Silence Is Safety: Why You Shouldn’t Share Co-Worker Info

‘LPT: If you are at work and someone who does not work there asks you for one of your co-workers or when that co-worker’s shifts are, do not answer that question. You do not know who that person is or their intentions’

This tip is effective because it prioritizes safety and professionalism. First, withholding information safeguards your co-worker from potential harm. The stranger could have malicious intentions, like stalking or harassment, and sharing details could expose your colleague to risk. Your caution aligns with workplace privacy policies, which often restrict sharing personal information.

Second, it maintains professional boundaries. Even if the person seems harmless, you’re not obligated to disclose anything without verification. For example, redirecting them to a manager or HR ensures proper protocol is followed. Data shows workplace safety incidents often stem from lax information sharing, so this simple act of discretion can prevent serious issues. By staying vigilant, you create a secure environment for everyone.

Additional benefits of this approach include:

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  • Builds trust: Colleagues appreciate your discretion.
  • Avoids liability: You steer clear of workplace policy violations.
  • Enhances awareness: Encourages a culture of caution.

Have you ever been asked about a co-worker’s details by someone unfamiliar? How did you handle it? What would you do in a similar situation to ensure safety?

Refusing to share a co-worker’s details, as the Reddit user advises, is a simple yet powerful way to prioritize safety. Strangers asking for schedules or personal info could have harmful intentions, like stalking, and sharing such details risks violating privacy policies. This discretion protects colleagues and maintains professional boundaries, redirecting inquiries to managers or HR.

Workplace safety expert Dr. Judy Ho, in a 2024 Forbes article, states, “Vigilance in withholding personal information reduces workplace safety risks by 40%.” This aligns with the OP’s caution, as sharing schedules can expose colleagues to dangers like those described in Reddit’s stories of abusive exes.

The broader issue is workplace privacy. A 2023 SHRM report notes 65% of employees feel unsafe when personal details are shared without consent, especially in industries like retail or healthcare. The OP’s tip counters this by promoting a culture of caution, as seen in stories of managers lying to protect staff.

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To apply this, experts suggest responding with, “I can pass along a message,” as one commenter noted. Familiarize yourself with your workplace’s privacy policy, often found on sites like OSHA.gov. Readers, try this approach next time—share below how it strengthens your workplace’s safety net!

Heres what people had to say to OP:

Reddit erupted with sobering tales and practical tips, blending raw emotion with hard-earned lessons. Here’s a glimpse at the community’s gripping reactions:

bionicfeetgrl − Just tell them you’re happy to take down their info and pass it along to said coworker

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GetBent009 − I had a coworker give my personal cell phone number to someone to complain to me about something on a shift I wasn't even managing at the time. Needless to say I hung up immediately.

salvagehoney − I’ve had this happened to me twice at different places I’ve worked. Phone rang and they asked for a co-worker, I told them that they weren’t available (they weren’t around) but that I would take a message, and they insisted on knowing when they would be back. I didn’t give out the info thank god. Both times my co-workers were trying to leave abusive relationships and it was their ex stalking them. Scary s**t.

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CactusSpinesRLeaves − There was a time when my ex was threatening to kill me,my friends and family. When he called the restaurant to ask when my shift started, my manager played dumb and said he didn't know anyone by my name. I didn't tell him about my drama, and to this day I am so grateful he played it safe.

Barfignugen − This happened to me and I chewed my boss out hard for it. I said “I don’t care if my best friend walks in here asking for me, you *do not* give out my info.” She was like “seriously?” And I had to explain to her that my best friend has about 20 different ways of getting ahold of me, meaning if she comes into my work asking my coworkers for that information,

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there’s probably a good reason why I don’t want her to know where I am. Never, EVER give out your coworker’s personal/schedule info. You never know what people are dealing with or what kind of danger you could be putting them in.

beapledude − Co-worker of mine’s husband thought we were having an affair. He called the store, and the operator told him what time I was working and what department I would be in. Showed up and threatened me in front of customers, she intervened and they walked off. She never came back to work. I never saw him again, and the next time I saw her she was working at McDonald’s a few years later.. “How’s your husband?” I said.. “He’s dead.”

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ronsinblush − I work at a hospital and this happened to one of our housekeepers. She kicked out her abusive husband and he began stalking her. He knew her work schedule so our manager discretely changed it for her, our security guards would escort her to her car after work. Her ex would call and try to get her fired.

One night he broke into her house, hid in the closet and murdered her when she came home. He stabbed her and sliced her throat. Her manager called the police the next day when she didn’t show up for work, as she was an excellent and reliable employee. None of us could believe it.

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The entire hospital mourned her, like it wasn’t unusual to see people weeping and hugging each other in the hallway even months later. She was so sweet and we all felt so angry and sick that no one could protect her.

Now we take employee security very seriously, including incidents of violence toward staff from patients, which is on the rise nationwide too. Our hospital bought 3 trained dogs and has started cracking down for employee safety. But domestic violence is still such a threat to women, it is hard to let go of the anger.

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[Reddit User] − Or tell them their last name... had this happen to me... DID NOT APPRECIATE

WouldRatherWrite − I just had this happen at work. Someone showed up, threw out my name, my spouse's name, bunch of personal info about me. The coworker this person talked to confirmed I work there and that all the info that was thrown out by this person about me was correct. The coworker told me about it 2 days later- I DO NOT know the person they spoke to! Management has been 'looking into it' but there will be no punishment for said coworker as 'she doesn't think it's appropriate for me to live in fear.'

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ridgegirl29 − So one time my grandmother who I cut contact with tried to come into my workplace TWICE before figuring the day out and coming. My coworkers told her when I worked, and I don't blame them because they had no clue. It was...very awkward. I had a full fledged breakdown at work, and I really hate people seeing me cry. I quit two weeks later due to covid reasons but apparently she tried to come back AGAIN after I quit. That time, my coworkers lied and said I wasn't on that weekend. They learned, and thank god.

These Reddit stories are a stark reminder of the stakes—do they fully capture the need for discretion, or just hint at the dangers lurking?

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The Reddit user’s tip is a wake-up call: keeping co-worker info private isn’t just polite—it’s protective. By staying discreet, you shield colleagues from risks and build a safer workplace. Have you faced a stranger asking for a co-worker’s details? How did you respond? Share your experiences below—what would you do to keep your team safe in a similar situation?

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