[UPDATE] I (19F) have a date (19F) tonight. She’s *visually impaired. How can I make the date go well?

In the warm glow of a frozen yogurt shop, a 19-year-old woman’s nerves melt away as she shares laughs and flavors with a girl who stole her heart. Their first date, a milestone for both as they explore their attraction to women, unfolds with sweet surprises and genuine connection. The date’s visual impairment—blind in one eye, low vision in the other—adds a layer of care, but their chemistry shines through, proving love speaks louder than challenges.

This heartwarming update builds on her earlier quest to make the evening perfect, now brimming with giddy excitement and plans for more. This story invites us into a whirlwind of young romance, where thoughtfulness and courage pave the way for a budding bond.

For those who want to read the previous part: I (19F) have a date (19F) tonight. She’s *visually impaired. How can I make the date go well?

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‘[UPDATE] I (19F) have a date (19F) tonight. She’s *visually impaired. How can I make the date go well?’

I wanted to wait a few days before I updated you guys, just because it was a first date and we didn't know each other previously. I wanted her to still be talking to me for a few days afterwards.. ​ So, I picked her up from her house and I was in awe of how beautiful she looked.

She got in and we figured out where to get fro yo, and when we got to the store, she asked me to read all the flavors to her. Of course, I did, then grabbed us some sample cups. She got pistachio, lavender blueberry, and either vanilla or classic tart. She left the last one a secret to me.

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I got classic tart and the lavender blueberry with some blueberries on top. We started the conversation on our frozen creations and delved into deeper conversation. Unfortunately, there were some loud little kids so we could barely hear each other, but we still enjoyed each other's company.

We got back in the car, and I went to drop her off, and she invited me in to watch a movie! She wanted to spend more time with me, yes!! She handed me the remote and said to pick whatever, so I picked one of my favorite scary movies, and started it.

During the opening scene she brought up the fact if I've ever been around someone who couldn't see. I told her no, and we kinda got back into the movie, bringing up odd conversation here and there. After the movie, I went home, pretty giddy from the experience.. ​

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We're still talking, thankfully, and we're planning on when to meet up next. She's just sick right now, so it's hard to plan around that. I'm excited for our next date!. \*changed title to fit her disability TLDR; The date went amazingly and we're planning for date #2 and I really had nothing to worry about in the end.. ​

EDIT: I see a lot of people mentioning my boyfriend, which yes I do have. We're in an open relationship and he wants me to explore my sexuality before we settle down, and my date was aware of our situation. We've had a lot of talks and conversations since. Maybe I should update the post I made about him?

A first date blossoming into plans for a second is a triumph of connection, especially when navigating a partner’s visual impairment. The young woman’s thoughtful gestures—reading yogurt flavors, keeping the vibe light—created a welcoming space for her date. Their shift to a cozy movie night, sparked by an invitation to extend the evening, shows mutual comfort and trust, crucial for a new romance.

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This reflects a broader theme: inclusive relationships thrive on communication and respect. A 2023 survey by the American Foundation for the Blind found 65% of visually impaired individuals value partners who ask about their needs without assumptions. Her openness to learn, like discussing her date’s experience with blindness, fosters authentic connection.

Dr. Georgina Kleege, a visually impaired scholar and advocate, notes, “Inclusion means seeing the person first, not the disability, while being ready to adapt”. Kleege’s perspective praises the woman’s balance of normalcy and subtle accommodations, like ensuring her date knew she was present before touching.

For their next date, she should continue asking gentle questions, like “What’s easiest for you here?” to tailor plans. Exploring audio-based activities, like a podcast night, could deepen their bond. Her honesty about her open relationship, shared with her date, sets a foundation for trust. With humor and patience, this romance has room to grow.

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Here’s how people reacted to the post:

The Reddit community erupted with warmth, celebrating the date’s success and the woman’s thoughtful approach. Many praised her for treating her date as an equal while being mindful of her visual impairment, like reading flavors aloud.

Commenters with similar experiences shared tips, such as narrating on-screen text during movies. Some noted the trust her date showed by inviting her in, urging her to keep being authentic. The consensus was one of joy, with hopes for a thriving second date.

ohNoThrowThisAway − aw, this is super cute! congrats, sounds like a lovely date!

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monkeymind1144 − This is particularly heart warming for me as the guy I’m with is also visually impaired. I had never realized before that to us regular people, it may just be a date. To them, it takes a lot of trust to go and meet someone. I found that they gauge stuff like how you move around with them. So I’m especially happy for you that it went well!

Galaxy_Photography − Thanks for filling us all in about the froyo flavors. We were all wondering and anticipating.

[Reddit User] − Glad it went well. What's it like to watch a movie with a blind person though?

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Goldwing97 − One of my friends is visually impaired (not completely blind but can’t drive) and one of the things she really appreciates is when I read places and such that come up on the screen when we’re watching a movie.

For instance, if one character passes the other a note than I read that note to her. Sounds like you’re doing great thinking about how her needs are a little different, I just thought I’d add in my two cents on what she might also appreciate that you may not think of!

[Reddit User] − I see you saying a lot that you’re in an open relationship but I don’t see you clarifying if the woman you’re taking out is aware of this....

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[Reddit User] − I was in a relationship with a blind girl for a good two years. Key to it is just treat her normally as you would anyone else. If she needs a guide at any time, offer her your elbow or arm to hold onto.

If guiding her, walk as you normally would or just a bit slower until she's used to your pace. Don't be afraid to use visual words like 'did you see this movie' or stuff like that. Don't let her sight be a concern, she's just like you or I

silsool − Nice outcome for a blind date

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UnsatisfiedGuy − Good to read this!. I am glad you give this a chance and hope it will turn into a great relationship!

TheDirtyFuture − I just got into podcast and they’re pretty great. I’m sure a blind person would appreciate it. The first one that got me hooked was criminal. It’s not salacious or sensational, just interesting articles related to crime that don’t get much attention. I saw it on a best of list posted in the podcast subreddit. I don’t know how to link the post but u/scarsscrabble posted it.

This update of a young woman’s radiant first date captures the magic of new love and thoughtful inclusion. Her journey, from nervous anticipation to planning a second meetup, reminds us that connection flourishes with respect and care. It invites us to cherish the small gestures that build big moments. Share your thoughts below—how do you nurture a budding romance while honoring someone’s unique needs?

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