[UPDATE 2] AITAH for being upset that I found out my wife was pregnant via social media?

Two months back, a husband shared his heartbreak over discovering his wife’s pregnancy not from her directly, but through a friend’s surprise social media post. The wife seemed to know about the leak yet stayed silent, blocking everyone and leaving him in the dark. Now the shocking truth behind that post has surfaced, turning a personal hurt into full-blown family betrayal.

This update reveals layers of deception that go way beyond the pregnancy announcement, involving jealousy, a long-secret affair, and serious creeps. Online reactions range from sympathy for the couple to outright disgust at the older parties involved, with many urging focus on healing amid the mess.

[UPDATE 2] AITAH for being upset that I found out my wife was pregnant via social media?

The saga picked up steam with the original frustration still fresh.

Short recap: I was here 2 months ago to ask if I was an i__ot for being upset that I found out about my wife's pregnancy via social media. A...

At the time it was aparent she knew she did something fucked up and did it on purpose, but she did not give any explanation for it and blocked everyone...

Finally, the motive behind the friend’s actions came clear in a jaw-dropping way.

Now I'm back to share the reason, as we found out why my wife's friend (we'll call her Carol) did what she did. She was having an affair with my...

Details about the affair painted a disturbing picture.

Apparently, they have been seeing each other for three years now, but according to my FIL, during the first two years, they were together only four times in total.

This past year, apparently, they developed a relationship, and my FIL was promising to leave my MIL for her.

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The poster’s feelings toward his father-in-law shifted dramatically.

First, from my perspective, I’ve lost all the respect I had for my FIL. I used to look up to the guy, but this is nuts. Look, my in-laws’ marriage...

They separated a couple of times in the past, and before the pandemic, they were discussing divorce. Apparently, the pandemic helped them rekindle the relationship,

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but to me, it still felt like they should just divorce. My MIL is a very nice woman—I like her a lot, just like I used to like my FIL.

They both look very good for their age (50s); they’re rich, they go on dates, take trips, but there was resentment there. You could feel it in their voices when...

So while it would have been terrible for them to cheat, it wouldn’t be surprising if either of them had. It would be an a__hole move, but I wouldn’t judge...

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The wife’s pain added heavy emotional weight.

But then you go and cheat with a woman half your age, who is friends with your daughter, and who you’ve known since she was 13 and you were in...

But most importantly my wife is pretty sad. She’s disgusted, as she should be, and has been saying she doesn’t know if she’ll ever forgive her dad.

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Apparently, it was a common joke in her friend group that she had the “hot dad.” She hated it, and Carol was the one who made that joke the most,...

My MIL has moved in with us temporarily, just to get away from the town where everyone now knows what happened.

She doesn’t even seem sad though; she looks mostly mad and annoyed. The pregnancy looks like it will be a good distraction for them, and my MIL will be a...

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The scandal broke in a messy, public fashion.

The way it came out is that Carol apparently got drunk after christmas and sent pics of her and my FIL together to an ex who was hitting her up.

The ex then sent them to his friends, and the gossip spread around. She has reached out with an apology, and in it,

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she admitted she posted about my wife’s pregnancy out of jealousy toward my MIL. It was honestly super weird and didn’t make any sense. My wife didn’t respond, just blocked...

The father-in-law’s responses only complicated things further.

My FIL has tried to reach out to us a lot, saying this is an issue between him and MIL, and that we shouldn’t get involved or judge him for...

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In the beginning, he was even saying he loved Carol and was doubling down. A week later, he was promising my wife that he’d never even look at Carol again...

I’ll follow my wife’s lead on this—whatever she decides, I’ll support her 100%.

On a brighter note, the couple’s bond strengthened amid the chaos.

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As for our relationship, it’s back to what it was. She was a bit distant after the pregnancy reveal fiasco, but once I told her I missed her clinging to...

Ever since this thing with her dad came out, she’s been sad, but I made a joke that she’s been playing up her sadness a bit to get more cuddles,...

So I think everything is going to be fine. The pregnancy is going well according to our doctor. Apart from this mess, things are ok.

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TL:DR: FIL was having an affair with the friend that posted the pregnancy. Its a big mess, but other than that things are ok.

This update layers betrayal upon betrayal, hitting the wife with dual blows from a close friend and her own father. The age gap and long acquaintance make the affair particularly disturbing, raising questions about boundaries and power dynamics that could border on predatory.

The mother-in-law’s anger over sadness suggests years of built-up resentment finally validated, while the wife’s disgust is completely understandable given the personal history. Supporting her processing this without pressure is key.

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Family therapist Lori Gottlieb, in her book “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,” explores how secrets and infidelities ripple through generations, often requiring professional help to unpack. Here, individual or couples counseling could aid healing. Focus on the growing family as a positive anchor – the pregnancy offers hope. Set firm boundaries with the father-in-law, prioritizing the wife’s feelings. Forgiveness, if it comes, should be on her terms alone.

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Many users expressed shock and strong support for the couple navigating the fallout.

justtirediguess11 − This is not a twist I was looking for. Take care of your wife. And good luck to both of you!

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No_Use_9124 − ewwwww your FIL is a creep and your wife's best friend shld never be seen by either of you ever again.

Kaiser93 − Your FIL is a real ass. I never understood men, who have kids and then decide to f__k the friends of their kids. Like, bro, the girl you...

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knintn − Poor MIL. I hope she gets everything in the divorce.

Fire_or_water_kai − When the story zigged, the creepy FIL zagged.

Some shared personal parallels or emphasized the wider family impact.

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GenoFlower − Wow. My dad was always "the hot dad", and it was weird a lot to hear my friends say that. I got used to it as I got...

(I'm now in my 50s, so thanks for the "look good for their ages" thing lol), but I guess it never occured to me that my dad would ever sleep...

I'm not saying he was perfect he and my mom had a strained relationship, but sleep with one of my friends? I can't see him doing that.

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Be gentle with your wife. That's a huge betrayal on both sides. I can't start to imagine that. Oh and it's not just an issue between FIL and MIL.

Ordinarily, I would say yes, but he chose his daughter's "friend", and that friend involved his daughter to blow the whole thing up.

If he was cheating with a coworker or something, I'd say yes, it's between him and MIL. Here, not so much. I'm sorry. Your wife must be feeling all the...

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BulbasaurRanch − Honestly, this kinda feels made up now. The first two posts seemed real enough, but now I’m doubting any of it :(

707808909808707 − This still doesn’t answer why she refused to tell you before telling everyone else and literally called people to tell them the news and come over and still...

She was distant cause there was something still on her mind. But this is the perfect distraction and now can be rug swept

Due-Contact-366 − Still weird your wife had a party to brainstorm how to tell you she is pregnant. This thing with your FIL doesn’t negate that.

SoCalThrowAway7 − This saga has jumped the shark

A few raised concerns about grooming or lingering questions.

Rye_One_ − FYI, “found out my wife was pregnant via social media” means something different than “found out via social media that my wife was pregnant”

babyzoex − That’s a huge mess to deal with, and you're definitely not the a__hole for being upset about the way you found out about the pregnancy.

Carol’s actions were manipulative, and your FIL’s affair is just gross, especially given the long history. It makes sense why your wife would be feeling sad and distant, but it’s...

It sounds like things are back on track with you two, and I’m glad the pregnancy is going well. Stay focused on each other and let your FIL and Carol...

joaovitorsb95 − Oooookayyy, I did not expect that. You think there was grooming going on?

Rags_75 − Did your missus ever say why she told her friends she was preggers before you?

Y2Flax − I’m sorry OP, but that reason is simply not justified. You still should have 100% been the first phone call. How does posting about the pregnancy first impact...

This explosive update turns a confusing pregnancy reveal into a full family crisis rooted in long-hidden infidelity and revenge. While the couple seems stronger and focused on their future baby, the betrayals from trusted people run deep and will take time to process. How would you handle boundaries with the father-in-law in a situation like this?

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