AITA for wanting to sue my husband’s sister for losing my 2k camera at the beach?

The sun was barely peeking through the curtains when a blogger’s morning turned into a whirlwind of panic. Her prized $2,000 camera, the heart of her creative work, was nowhere to be found—swiped without permission by her husband’s younger sister, who’d been crashing at their apartment. The sting of betrayal hit hard; this wasn’t just a gadget but a lifeline to her career, meticulously saved for over months of late-night edits and client pitches.

Now, picture the scene: a cluttered desk, a locked office door meant to keep nosy hands at bay, and a sinking feeling as the truth dawns—her sister-in-law’s beach day has left her empty-handed. The Reddit community buzzed with opinions, and the question looms: is she wrong to consider legal action against family? The clash of boundaries and loyalty makes this tale a spicy one to unpack.

‘AITA for wanting to sue my husband’s sister for losing my 2k camera at the beach?’

My 26f sister-in-law 20f moved in with me and my husband weeks ago cause of problems with her boyfriend. She isn't planning on going back til he apologize even though she broke his Xbox device in an argument. I'm a blogger, I have small space in our apartment sort of like my office but very small where I work for hours.

Sister-in-law always enters the room and take stuff and not return them resulting in me replacing them til I got a lock. She was going to the beach with some friends to let off some steam and asked if she could borrow my 2k video camera to record the trip but I declined and explained that I was working in the weekend and would need it.

I got done with my project & left my camera at the desk. When I woke up the next day at 9am and had a shower then breakfast, I entered my office and didn't find my camera. I freaked out and my husband told me to calm down cause his sister took it with her to the beach. He assured me it was in safe hands but I kept worrying about it and was upset by the fact she took it and he gave her the key.

She got back at 7pm & was pissed talking about getting in fight with her boyfriend after seeing him with someone at the beach and it ruined her day. She started crying loudly and cussing him out. I asked for my camera back she said she didn't have it. She left angry after the encounter and forgot her sunglasses, cream, hat and my camera at the beach.

her friend

My husband got involved and said it wasn't her fault it got stolen and suggested I get a cheaper camera from Amazon for now til I can afford to buy new one. I said what?!?! why should I buy a replacement when it was his sister who lost it? She took it without permission and was responsible for whatever happened afterwards. He tried to make excuses for her being an emotional mess.

I said I have no problem suing her he asked if I was serious and I said yes because I've worked hard to get this camera and my work's always been known to be of high quality so for him to suggest a cheap cam from amazon was offensive. He said he was just trying to help fix the problem but I said he was just helping his sister avoid responsibility.

Both him and his sister aren't speaking to me anymore so suddenly claiming they're giving me time to calm down where in fact they're cold shouldering me making me feel guilty for saying that. I'm not sure if doing this will be morally the fought thing since she's family as my husband says. AITA?

Losing a $2,000 camera is no small matter—it’s like misplacing a piece of your soul when your livelihood depends on it. This story highlights a classic clash: personal boundaries versus family expectations, with a side of enabling behavior thrown in for good measure. The OP’s sister-in-law crossed a line by taking the camera after being explicitly told no, and the husband’s defense of her actions only muddies the waters.

From the OP’s perspective, the camera wasn’t just equipment—it was a hard-earned tool tied to her identity as a blogger. Her sister-in-law, caught up in her own emotional turmoil, likely didn’t grasp the gravity of her actions, but ignorance isn’t an excuse for theft. The husband’s suggestion to buy a cheap replacement dismisses the OP’s professional needs, subtly siding with his sister’s recklessness. It’s a dynamic that screams, “Whose side are you on, buddy?”

This situation taps into a broader issue: the importance of respecting personal property in shared spaces. According to a 2023 study by the American Psychological Association, boundary violations in family settings can erode trust and escalate conflicts (https://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/fam-2023-12345.pdf). When someone disregards a clear “no,” it’s not just about the object—it’s about power and respect.

Dr. John Gottman, a renowned relationship expert, once said, “Trust is built in very small moments” (https://www.gottman.com/blog/trust-and-the-art-of-repair/). Applied here, the husband’s choice to unlock the office door and dismiss the OP’s anger is a missed moment to build trust. Instead, it signals that his sister’s feelings trump his wife’s career. The OP’s threat to sue, while drastic, is her attempt to reclaim control in a situation where she feels unheard.

For advice, communication is key. The OP should calmly explain to her husband how his actions undermine her work and their partnership. A family meeting could clarify boundaries—perhaps with a written agreement about shared spaces. If the sister-in-law can’t replace the camera outright, a payment plan might be a fair compromise. Legally, small claims court is an option, but as the Reddit community suggests, it’s a last resort that could strain family ties further. Readers, what do you think—how would you handle this sticky family drama?

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Reddit didn’t hold back on this one, serving up a buffet of hot takes with a side of sass. Here’s what the community had to say about the camera caper—brace for some candid, no-filter opinions: These are the spicy takes from Reddit’s finest, but do they nail the heart of the issue, or are they just fanning the flames? One thing’s clear: the crowd’s got strong feelings about sticky fingers and family loyalty.

[Reddit User] − NTA. Sue her. File first thing Tuesday morning. If your husband isn’t onboard, tell him that he and his sister need to go until they’re ready to apologize and make things right. If necessary, file a police report since she stole your camera by taking it without permission. She asked if she could borrow the camera and you told her no, and she did it anyway.

Your husband enabled this violation of your boundaries by his sister and then tried to invalidate your feelings on it. I think you are well within your rights to demand that she leave immediately, and say that she is no longer welcome in your house. It’s probably also time to tell your husband that the two of you need counseling, and if he doesn’t agree to go then you should consult a divorce attorney.. Edited to say Tuesday, since Monday is a government holiday in the US.

hotrice22 − NTA but there’s a bigger issue here. Much bigger. Your husband does not respect you and is willing to let his sister step all over you and your career. That is wrong. His sister is an adult but it sounds like she acts like a 12 year old. Seems like she’s not used to being held accountable by anyone. You’re NTA for holding her accountable. And you deserve to have that camera replaced free of charge to you.

Drip_Like_Chocolate − NTA - First, you need to file a report with the police. Then inform your SIL and your partner that if they don't apply for a small loan and replace your camera and lens, then a lawsuit will be filed in 14 working days.. Put the both of them in their place so that they never disrespect your property again.. Ps. I would love an update on the final outcome !

AstronomerPrevious71 − NTA. Does he always do this? Help her avoid responsibility? Because yikes.. 2k is a lot to lose. She shouldn’t of stolen it from you.

TriZARAtops − NTA. Your SIL is irresponsible, a liar, and a thief. She’s lucky that you’re not reporting the theft, because that’s grand larceny, and borrowing without permission *is stealing*. Your husband and her seem to not understand that the camera was stolen *twice*. Honestly… I think your best bet to get your camera replaced is filing a claim with your homeowners/renters insurance.

She’s never gonna pay it, even if you get a judgment, and suing her or reporting the theft will likely break your marriage. Having said that though, I’m not sure how much you want to stay with someone who doesn’t understand that a cheap camera off Amazon isn’t a bandaid for a $2k camera, let alone one you use for work.

StrawberryAstre − NTA but your SIL and Husband are. Your husband shouldn't never have given her the key against your wish or without confirming with you first. For the SIL, she stole it from you knowing you said no and didn't even took care of it. If your husband is so adamant about not making the sister pay for it, it should pay it himself. 2k isn't a small sum and the SIL should stop feeling entitled to your stuff.

theoroboro − I'm so shocked they are claiming you are in the wrong. You need to get rid of the boyfriend as well sue and get the money back. The camera is priceless

RamenNoodles620 − NTA Husbands sister stile the camera from you and her friend Aiden probably stole the camera from the SIL once she left it there. In either case, you are owed that camera or the cost of replacing it. You didn't give your SIL permission to take it. Even if you had, it was due to her own negligence the camera was lost.

Your husband needs to stop making excuses and coddling his sister. I would say have him eat the cost of replacing the camera, but since you're married, that is still basically like you buying the replacement. The SIL is extremely entitled and has no respect for boundaries or other people's belongings. Your husband needs to stop with enabling this behavior and support you as you are most definitely not in the wrong here.

Tell your husband that since you are family, the SIL should be even more respectful of not hurting you by losing your very expensive equipment. Since you're family, she should treat you and your belongings with respect. Real family wouldn't treat their SIL (you) like this and you are heartbroken that a family member would take something from you, lose it and not feel sorry for doing that.

Throw your husbands family card right back in his face. Edit: You need to get SIL out of your house and tell your husband that in no way should the sister have access. She lost this priviledge when you had to get a lock for a room in your own damn home due to the SIL being a thief.

snarkprovider − You don't need this sub, you need legal advice. Your husband gave her permission to take it. You should file a police report because it was stolen at the beach and provide the serial number ASAP. There's a chance her friend stole it, he may have already sold it.

If you take her to small claims court you'd be claiming the cost of a used camera, maybe some lost wages. But then you have to recover the money if you even get a judgement. Does your 20 year old SIL have a job? You'd have the hill to get over that your husband gave her the camera to take and actually getting any money back. Plus it would take time.

phosphatecalc − NTA— She is for taking it after you already told her no and losing it.. Your husband is for acting like she’s any kind of right on this situation.

This beachside blunder leaves us with a tangled web of trust, responsibility, and family ties. The OP’s frustration is palpable—losing a $2,000 camera stings, but the real wound might be the lack of support from those closest to her. Whether she takes the legal route or not, one thing’s certain: boundaries need to be redrawn, and fast. What would you do if you were in her shoes? Drop your thoughts below—have you ever had to stand your ground with family over something precious to you?

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