Update 2: AITAH My ex-fiancée tried to get my wife to cheat on me?

In this latest update, a troubling digital twist has added fuel to an already volatile marital dispute. Just days after a previous post detailed how an ex-fiancée once attempted to disrupt the sanctity of a marriage, new evidence has emerged that deepens the crisis. The husband, who has long maintained that he severed ties with his ex-fiancée, Jess, now finds himself besieged by manipulated images and conflicting testimonies. These new developments are casting further doubt over the reliability of events long past.

The situation has escalated following revelations during a routine art night gathering, when Jess sent a series of photos to the wife, Olivia. These images, allegedly depicting interactions that contradict established timelines, have led to a barrage of upsetting discoveries. With family members and friends providing corroboration—yet also fueling suspicions—a web of digital deceit now threatens to undermine a marriage that once appeared to be on stable footing.

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Update: AITAH My ex-fiancée tried to get my wife to cheat on me?

‘Update 2: AITAH – My ex-fiancée tried to get my wife to cheat on me?’

I wrote a post few days ago regarding my ex-fiancée who be-friended my wife months ago lied to my wife about us meeting 4 years ago, when I actually went to NC with her for more than 7 years. She even sent my wife a few pictures from the time we met. My wife was upset with me because we started dating 5 years ago, and the photos were taken 6 months after we started dating.. 

I want to thank a lot of you for extending support and help. This has been a horrible week that just kept on getting worse. I do not blame my wife for believing Jess. Jess seemed to be a changed person from the girl I broke up 7 years ago. I felt bad about her being in an abusive marriage for almost 3 years with a narcissistic husband.

She got her life back together, was doing great with her work and also started her own business. She had me rooting for her too and I was proud of her journey. I could see why my wife liked her. After Jess sent photos to my wife, I tried every possible thing to prove that the pictures were fake.

I showed them to three acquaintances who told me that they can help me. None of them were able to find any inconsistences with the photos. I also called my parents and my friend who I met during that trip. My mom saw the photo and recognized that the gym photo was taken in the YMCA gym where my parents go.

She remembered that I used their guest passes during that visit. My friend also identified the park where the music festival photo was taken. He confirmed that we had gone there during my visit for a christmas tree lighting ceremony. Things were just getting really confusing as how photos exist between Jess and I at these venues.

Jess on the other hand was comforting my wife telling she did not imply anything when she sent her the photos. She said that she was married at that time, and we just ran into each other a couple of times during that visit. Jess was telling my wife to not overthink the photos and I must have forgotten that we ran into each other.

What calmed my wife down a bit was my mom talking to her and telling her that in no world would I hang out with Jess after all the stuff that happened during our breakup. Things got really messy and there was a reason why she was blocked across everything. My wife agreed with her and told me to just let it go.

However, it was just a horrible feeling as I did not have any real proof that this was fake, and I was just waiting for the other shoe to drop anytime. I finally caught a huge break last night. My wife decided to not go to her painting night with Jess and friends yesterday and told me she just wants to be left alone and wants to read.

I wanted to sit with her, but she told me to go and play with my friends as she wanted to be alone. During our gaming session, I told my 3 closest friends what happened and how there are photos of me and Jess at locations that I actually visited during that trip. The session turned into them bashing Jess (old stories) and how manipulative she is.

After our gaming session was over, my friend Jim called me on phone and told me he wanted to talk about something important about Jess. He asked me if I was alone, as he did not want Olivia to listen in. I told him I need to go to a different room. I put my phone on speaker and went in our bedroom where Olivia was sitting and prompted her to stay quiet.

Jim told me that he has been in contact with Jess for 3 years ago. He said that she was still married but was planning to leave her husband. They knew each other because Jess was my GF all thru college. The initial conversations were just catching up and Jess complaining about her husband.

He told me Jess inquired about me a few times as she had learned I got engaged to Olivia around that time. He said that they have been talking for a while now. Jess also told him about the coincidence that Olivia was in her painting group and how she met me few months ago when I went to pick up Olivia.

She told Jim that Olivia came to her birthday and was heavily drinking and flirting with guys. She even sent him few pictures. There were a few with Jess and Olivia together, and then Olivia hugging and kissing a guy on his cheeks. I asked him to forward me the photos and he sent them to me on Discord.

Jess told him that I am still the same insecure guy and must be tracking Olivia as I showed up at the bar at 10 pm like a parent to pick Olivia. Jess did not know that Olivia had called me from the restroom to pick her up. Jess made a joke to Jim about how ironic it is that I broke up with Jess because she loved to party and now, I am married to a party girl.

I asked Jim why he did not share those pictures with me before. He said that he did not want to stir the pot in my marriage without knowing all the details. I was really mad at Jim at this point and asked him what else did he tell Jess about me. He said not a lot and they barely talked about me.

However, Jess was obsessed with Olivia and would badmouth her a lot. So, Jim might have told her a bit about Olivia like what she does, where she works, etc. I asked Jim did he ever tell Jess about our game nights, and he said he has and how Olivia complains about being bored.

I told Jim to not tell Jess about our conversation. Jim asked me if I not tell anyone that he and Jess are in contact. He said that his wife might get the wrong idea and he just wanted to reach out because things seem to get really weird in my life. Olivia was listening to everything and staring in disbelief at the photos that Jim shared.

As soon as I hung up the phone, she started explaining to me that these were the same guys that Jess called to their table and were buying them drinks. However, she never even stood next to them, let alone hug or kiss them. She also pointed out that her apple watch in the photo was on her wrong wrist.

She was also spooked out that Jess knew about her for almost 3 years, and there was no way she did not recognize her when she joined the painting group. Olivia was also pissed at Jim for talking to Jess and backstabbing me for so many years. She pointed out the fact that Jim was missing for one day when he and his family visited us last year.

Jim was gone for the entire day and came home late at night because he had to work from his office in our city. 15 minutes after our conversation, Jess messaged my wife and told her that they missed her at the painting night, and she will see her next week. Her level of deceit really gave us chills and Olivia was really worried.

Olivia wants to go no contact with Jess, but I am worried that it may not be enough. I also still don't know how Jess knows about what I did when I visited my parents in 2019 and all the locations I went to. I also don't know who else Jess is talking to and sending Olivia's fake photos to show her in bad light.

It's really unnerving and I am just thinking about how I should confront Jess and make sure she never bothers us again. Thanks again for all the help from the community and your messages really helped me keep my sanity during this rough week.

Relationship experts warn that digital manipulation can blur the lines between fact and fiction, complicating trust even further in a fragile marriage. They advise that when altered images or contradictory digital evidence emerges, it is crucial to secure independent verification—such as forensic analysis—to prevent unfounded suspicions from escalating into full-blown crises.

Cybersecurity professionals highlight that with today’s sophisticated digital tools, it is entirely possible to create realistic yet entirely fake photo evidence. Their recommendation is that couples facing such discrepancies seek expert opinions from credible digital forensic analysts before making any major decisions regarding their relationships.

Additionally, experts emphasize the importance of maintaining open communication between partners when faced with digital misinformation. By discussing concerns calmly and transparently, couples can better determine whether the unsettling evidence is a deliberate attempt at manipulation or a mere misunderstanding that can be resolved with dialogue and professional verification.

Finally, psychologists note that unresolved issues from past relationships can resurface unexpectedly, especially when coupled with digital interference. They advocate for professional counseling to help both parties navigate the emotional turmoil these new allegations stir up, ensuring that trust—and not suspicion—remains the foundation of the marriage.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

The Reddit community has erupted with strong opinions on this unfolding saga. Some users argue that the ex-fiancée, Jess, has a long history of manipulative behavior and that her persistence is a clear red flag, demanding immediate and decisive action.

Others express concern over the reliability of digital evidence and urge both parties to seek forensic analysis before drawing any conclusions. The discussion is heated—with many warning that if Jess’s deceptive tactics continue unchecked, the marriage could quickly unravel.

Material_Cellist4133 − Ummm….anyone going to tell Jim’s wife? I mean there is a reason why he doesn’t want anyone to know he is in contact with Jess.. Might be time to file for a protective order.

Odd_Welcome7940 − I dont like to kick people when they are down but my god your wife owes you such a huge apology. Like an earthquake moving hysterical bonding apology. You better collect on that once your safe and in the clear.

Tfuentexxx − Part 3 of the Dumb Wife saga.... I do not blame my wife for believing Jess.. Hmmmm... If being dumb was a good excuse, then half or the prisons in the world would be empty.. Olivia was also pissed at Jim for talking to Jess and backstabbing me for so many years. The f**king double standard and hypocrisy of his wife.

She is mad at Jim, while she was playing best buddies with crazy Jess knowing what she had done to her husband in the past, and believing and trusting her more than her own husband. She is way beyond dumb now, she is dangerous. Also, everyone keeps ignoring wife's blame in all this.

Instead, top comment is a deflection talking about the new villain of the story, Jim, while ignoring the two real ones, Jess and Olivia. If OP's wife had respected his take on being friend with a woman who tried to ruin her marriage, and even more knowing this woman was his ex, nothing of this would have happened. But the villain has to be Jim. See a pattern here?

debicollman1010 − I’m so confused then! How to hell are the pictures being done!????

Insolent_Aussie − What In the Days of Our Lives is going on here?

hangonEcstatico − Don’t confront Jess. Avoid her. No response is strong. What you should do is inform family and friends that you have some proof she is actively trying to ruin your marriage. And do ask if she has done anything similar to anyone else. Ask everyone who might know her and all acquaintances you have in comm9n.

Meechgalhuquot − The plot thickens. If it's real I wish you the best.

Appropriate-Mud-4450 − UpdateMe! This Jim dude is not kosher. I bet Dollar on him being in on the whole thing. Might even have an affair with this woman and is bound to help breaking up OP and his wife.. I would definitely get his wife a hint... There is more to it.

[Reddit User] − Get a lawyer to file an emergency order of protection against Jess between her and you and your wife. Save all of these photos and contact your county's prosecutor's office and start building a case for stalking and harassment, copy of the emergency protective order in hand.  You and your wife need to ghost and block Jess immediately.

Trust me, once Jess realizes what's going on, she's going to go apeshit and drop her nuclear bomb of deep fake photos of you and her apparently having s**. This couldn't have worked out better for you.

Your wife now knows Jess is not to be trusted and anything else coming from her is going to look desperate and pathetic. Get you and your wife into marriage counseling and individual therapy. Your wife still owes you a massive, massive apology. Updateme!

AbbeyCats − I love how every single person suggested that he go to a webpage to determine if the photos were photoshopped and then he After Jess sent photos to my wife, I tried every possible thing to prove that the pictures were fake. I showed them to three acquaintances who told me that they can help me.

None of them were able to find any inconsistences with the photos. Like the photos were so clearly photoshopped, it's easy to determine that they're photoshopped, everyone suggested that he get them checked to see if they were photoshopped, but instead OP consulted

This means that this entire post and saga is fake. Nice little dramatic piece of writing, but it's honestly all over the place and makes little/no sense.. Kudos to you OP for tricking so many people.

This update underscores the painful complexities modern technology introduces into personal relationships. With manipulated digital images and conflicting eyewitness accounts, the couple now faces a challenging decision: Is it time to cut off all contact with a former flame who may be actively undermining their trust, or can professional help and open dialogue mend the fractures caused by digital deceit?

Readers are encouraged to share their insights and personal experiences dealing with technology-fueled relationship turmoil. In a world where pixels can distort reality, how do you safeguard trust in a marriage?

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