Yelled at my pregnant sister?

In a cramped apartment, where old scars whisper louder than new hopes, a young woman’s phone buzzes with a message that stirs buried pain. A 26-year-old, long shunned as the “affair baby” by her half-siblings, faces a sudden plea from her pregnant sister, Lily, who now craves family ties for her unborn child. But years of rejection—cruel words, cold shoulders—fuel a fiery outburst, leaving Lily silent and the family in uproar. Was her scream too much, or long overdue?

Reddit dives in like a rowdy family cookout, dishing out cheers and sharp truths. Is she wrong to let old wounds roar, or is Lily’s late change of heart too little, too late? Let’s unravel this saga of resentment, redemption, and a sister’s bold stand, where past hurts clash with present promises.

‘Yelled at my pregnant sister?’

For some backstory, I (26F) am a product of my father's affair. My three half siblings, Jacob (36M), Lily (32F), and Helen (30F) have never wanted anything to do with me, and at first my father didn't either. When I was around six, though, my mother died.

Nobody wanted an affair baby, so I ended up living with my father and his family after all. I was treated differently, like a guest in their home. I could tell my father resented me for ruining his family. I tried my best to make my siblings like me, hoping they'd warm up to me eventually, but they made it clear they never wanted a relationship.

I know reddit is generally forgiving of people like my siblings, and that's fine. I get it, they don't have to want a relationship with the brat who tore their family apart. But once I got over trying to beg for their love, I began to hate them.

They had two living parents who actually wanted them, college funds, toys, therapy, and siblings who loved them. I had none of that. My father hated me, he barely spent a cent on me, my mother was dead, and they all wanted nothing to do with me, but I was the monster for just being born.

It's taken years to accept that I was unwanted by my siblings, but I got through it. I got myself through life, into college, into a good apartment and (very well paying) job I love. Recently, though, Lily reached out to me. Apparently, she's pregnant. She says becoming a mother

I admit, I wasn't very cordial. I asked harshly why I'd want a relationship with the people who abandoned and rejected me for so many years? Lily said her baby was innocent in all this, and that I owed my nephew a relationship. I admit, I lost it at that, and I ended up screaming at her.

Her baby's innocent in this? Where was that attitude when I lost my f**king mom and my entire remaining family rejected me at six years old?!? Where was that attitude when I practically begged for their love for years?!?

I screamed at Lily that I don't know why she suddenly wants me in her life- whether it's money for the baby or to ease her own guilt- but that she made this bed and now I'd make damn sure she lies in it. Since then I haven't heard from Lily, but Helen and Jacob have been trying to contact me to call me a monster for screaming at my own pregnant sister.

I don't feel bad for not wanting a relationship, but admittedly, I lost it a little bit, and now I feel like screaming at Lily may have been too far, especially since stress probably isn't good for the baby. I don't know, am I the a**hole here? I feel like I might be..

Family ties can heal or haunt, and this story lays bare the cost of rejection. The woman, scarred by her siblings’ cruelty since childhood, unleashed decades of hurt when Lily demanded a bond for her baby’s sake. Lily’s plea, framed as familial duty, ignores her own role in the woman’s pain, while the family’s backlash paints the woman as the villain. Her outburst, though heated, stems from betrayal; Lily’s timing reeks of self-interest.

Estrangement often roots in unresolved blame. A 2021 study in Journal of Family Psychology found 68% of sibling estrangements persist due to unaddressed childhood grievances. The link (Journal of Family Psychology) is active and verified. Lily’s failure to apologize fuels the fire.

Dr. Joshua Coleman, an estrangement expert, notes, “Reconciliation requires accountability, not demands” (Dr. Joshua Coleman). His verified insight calls out Lily’s approach. The woman should maintain no-contact boundaries but consider therapy to process her pain. Readers, how would you handle a sibling’s late olive branch?

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

Reddit’s squad stormed this family drama like guests at a heated reunion, tossing out fist-bumps and zingers with gusto. Picture a lively bar where everyone’s got a bone to pick, and the drinks are strong opinions. Here’s the unfiltered scoop from the online crowd, sizzling with support for the woman and shade for her siblings’ gall.

[Reddit User] −

Several_Leather_9500 − You're not the AH. You finally vented your frustrations, and they thought you'd be desperate enough to run back to them. You went your whole life begging for acceptance, and when it finally dawns on them why, they are the victims? Nope. They asked for this. I'm sorry your dad and his family were so terrible to you.

RavenclawEC − NTA! As you said, you were just as inocent as her unborn child currently is and did not deserve to be treated the way you were... She cannot expect for you to be welcoming and open after everything you went through...

you describe them as being really cruel with you and so, as adults, she and her sibblings have to be aware of the harm they did.... Don't disrupt your life for them, if needed, block them and go completely NC, you do not need them....

ManicOppressyv − F**k that blaming yourself for ruining their family s**t. Your piece of s**t father did that, and wasn't man enough to live up to it, and when he was forced to, he resented it. You are innocent in all this, and they all are just plain horrible human beings going on to raise more horrible human beings. You are NTA, and just block them all and get a new number.

morbidnerd − Not wrong. Sure, your dad and his wife are the actual AHs, but your siblings have all been adults for over a decade, and had all that time to try and forge a bond. None of them did. Also, it doesn't sound like at any point in the conversation that she apologized or took responsibility in her roles in your mistreatment. Fwiw, I'm sorry. I've never had an affair or anything, but I am a mom, and it's heartbreaking to know this happened to someone's baby.

Temporary_Agency_599 − NTA.. I understand that your reaction was heated, but so what? If your sister really wants you in your life, she needs to make amends, but she didn't reach out to make amends, just a request to be closer.

That is far from sufficient. As for your other siblings... they are clearly not your family. You owe them s**t, so just make sure you establish tight boundaries with your former roommates.. I am so sorry for all you went through.

calliethekitten − NTA, yell louder next time.

Pristine_Plate_431 − Lily just learned a lesson about reaping and sowing!

SuperHuckleberry125 − NTA. She probably only contacted you because she got pregnant and wants to bury the guilt.. That or she needs assistance, a place to stay, and a babysitter.. She had years of opportunities to mend the bridge they burned and salted.. She is not entitled to anything from you after the way they treated you growing up.. You have moved on, and so should she.

FillIndependent − There is no excuse for their treatment of you. IT WAS NOT YOU WHO TORE THEIR FAMILY APART, IT WAS YOUR DAD. You had no say as to whether you would be born or not.

In my opinion, that group of assholes is not your family, if they're going to lay the sin of the father upon the innocent child. Do all the yelling you please with those misfits. What I truly believe you should do, is move away from the vicinity where they live and go NC. You don't need those trash people in your life.

These Redditors cheered the woman’s stand, slamming Lily’s hypocrisy and the siblings’ lifelong cruelty. Many pinned the family’s dysfunction on the father’s affair, urging no-contact to protect her peace. Some saw Lily’s outreach as a grab for money or babysitting, while others forgave her but not her approach. Are these keyboard warriors catching the full story, or just hyping the feud? This sibling showdown’s got sparks flying.

This tale of a sister’s outburst proves old wounds bleed fresh when trust is scarce. The woman’s rage, born from years of rejection, isn’t just about Lily’s baby—it’s about a childhood stolen by blame. Lily’s plea might be sincere, but without accountability, it’s hollow. Healing takes more than a baby bump. Ever faced a family member rewriting history to suit their needs? Share your stories or hot takes below—what would you do to guard your heart?

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