[UPDATE] AITA For telling my friend her kid is a demon?

In a quiet neighborhood where kids’ laughter usually fills the air, a pregnant woman stumbled into a nightmare that unraveled her friend’s carefully hidden secrets. Known as the friend group’s trusted babysitter, she’s no stranger to chaos, but nothing prepared her for the chilling discovery of her friend Karen’s neglectful home. When Karen’s son lashed out violently, it wasn’t just a tantrum—it was a cry for help that exposed a grim reality.

The fallout was swift and heart-wrenching, pulling back the curtain on a home unfit for children and a friendship pushed to the breaking point. As Karen’s life unraveled, the woman faced retaliation but stood firm, sparking a debate about loyalty, responsibility, and the cost of speaking out. Was she wrong to act, or did her courage save kids from a toxic environment?

For those who want to read the previous part: AITA For Telling My Friend Her Kid Is a Demon?

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[UPDATE] AITA For telling my friend her kid is a demon?’

So do I have a wild ride for you guys! A ton has happened in the last week and some change so I’m going to tldr most of it. Dad got emergency custody the following morning after spending the night getting an emergency mental health evaluation at our local hospital. They kept the kid for three days and we took that time to help dad get his house ready for primary parenting.

The lawyer went my Karen’s place on Monday for the unexpected home visit and to put it bluntly there was a lot more going on than any of us realized. The kids belongings were placed in a pile beside the couch where the kids have apparently been sleeping for the last month.

1 of the five bedrooms in her house is completely unlivable, and the three rooms outside of her own are being subleased to strangers. Yes you’re reading that right, she took away her children’s rooms and put strangers in there. They also documented smells of burning plastic and urine throughout the household and there is no pets in the home.

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She was directed to submit a d**g test and as of now she still has not done that. I am absolutely mortified of the conditions those babies have been living in for months without any of us in the friend group, realizing. It also makes since because she stopped hosting get togethers shortly after her separation, and we all just assumed she was taking time for herself.

Now the icing on the cake: a lot of you warned me that she would likely try to lash out toward me and you were right because she absolutely did. She tried to call social services claiming that I had an illegal daycare running in my home. Well of course a social worker did show up but thankfully the situation was clarified within the same day.

I explained that five of the kids in my house were my own biological kids and the two others I was watching for my cousin without personal pay. Gave them receipts and my last couple bank statements as proof and should be getting a letter within the next week closing the case as unfounded.

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They have a hearing Friday to establish custody and the lawyer has already said it will go to dad. Karen will get supervised visitation if she petitions for it.. If anything changes or something else, crazy happens I’ll definitely be updating again, but thank you guys 💛

Discovering a friend’s neglectful parenting can feel like a punch to the gut. The woman’s decision to involve Karen’s ex-husband set off a chain reaction, exposing a home where children slept on a couch amidst strangers and unsafe conditions. Karen’s denial and retaliation—falsely reporting an illegal daycare—highlight a desperate attempt to deflect blame, while the child’s violent behavior now seems like a symptom of deeper neglect.

This case echoes a broader issue: child neglect’s hidden toll. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services reports over 600,000 children face neglect annually, often linked to unstable home environments (https://www.acf.hhs.gov). Dr. David Finkelhor, a child welfare expert, states, “Neglect can manifest in chaotic households, where children’s basic needs are ignored, leading to behavioral issues” (https://www.unh.edu).

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Dr. Finkelhor’s perspective underscores the urgency of intervention in Karen’s case. The child’s aggression likely stemmed from an unstable, unsafe home, crying out for help. The woman’s actions, though divisive, prioritized the children’s safety, aligning with expert calls for early intervention.

For others in similar spots, documenting concerns and contacting authorities calmly can protect kids while minimizing conflict. Setting boundaries with toxic friends is crucial, too.

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

Reddit didn’t hold back, dishing out reactions that range from heartfelt praise to jaw-dropping speculation. Here’s what the community had to say about this wild update:

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Creepy-Stable-6192 − Good for you! I'm glad those kids are in a better place.

MerryMoose923 − NTA. The living conditions those kids had to endure were definitely part of the behavior problems. Good on you for calling ~~CPS.~~ the kids' dad, who moved for emergency which eventually got CPS involved.. (edited to correct the facts in my response)

Away-Elephant-4323 − I am glad to hear those babies will be safe, this happens more often than people realize children living in awful conditions, it’s sickening honestly, thank you for giving updates and i hope those kiddos will have the life they deserve now.

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EFTucker − Those smells are from heroin or/and PCP.

Weird-Salamander-349 − Wait, his lawyer went to her house?

Regular_Boot_3540 − Just curious, how does your bank statement demonstrate that you're not running a daycare?

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RubyTx − You are a hero.. That kid's behavior was crying out for help. Kids don't get that scary in a vaccuum.. Thank you for being the adult he and his siblings needed to attention to what they were going through. I hope Dad and those kids are able to recover to some semblance and am so glad to hear a GAL is involved.

DevilGuy − Given context she probably wanted custody for the child support payments.

Plus_Ad_9181 − Yikes, she absolutely needs all her kids taken from her permanently, how sad. The demon kid’s acting out makes sense now.. Is dad at least normal?

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TararaBoomDA − I would wager that one or more of those strangers has been molesting her child(ren).

These takes are spicy, but do they see the full picture, or are they just riding the drama wave?

This saga proves that sometimes doing the right thing comes with a heavy price. The woman’s courage exposed a grim reality, saving kids from neglect but costing her a friendship and peace of mind. As the dust settles, one question lingers: where do we draw the line between loyalty and protecting the vulnerable? Have you ever had to call out a friend’s parenting to save a child? Share your stories—what would you do in her shoes?

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