FINAL UPDATE AITAH for not invinting my ex-husband’s wife at my dauther’s birthday party because she told me not to?

The compelling story of a mother navigating the challenges of co-parenting with an ex-husband whose new wife allegedly bullied their daughter has reached its final and decisive update. The culmination of events has led to a significant shift in the family’s dynamics, with the ex-husband finally taking action to prioritize his daughter’s well-being.

This concluding chapter reveals the incident that served as the ultimate catalyst for change, the ex-husband’s decision to end his marriage, and the steps being taken to foster a healthier future for the children involved.

For those who want to read the previous part: Update 2 AITAH for not invinting my ex-husband’s wife at my dauther’s birthday party because she told me not to?

‘FINAL UPDATE AITAH for not invinting my ex-husband’s wife at my dauther’s birthday party because she told me not to?’

Thank you for all the support. Final Update : Hi again! y'all ask for an update. Here you go : My ex-h : Earlier in the week, he asked if he could come by,saying that he had something important to tell me. He told me that last friday M junior got into trouble at school for cursing at a girl.

Long story short : he confessed his fellings to a girl (the niece of the director), she rejected him. Apparently, he started shouting insults at her that no 6-year-old should know, let alone say. Because of this incident and our daughter's situation he decided to divorce M. She would be served the divorce papers next week.

He is also going to pay M in therapy because he still wants her to have a relationship with their son.. We (ex-h,daughter,me) will also be attending family therapy together. \*My daughter : She is happier now, and that's the only thing that matters to me. For the summer I am going to take her to Japan to see my side of the family !. Precision 3 :

1. I am still going for full custody of my daughter with visitation the week-end. If and only IF Mjunior's behaviour improves, I will let him and my daughter interact.. 2. He (my ex) is going for full custody of his son. 3. I still don't trust my ex-h. I am keeping my eyes on him, and how he will raise my daughter.

I don't know why people would assume that I am going to nice with him. Am I polite? Yes. Nice? No. 4. I am not going for more custody because he wants his son. Because he recently got a promotion so works more. He doesn't have the time to take care of our daughter on the week days so I take her.

5. Someone asked me our races (for some reason??). I am Japanese, like my ex-h, and M is white (French). 6. Like I said I am Japanese but was raised in France so French is my first language, than Japanese, than English (sorry for any mistakes)

The final update in this situation offers a sense of resolution and underscores the significant impact of a child’s well-being on parental decisions. The fact that the ex-husband’s son exhibited similar negative behaviors to those allegedly displayed by his mother towards his half-sister appears to have been a pivotal moment. This incident likely served as a stark and undeniable consequence of the environment fostered within the ex-husband’s home.

Dr. Laura Markham, a clinical psychologist and author specializing in parenting, often emphasizes the importance of parents taking responsibility for the emotional climate of their household. The ex-husband’s decision to divorce M and pursue therapy for her indicates a growing awareness of the negative impact her behavior has had, not only on his daughter but also on his son.

The agreement to attend family therapy is a positive step towards healing and establishing healthier co-parenting dynamics. This will provide a safe space for the ex-husband, his ex-wife, and their daughter to address the emotional fallout from the past events and build a more supportive future.

The mother’s continued pursuit of full custody, while allowing for visitation, reflects her commitment to ensuring her daughter’s stability and safety. Her cautious approach to reintroducing interaction with the half-brother based on improved behavior is a sensible boundary that prioritizes her daughter’s comfort and well-being. The planned trip to Japan offers a wonderful opportunity for the mother and daughter to bond and create positive new memories.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

The Reddit community’s reaction to the final update has been overwhelmingly positive, with many users expressing relief and satisfaction at the outcome. Commenters congratulated the mother and daughter, and many voiced their approval of the ex-husband’s decision to divorce M.

The community also commended the mother for her strength and determination in protecting her daughter and wished them well on their upcoming trip to Japan. While some users expressed continued skepticism towards the ex-husband, the overall sentiment was one of hope for a brighter future for the mother and daughter.

Bonnm42 − Glad your ex finally pulled his head out of his arse when it came to M!

Ladyvett − Congratulations to you, your daughter, and the ex husband (for finally getting a clue).

[Reddit User] − I’m glad your ex came to his senses about his stbxw. She sounds awful and is raising her son to be just as narcissistic and entitled as she is. I hope the therapy sessions work out and things get into a much happier place and routine for everyone!

Remarkable-Low-643 − Whatever you do, don't let that ex husband try again with you. He can have a relationship outside of you.. No matter what he does now, he did cheat on you.

SnooWords4839 − Congrats!! I'm sorry your daughter has the evil stepmom, but even better your ex is leaving the b\*tch.. Enjoy your time in Japan!

[Reddit User] − Apparently, I am a sneaky B-word who is bitter about her affair with my ex-husband.. affair with my ex-husband. You should have lead with this. You also should have gone for full custody from day 1. That horrid woman doesn't deserve to be anywhere near your daughter,

and I'm glad your ex finally got at least enough sense to leave her. It still doesn't mean that he'll raise your daughter to be a good, trustworthy person who keeps her word, but if you insist on not going for more custody at least you can try to imprint that upon her.. Congratulations.

LittleCats_3 − Honestly a divorce was the only choice that ex-husband had with M. I hope he is able to help his son because his mother has completely brainwashed him. He’s 6 and acting like this with his sister and now other kids it’s disturbing. I hope therapy helps.. I’m so glad that you got your daughter out of that situation.

Opposite-Fortune- − I’m still not over the affair partner calling *you* a home wrecker, after abusing the poor kid whose home she wrecked. She’s just a horrible person and your ex sounds like an i**ot.

mustang19671967 − Just a question , when it was 50/50 why not your time it’s a bday party for your side and on his time he can do that . I know it’s harder for thanksgiving and Xmas just the schedule can be worked out.

Lazuli_Rose −  M then told me that she accepts not going to the party but still wanted to see my daughter blow out her candles on her actual birthday. When my daughter blew out the candles, M junior decided that the good thing to do would be to smash my daughter's face into the cake....(To be honest, if this was not a kid, I would be in prison.)

He and M burst out laughing while my daughter was crying. So that was M's plan all along. To bully and try to embarrass your daughter. I'm so glad your daughter doesn't have to deal with that anymore. A cheater who helped to break up a marriage finally gets there just desserts.

The final chapter of this family’s story brings a sense of closure and relief. The ex-husband’s decision to divorce M, prompted by his son’s concerning behavior, marks a significant step towards prioritizing the well-being of his children. The agreement to pursue therapy for M and attend family therapy together offers a pathway to healing and healthier co-parenting.

What are the long-term effects of growing up in a household with a toxic dynamic between step-parents and children? How important is it for parents to recognize and address bullying within their families, regardless of who the perpetrator is? What role can therapy play in helping blended families navigate complex issues and build healthier relationships? Share your thoughts and experiences on these important aspects of family well-being.

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