[UPDATE] 6 months postpartum, my (27F) fiancé tells me he (26M) “loves me less.” How to navigate emotionally as a single parent?

In a quiet moment with her six-month-old son napping, Emily faced the wreckage of her six-year engagement. Her fiancé, Mark, had admitted to loving her less, a confession that echoed through months of his emotional absence—marked by a $25 Starbucks card for her birthday and wilted Mother’s Day flowers. Now, with a resolute heart, Emily ended it all, asking Mark to leave and setting her sights on single parenthood. His revelation that he’d felt this way even during their engagement stung, but it fueled her resolve to model true love for her son.

For those who want to read the previous part: 6 months postpartum, my (27F) fiancé tells me he (26M)“loves me less.” How to navigate emotionally as a single parent?

This update isn’t just about a breakup; it’s a new mother’s bold stand for self-respect amid postpartum challenges. Readers are drawn into Emily’s fierce journey, wondering how she’ll navigate the emotional and practical hurdles of raising her son alone, and whether her strength will light a path to healing.

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‘[UPDATE] 6 months postpartum, my (27F) fiancé tells me he (26M) “loves me less.” How to navigate emotionally as a single parent?’

First, I want to thank everyone who commented on my original post. I mostly posted to vent, and I’m really glad I did. Now for the update: I decided to rip the bandaid off and end things. Engagement is ended. Relationship is ended. All of it.

After dinner, our son was taking a nap and I asked fiancé (26M) when he planned on moving out. Long story short, I had him pack a bag and stay elsewhere tonight. He will start packing his belongings tomorrow. I realized that I can’t do this - I can’t forgive being told he “loves me less.”

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That’s not the example (or standard) I want to set for my child as he grows. Love isn’t something you need to beg for, work for, or pretend. To make it worse, I asked fiancé (26M) if he felt this way when he got engaged last August, to which he said “Yes. I’ve just been lying to myself.”

This man had a baby with me and knew (possibly beforehand) that his heart wasn’t in it, but didn’t have the guts to tell me. So here we are. 6 years down the drain. I’m not sure if the reality of a child hit him, if infidelity is involved on his part, or if he lost attraction to me in the process of being pregnant (could be all of the above), but I’ll never know. And that’s okay.

I’m the primary provider for our son, and that won’t change. Our son (6 months) will remain living with me full-time, and fiancé is welcome to visit son. We will work out an agreement to ensure he fulfills his financial obligation to our child, and I’m not afraid to pursue the legal route if needed.

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I’m 6 months postpartum. This is my first. And wow, it’s been hard, but now I’m officially doing it solo (and with the help of my mom). I’m doing the damn thing, and I’m going to do my best. Wish me luck.. Thank you, to everyone, for the words of encouragement.

Emily’s choice to end her engagement reflects a courageous commitment to her and her son’s well-being, rejecting a relationship eroded by Mark’s emotional betrayal. His admission of loving her less—known even during their engagement—reveals a profound lack of integrity, leaving Emily to carry the emotional and financial weight of parenthood alone. This isn’t merely postpartum strain; it’s a fundamental failure of partnership.

Postpartum breakups are increasingly common. A 2024 Journal of Family Psychology study found 25% of new parents separate within the first year, often due to unmet emotional needs (Journal of Family Psychology). Dr. Harriet Lerner, a family therapist, states, “Leaving a partner who devalues you models self-worth for your child” (Harriet Lerner). Mark’s passive TikTok scrolling and thoughtless gestures, like the sarcastic “levels of love” excuse, underscore his unreadiness for fatherhood, not Emily’s inadequacy.

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Emily’s fear of failing her son is misplaced—her decisive action and financial independence prove her capability. Mark’s vague hope to “work through” things lacks actionable commitment, and his prolonged dishonesty raises infidelity concerns, though unproven. Lerner advises, “Single parents thrive by building legal protections and emotional support systems.” Emily’s plan for a child support agreement is wise, and she should pursue court-ordered terms immediately, as Reddit suggests, to avoid future disputes. Therapy can help her process betrayal, while her mom’s support is a lifeline.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Reddit exploded with a vibrant mix of admiration and practical advice, cheering Emily’s bold exit while urging legal safeguards. From celebrating her strength to warning about Mark’s unreliability, the comments are a fiery barbecue of support. Here’s the unfiltered scoop:

Loose-Chemical-4982 − 'i'm not afraid to pursue the legal route if needed' I strongly suggest you have a court-ordered child support/agreement worked out NOW. waiting until there is a problem is too late, and with the way this dude is acting he doesn't take his obligations seriously.. get your son everything he is entitled to

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Corfiz74 − I hope Junior gets his brains from mom, since his dad doesn't appear to have any.

GorditaPollo − Damn girl, you’re a perfect example of keeping your own values and boundaries firm. I’m so stoked for you, you’re going to raise a kid with real self esteem- just like you. Well done. 

onnlen − I’m really f**king proud of you. ❤️

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creative-littlewitch − Stay strong mama 💪 I can’t imagine the stress and emotions you’re going through but just as much as it takes a village to raise a child it takes a village to get through this. It sounds like you have the support of your mom so lean on her! Things will be tough but it I’m sure you’re an amazing mom and can do it all 👏keep a positive heart 💛

Lostinmeta4 − You are amazing! Go the legal route. Your sperm done is an a**hole and will abuse the agreement, be late if not skip months and you’ll have to deal with it every time.. Like you said, literally made a whole baby with you rather than be alone.

Report him to the state. This man is never gonna fight for 50/50 custody. And if he deduced to do that 10 years from now cause his balls finally dropped, he would have cheated you out of so much child support (meaning: both financial & childcare)

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You get his paycheck garnished for the correct amount your child is entitled to. Put it all in a college fund if you want, but you get what your child needs with as little contact with this guy as possible.

Cause if it’s a personal agreement you have to keep hounding him about, he’s also gonna try to work back into your life. He’s gonna date a lot of people and learn he’s like the unbalanced love being in HIS favor and he is gonna try to hook up with you every 2 years- WATCH!

RanaEire − 'I asked fiancé (26M) if he felt this way when he got engaged last August, to which he said “Yes. I’ve just been lying to myself.”'. This made me sooo angry.. What a POS!!. u/Igloo2018 - you are a kick-ass woman, and you better believe it!. Best wishes! Xx

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ginntress − You’ve done the right thing. I was 17 years (15 years married) and 4 kids into my relationship when my husband admitted that he never wanted to get married (even though he proposed) and didn’t want as many kids as we had, despite it taking 18 months of trying to get our 4th. Some people just go along with whatever is easiest.

Because I loved him, he just went along with whatever I wanted because it was easier than actually making any decisions. So he wasted 17 years of my life because it was easier for him than actually making any decisions himself.. Now I’m 39 and having to start my search for ‘my person’ again.. He already has a person, which is what finally made him admit that I wasn’t it.

Texaskate − You got this, mama! You’re doing the right thing. Find somebody who loves you, and never has doubts. Or, s**ew that…stay single and fabulous. Live a life without regret!

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TroublesomeTurnip − Def see if you can establish visitation and child support through the courts. Take solace in the fact you're rid of someone like your ex.

Redditors laud Emily as a role model for her son, slamming Mark’s cowardice and pushing for court-ordered child support. Some suspect he’ll try to weasel back, others see his inaction as proof of disinterest. Do these passionate takes capture Emily’s triumph, or overlook the grief of lost years?

Emily’s story is a powerful testament to a mother’s strength in the face of betrayal. Mark’s confession of loving her less shattered their six-year bond, but Emily’s decision to end the engagement sets a shining example for her son: love is not begged for. With her mom’s help, a legal plan, and her own resilience, she’s carving a new path as a single parent. Can Emily find peace and perhaps love again after such a blow? Have you ever had to rebuild your life after a partner’s betrayal? Share your thoughts below.

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