[UPDATE] Expecting dad here. After my wife and I babysat her niece I’ve realized that I’m not prepared AT ALL. How do I tell my wife just how terrified I am?

Picture a young couple in their cozy apartment, the glow of an ultrasound photo sparking dreams of their future son. For this 26-year-old dad-to-be, the road to fatherhood was recently paved with panic after a messy babysitting stint left him questioning his readiness. But a courageous heart-to-heart with his wife and the thrilling news of their baby boy, Sidney, have turned his fears into excitement. His journey, shared on Reddit, captures the raw vulnerability of impending parenthood.

This update builds on his earlier tale of diaper disasters and self-doubt, offering a heartwarming twist that resonates with anyone navigating life’s big leaps. Let’s dive into his latest chapter, explore expert insights, and hear the Reddit community’s take on his newfound confidence.

For those who want to read the previous part: Original post

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‘[UPDATE] Expecting dad here. After my wife and I babysat her niece I’ve realized that I’m not prepared AT ALL. How do I tell my wife just how terrified I am?’

I just wanted to sincerely thank everyone who commented on my last post. I really, really needed the advice. I apologize that I wasn’t able to respond to any of the comments, it was a bit overwhelming on my end haha. But I did read them. I took the unanimous advice and spoke to my wife about how I’ve been feeling.

It went really well! I figured it would, considering the type of relationship we have; I was more so anxious that I would make her feel scared about my abilities as a dad. But she reassured me that never for one second did I have her worried. To paraphrase her, she said that despite all of her experience with other people’s babies and children, she’s never actually had to take care of a baby that was hers, so we are in the same boat..

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Honestly it was such a relief to finally talk to her. I definitely feel lighter haha. Anyway, if anybody would like to know, we have recently found out (literally yesterday) that we are expecting a boy! The both of us are just over the moon. We’re planning on naming him Sidney (Sid), a name we picked out years ago.

My wife actually told me that she would like to give him my first name as his second one. I wasn’t expecting that at all. Currently trying to not let it go to my head, but honestly it just makes me feel really, really awesome (for the lack of a better word haha). So his full name will be Sidney Benjamin.

I think that has a very nice ring to it. :-) bThank you again to everyone who shared their experience as a first time parent (or second time, third time, fourth time, etc. haha). Blessings all around. And I will definitely look into pee teepees now haha..

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Stepping into parenthood can feel like boarding a rollercoaster blindfolded, but this dad-to-be’s openness with his wife marks a pivotal turn. His initial fear of seeming inadequate is common, especially when one partner, like his wife, seems naturally adept. Their conversation, revealing they’re both novices in their own way, highlights the power of vulnerability in relationships.

Dr. Sue Johnson, a clinical psychologist and expert in emotional bonding, states, “When partners share vulnerabilities, it fosters emotional closeness and resilience” .

The broader issue is the stigma around men expressing parenting doubts. Societal expectations often pressure dads to project confidence, yet vulnerability can be a strength. For this couple, learning together—perhaps through parenting classes or YouTube tutorials—can build shared confidence.

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These are the responses from Reddit users:

The Reddit crew rallied around this dad-to-be with a mix of practical tips and hearty cheers, proving the internet can be a warm place for nervous parents. From pee-avoidance hacks to tales of hospital walkouts, their comments blend humor and wisdom. Here’s what they shared.

th987 − New parent freak-outs — perfectly normal. About newborns — they really are simple creatures. Feed them, let them sleep, change their diapers, hold them when they cry. That’s 95% of life with one. Baby boy tip — they will pee on you if you give them the chance. You pull the front of the diaper off, air hits the tiny penis, up comes a stream of urine.

Have the new diaper unfolded and ready before you pull down the front of the old one. Pull old one day, and immediately lay front of new one over penis. Then you can slide the old one off, wipe with baby wipe, slide back of new diaper in place, tape it closed.

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[Reddit User] − Having been there and done that, freaking out over this is actually a very natural thing. I still remember very clearly when my wife first told me she was pregnant not long after we got engaged. Having to tell her very Catholic father that I had knocked his youngest daughter up and that no,

we didn't get engaged because of that, still resonates with me to this day (it all went well and he was very happy). Enjoy being a father mate, you'll do it just fine and to be honest, even with the nappies and the sleepless nights, the worries, etc - I wouldn't change a thing.

leoscrisis − I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old and some days I feel like I still don't know what I'm doing lol. Honestly just trust your instincts and go with the flow. You will have lots of people offering you conflicting and sometimes unsolicited advice.

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Looking after a child is not one size fits all. What works for one person may not work for you.. You will find your own routine that works well for you and your baby boy when he arrives.. Good luck OP. You and your wife will be great. You've got this!

Waht3rB0y − Dude, I was totally unprepared and the trip home from the hospital with our baby was the trippiest thing in my life. But ... 17 years later I can barely remember it and being a father is the best thing that’s ever happened to me. I just couldn’t imagine life now without my daughter.

She’s my best friend and I love hanging out with her and spend every minute with her that I can. The baby stage is kind of hard but it doesn’t last long and I barely remember it now so try not to freak out. You’ll survive. We all did and you will too. DM me if you have questions or need support.. You can do this.

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Hope1237 − Tip. Everyone feels like they’re stealing the baby when you leave the hospital. You have this feeling like “am I really allowed to just walk out of here with this baby”. Like, that’s it, we just go home. No manual no instructions. Just go. It’s the weirdest damn feeling. Then you get the baby home. Set the carseat in the middle of the floor and look and each other and go “now what the duck do we do?” Totally normal feeling. Had it for both of my kids.

dtjnder1 − We have been there. I couldn’t believe the hospital would just let me leave with a freaking baby. Haha. You will be a great dad. Congrats on your son!!!!

nofuginway − You have a 3 to 5 year grace period before they begin developing memories. That's natures learning curve for Dads.

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dabad-guy − Got 3 of them 21, 15, 12 One of the best milestone you will have with them is when they learn to wipe/clean their own b**t. Truly, this is a turning point in the relationship between you two. It was for me at least. No buying diapers all the time , min wipes,

no surprising bags containing used diapers found while cleaning the wife’s car (now ex-wife), and not hearing across the hall someone screaming “I’M DONE!!DADDY WIPE MY B**T!!!!”. But don’t go celebrating too much, because the downside of being a DAD doesn’t get better.. They just get louder, more expensive. Of course theirs an upside to this, but it’s comes with a cost

ajwatcher − Good luck! You sound like you would make a fine dad!

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notoriousdad − Tip about baby boys...when you pull down their diaper to change them, the cold air will cause them to pee again, straight up, in your face. Just open the diaper, close it right back, and pause a few seconds until you feel the rush of 'warm' in the diaper. Congrats on being a dad!

These Reddit nuggets offer a snapshot of support, but do they fully capture the journey to fatherhood? Is this dad’s relief a universal milestone, or just the start of new adventures?

This dad-to-be’s transformation from panic to pride shows that honesty can light the way through parenthood’s uncertainties. His excitement for baby Sidney Benjamin and his wife’s support remind us that teamwork makes the dream work. As he gears up for fatherhood, what advice would you give him for the road ahead? Share your tips or stories in the comments—let’s cheer on this growing family!

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