you need to address with your daughter, not your wife. She’s acting like any normal person would act.. And you certainly did “this shows me our marriage is b**lshit” pretty damn fast. Y’all need group counseling lmao

Absolute_Walnut2976 − Dude wtf? If my 6 year old child told me daddy was holding hands with another woman, I’d believe her and ask you about it too. It’s crazy to me that you’re blaming your wife and calling your marriage b**lshit. 6 is absolutely old enough to know and understand that lying is wrong.

Fi3nd7 − Unreal, I’d immediately plop that kid into the discussion and put them on the hot seat and find out why they said what they said and the implication and damage it’s causing everyone. Your daughter needs to be educated on the impact of words and explain why she did it and if she understands the impact of it.

This story leaves us reflecting on trust, parenting, and love’s fragility under pressure. The husband’s raw anger, the wife’s persistent fears, and the daughter’s fib weave a complex web. Counseling could be a lifeline, but the path forward is murky. Share your stories and advice below—have you navigated a similar storm in your relationship?

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