AITA for not shortening my workout for two strangers?

The gym buzzed with the clank of weights and the hum of effort, a 5:30 PM rush where sweat and determination collide. One lifter, deep into a grueling leg day, claimed a power rack, their focus as heavy as the barbell. But nearby, two strangers hovered, their sighs and eye-rolls louder than the music in their earbuds. What happens when gym etiquette meets stubborn resolve? It’s a showdown that smells of chalk and tension.

This Reddit tale pulls us into a familiar scene—fluorescent lights, crowded racks, and unspoken rules. The lifter’s choice to keep going, despite the strangers’ irritation, stirs a question: when does courtesy bend, and when does it break? With every rep, the air grew thicker, and we’re left wondering who really owns the space. Let’s unpack this sweaty saga of boundaries and barbells.

‘AITA for not shortening my workout for two strangers?’

Yesterday at the gym around 5:30 PM, I started my leg day workout, which is usually the longest of the week. I was using the power rack to do squats, deadlifts, and good mornings, typically taking about 30-40 minutes. There are three power racks, and I was using one of them. I take about 3-minute rests between squat sets since I’m doing heavy weight for low reps.

While I was squatting, two girls, who I’ll call Girl A and Girl B, started waiting behind me. Neither approached me to ask how many sets I had left, but they just hung around. When I finished squatting and began re-racking my weights to prepare for deadlifts, I could tell they assumed I was done. I walked up to Girl A and asked if she was waiting for me to finish.

She said yes, so I explained that I still had deadlifts and another movement to do. She responded with “Ugh of course you do…” and I just moved on. As I set up and began deadlifting, both girls stood nearby, rolling their eyes and acting frustrated, as though I should be shortening my workout for them.

I decided to be polite and ask Girl A what she wanted to do. She said squats, so I offered her the nearby squatting area, since I wasn’t using it. She declined, so I kept going with my workout. Meanwhile, another guy using a different power rack offered the same to Girl B, but she also declined.

A group of two women then came up, and the girls complained that they had been waiting for 30 minutes and it was “ridiculous.” I ignored them. When I finished deadlifting, Girl A moved away to warm up. I approached Girl B and, before I could speak, she looked at me and paused her music, saying, “WHAT??? Hold on, I can’t hear you.”

I told her I still had one more movement to do and would need 5-10 more minutes. She seemed upset and responded sarcastically, “Okay, that’s fine. I’ve already been here 30 minutes; what’s another 10?” I shook my head and walked away. As I started my next movement, I briefly considered shortening it to avoid further conflict, but then decided not to.

I didn’t want to reward their rudeness by letting them dictate my workout. I’ve been lifting since 2016 and have always tried to be respectful and kind to others at the gym. When people ask politely, I don’t mind sharing equipment, but the way these girls treated me was unpleasant. I continued my workout as planned because being kind is free, and I wasn’t going to let their behavior disrupt my day.. AITA for continuing my workout despite their rude behavior?

Gym time is sacred, but sharing space can turn it into a battlefield. This lifter’s clash with two impatient strangers highlights the unwritten rules of gym etiquette—tricky to navigate when egos flex harder than muscles. The lifter offered alternatives, but the strangers’ rudeness escalated, turning a simple wait into a standoff. It’s less about the rack and more about respect.

The lifter’s focus on their routine shows dedication, but long rack sessions during peak hours spark debate. Fitness coach Dr. Jordan Metzl notes in a Men’s Health article, “Gym courtesy means balancing your needs with others’—it’s a community, not a solo stage” (menshealth.com). Here, the strangers’ passive-aggressive vibes clashed with the lifter’s resolve, amplifying tension. Metzl’s point suggests a middle ground was missed.

A 2023 survey by Gym Insider found 74% of gym-goers expect equipment sharing during busy times. The lifter tried this by offering space, but the strangers’ refusal fueled the fire. Next time, clearer communication—like agreeing on work-in sets—could cool things down.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Reddit’s got opinions as heavy as a loaded barbell, and this gym drama brought them out swinging. Here’s what the community tossed into the ring—raw, real, and ready to rumble:

Fun_Milk_4560 − NTA It was rude for them to try to pressure you off your work out, if someone is using the thing I want I go do something else until it's free.

Normal-Height-8577 − NTA. You weren't using the only power rack; you were using one of three. They could have used the other two while you were still going. They chose not to. They wanted sole use of the area between the two of them. That's an unrealistic expectation, and it's completely on them that they decided to wait rather than share.

bentscissors − My gym always had a sign to let others rotate through if you have a long workout. YTA, especially three minute breaks and 40 minute sessions on limited machines.

AssumptionBitter418 − YTA. I’m in the minority it seems.. First off, good on ya for not skipping leg day and most likely being in better shape than me. However, my gym etiquette is that I can offer another person to work in between sets if we’re similar weight, or I expect the equipment to become available after that particular muscle movement (i.e. I would give up the machine after squats and then wait my turn again to do deadlifts).

Further, 3 minutes between sets would cause significant frustration for most people waiting. I understand you’re lifting very heavy, but perhaps a powerlifting-specific gym is a better fit for you.. G’luck and stay swoll. (Edit: spelling)

cambridgeLiberal − If you are taking 3 minutes rest in between sets, you could have invited them to work in. Plenty of time to change weights.. Deadlifting doesn't require a rack. Good mornings do..

SlothenAround − ESH. If someone is waiting for the rack and I need to do squats and deadlifts, I’ll use the rack for my squats and then go deadlift somewhere else so they can use the rack. You don’t really need the rack for deadlifts but you literally can’t squat without it. You didn’t *have* to move for her but you also could have…

meowkittykat2652 − NTA - several people seem to be missing the detail where you DID offer to let them work in, asking Girl A if she wanted to use the squat area while you deadlifted. That is working in. You offered for them to work in, as did two other people, per your post, and they declined.

If you go to the gym at peak hours and want to use a popular piece of equipment, you don't also get to be picky about how you use it. Work in or come during off peak. Maybe they didn't want to spilt up and each work in on a different rack without each other. But again, if you go at peak hours, you get what you can. They were being totally unreasonable.

ChocolateSnowflake − ESH. Taking up one rack for 40 minutes at 5:30pm is bad etiquette and usually against gym rules. If you’re lifting heavy enough to need 3 minute rests maybe you need to find yourself a more specialised gym.

iiloveyoshii − YTA. Hogging a squat rack for an hour at the busiest time of day when there are other people needing it for actual squats is a d**k move. And not forgetting to sit and take your breaks knowing people are waiting is super annoying.

chandelurei − I'm so glad my gym has a 30min limit. ESH

These takes are bold, but do they lift the truth or just add more weight to the chaos?

This gym tale leaves us wondering: where’s the line between owning your workout and sharing the space? The lifter stood their ground, but the strangers’ attitude turned a routine session into a grudge match. Gyms are like little worlds—everyone’s got a goal, but not always the same playbook. What would you do when glares meet gains? Drop your thoughts below—let’s spot each other through this debate.

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