Final update: Wife kicked my cousins and their friends out after they ‘pranked’ her aita for not stopping her?

What started as a rowdy April Fools’ gathering turned into a marital minefield when a group of cousins thought it’d be a riot to prank a deeply religious wife with a fake cheating scandal. The aftermath? A home thick with suspicion, a wife grappling with betrayal, and a husband caught between family ties and his vow to love and protect. This final chapter, fresh from Reddit, reveals a man’s belated choice to stand by his spouse, but not without a cost.

The wife’s pain runs deep, her trust frayed by a prank that hit her hardest beliefs. The husband’s decision to cut off his cousins comes after heated confrontations, but Reddit’s still buzzing: was it too little, too late? As the couple navigates this rocky path, the saga begs the question: can a marriage heal when trust takes such a hit?

For those who want to read the previous part: Original post, update

‘Final update: Wife kicked my cousins and their friends out after they ‘pranked’ her aita for not stopping her?’

Tldr my i**ot cousins April's fool pranked my wife about me cheating on her and they went so hard on my wife that even if I try to defend them I am at risk of losing my wife I'm really tired of my wife periodically checking my phone and I think that my wife is suspicious of me but at the same time I think I'm wrong for not kicking my cousins out and listening to my wife.

The reason why I was so tolerant and forgiving because I love my cousins and deep down I thought they were just April's fooling my wife and I thought my wife would get over it. i asked my wife what does she want me to do, she said she already told me, I asked her to make it clear to me once again without getting angry and I will do whatever she wants.

My wife says that she's deeply hurt by what my cousins said and she doesn't want them anywhere near us anymore and I should stay away from them as far as I can from my cousins i told her that Im cutting my cousins off and I won't talk to them at all no matter what unless she forgives them.

She cried and screamed at me and she once again said that she didn't marry me only to be told that her husband is in bed with another woman, I told her that I love her and I didn't want to hurt her, i comforted her as best as i could and told her that that she'll never see me with or anywhere near my cousins ever again unless she approves of it.

I think I managed to calm my wife down and if I have to cut my cousins off to keep my life partner in my life then I'll do what's necessary, I think I should've done that long ago and yes I agree I should've listen to her instead of convincing her, my wife is religious and extremely dedicated to me, I was being an ass and I will change that no matter what.

This saga is a stark lesson in the fragility of trust, especially in a marriage rooted in faith. The wife’s ongoing suspicion—evident in her phone checks—reflects a wound that’s not just personal but tied to her religious values, where infidelity is a profound betrayal. The husband’s delay in cutting off his cousins, hoping for reconciliation, only deepened the rift, leaving him scrambling to prove his loyalty.

Dr. Shirley Glass, a noted infidelity expert, wrote in Not ‘Just Friends’, “Trust is like a piece of paper: once it’s crumpled, it can never be perfect again.” The wife’s reaction aligns with this, as the prank crumpled her sense of security. Her demand for distance from the cousins is less about punishment and more about protecting her emotional safety.

Harmful pranks can destabilize relationships. A 2023 study in the Journal of Family Psychology found that trust violations, even non-malicious ones, can reduce marital satisfaction by 25% if not addressed promptly. The husband’s eventual boundary-setting is a step forward, but his initial hesitation fueled his wife’s doubts.

For healing, Glass advocates “radical honesty” and consistent actions to rebuild trust. The husband should maintain no contact with his cousins, openly share his commitment, and consider couples counseling to address lingering insecurities. The wife might benefit from individual therapy to process her hurt.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

Reddit’s peanut gallery is serving up a feast of frustration and tough love, with opinions as sharp as a chef’s knife. Here’s a slice of the community’s unfiltered takes—hold onto your hats! These Reddit zingers hit hard, but do they cut to the core of this marital mess? Let’s dig in!

MelinaCrazyty − Honestly, you should’ve cut off your cousins the moment the prank happened. No joke is worth risking your marriage, and your wife’s trust was shattered by their cruel actions, making it vital that you show her she comes first.

PointLegal5523 − Why are you saying

txa1265 − With each update I get less sympathetic ... cheating is NEVER a joke - I have no clue WHY someone would think that is humorous. Also, despite caring about your cousins, these people nearly destroyed your marriage - AND YOUR WIFE STILL DOESN'T FULLY TRUST YOU!

And you are here half-assing everything. the line

babyitscoldoutside13 − Yap, I can imagine OP telling the cousin -

here4mysteries − I’m new to the story. Your wife was OK with your cousins showing up at your home uninvited with seven other guests. She was OK with entertaining them in her home all day, uninvited. They had her hospitality, her food, her drink, her personal space. And they repay that by telling her that you were cheating on her?. And your response to this was oh it’s OK honey. It was just a prank.

And then when you realized she was seriously upset, your response became oh yeah, that was pretty bad and if *you* can’t forgive them, then we won’t have anything to do with them Why wasn’t your immediate response to kick them out and remove them from your life? Why aren’t you outrageously angry? Why didn’t you immediately speak up for (defend) your wife?

Elliewick − Still YTA, the fact you keep adding 'unless she approves of it', tells you still don't actually feel they are the ones in the wrong. If you truly loved your wife, seeing how much they hurt her should have been enough to cut them off and not ever wanting to speak to them again.

The fact she had to ask you over and over again and even after her being angry and hurt + 2 posts giving you the YTA verdict, you still add

Even_Budget2078 − YTA You are way too lackadaisical about this

They don't respect her, they don't respect your marriage, and they do not respect her As. Your. Wife. That you are cutting them off, but wink wink don't really wanna do it (side glance at the ole ball and chain thrown in, buddy?) says a lot about you and if I was your wife, your b**t would be out the door for that alone.

You either get your head out your b**t and recognize the seriousness of the offense and have your wife's back 100% or own up that think it's

Jazzlike-Scheme-7133 − Dude, she's mad at you because you aren't mad at your cousins. You should be reading them the riot act, be furious. Not some milk toast,

Ironyismylife28 − Update #3 and you are still TA

scout1982 − When your wife divorces you, just know, deep down in your soul, you deserve it.. YTA.

This final chapter underscores how a single bad joke can ripple through a marriage, testing vows and loyalties. The husband’s choice to sever ties with his cousins aims to mend his wife’s broken trust, but the scars linger, raising questions about forgiveness and priorities. Should he have acted sooner, or is his commitment now enough to heal the wounds? Share your thoughts, experiences, or advice in the comments—let’s unravel this knotty tale of love, pranks, and redemption together!

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