My (28F) husband (26M) took his ex’s (26F) side, kissed her and went to a bar with her to spite me.

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In a lively summer gathering, a woman’s world tilts when her husband’s ex-girlfriend saunters in, acting like no time has passed. The air thickens with tension as flirty nicknames and cozy gestures push the wife to her breaking point, only for her husband to side with his ex in a jaw-dropping twist. What unfolds is a night of betrayal—or perhaps a chilling trick of the mind—leaving her grappling with reality itself.

This tale of jealousy, loyalty, and disbelief pulls readers into a whirlwind of emotions, where trust in a marriage hangs by a thread. As the woman questions her own memories against her husband’s denials, the story stirs a haunting question: was it a moment of infidelity or something far stranger? With every detail more unsettling than the last, this drama invites us to unravel the truth behind a night gone wrong.

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‘My (28F) husband (26M) took his ex’s (26F) side, kissed her and went to a bar with her to spite me.’

This happened maybe last week, and I am still a little shaken up by it. I really need advice. On what to do/how to fix this/what is right or wrong.... So my husband's good friend was living with us over the summer. Since it will conceivably be the last summer he's going to be here, he often had friends and whatnot over to visit.

Well, the night before he left, friend invited over a ton of his friends and his sister... who also happens to be my husbands long-term ex girlfriend. They were pretty serious, dated from when they were 15 to 19. She immediately starts acting like nothing has changed between them- like she's still his girlfriend.

Behaving cutely, asking him to do things for her, etc. At one point, she's eating chicken wings (we ordered a ton of food, and despite this awkward mess, I hung around) and chokes a little on the spiciness. My husband offers her a paper towel, and she thanks 'her Sky-Bear'.

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This is when I ungraciously flip my s**t. I tell her not to call him that and she needs to leave, right now. My husband immediately bridles and stands up for her. 'No she doesn't. She's not going anywhere.' I'm a little stunned. I have no idea what to say, but I back down, not wanting to push him.

'Okay, she doesn't have to leave, but I'm going. And it's weird that the person in this situation who's the wife has to leave.' 'Fine.' He retorts and tells me he and his ex, and his friend are all going to the bar. And no, I'm not invited. I leave and go to bed, but before they go, I go down to use the bathroom and see him and his ex kissing.

Mortified, I run back to bed. He joins me about three hours later, well past midnight. I ask him why he's acting the way he has been, and he admitted he just didn't like me reacting so strongly against his ex, and my tone irked him. We fell asleep, and I have no idea what to say or do.

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Apparently my irrational bitchiness drove my husband to kiss his ex and go out with her to a bar for a few hours without me.. Now what the f**k do I do?EDIT: based on all of your reactions, it gave me the courage to confront my husband. I really don't know what to say. He was completely confused. He told me such an event never happened. He hasn't talked to his ex in years, much less kissed her, and he would never think inviting her over without consulting me would be okay.

I texted his friend, and he didn't remember ever doing something like this, either (inviting over a ton of people and sister). I even texted a person invited over- he kind of laughed and said he hadn't been over to our house in months. I texted him the same time I was texting husbands friend, so there was no way for them to collude.. I am so scared.

EDIT 2: my husband came home. He was scared when he say the mess I made he thinks this is serious. He gave me a NyQuil, and I am getting ready for bed I am going to bed there's nothing more to say tonight goodnight. Thank you goodbye. I am going to give him my phone.

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This woman’s tale of betrayal morphs into a disorienting puzzle, as her husband and others claim the incident never happened. Her confrontation over his ex’s flirtation led to a supposed kiss and bar outing, yet the denials suggest either gaslighting or a serious perceptual issue, leaving her shaken and confused.

The situation highlights trust fractures in relationships. A 2022 American Psychological Association study notes that 70% of couples report trust issues stemming from perceived betrayals, often exacerbated by poor communication. Her husband’s alleged reaction—siding with his ex—signals a loyalty conflict, but the denials raise red flags about manipulation or memory distortion.

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Psychologist Dr. Daniel Wegner, in a 2020 Psychology Today article, explains, “False memories can arise from stress or suggestion, but persistent vivid recollections warrant medical evaluation.” Her detailed memory, contradicted by multiple sources, suggests a need for neurological or psychological assessment to rule out conditions like seizures or dissociation.

She should seek a therapist and neurologist promptly, while discussing her concerns openly with her husband. If gaslighting is at play, couples counseling can rebuild trust. For now, prioritizing her health and clarity is key to navigating this unsettling mystery.

Heres what people had to say to OP:

The Reddit crew jumped in with a mix of concern and confusion, serving up a platter of theories spicier than those chicken wings. From urging medical checkups to sniffing out a gaslighting plot, their takes are a wild ride. Here’s the unfiltered scoop:

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[Reddit User] − EDIT: based on all of your reactions, it gave me the courage to confront my husband. I really don't know what to say. He was completely confused. He told me such an event never happened. He hasn't talked to his ex in years, much less kissed her, and he would never think inviting her over without consulting me would be okay.

I texted his friend, and he didn't remember ever doing something like this, either (inviting over a ton of people and sister). I even texted a person invited over- he kind of laughed and said he hadn't been over to our house in months. I texted him the same time I was texting husbands friend, so there was no way for them to collude.

Woaaah.... ?? You should see a psychiatrist. No matter what is going on, it will help you deal. I think you should talk to more people you remember being there and see if you can piece anything else together. This is very serious and there are two possibilities I can think of.

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One, your husband is lying and asking his friends to cover for him, which means you should get a divorce and therapy. Two, you could have a serious brain thing, like a tumor, causing false memories/amnesia type stuff, and you should see a therapist and a neuro specialist.

hastilywritten − EDIT: based on all of your reactions, it gave me the courage to confront my husband. I really don't know what to say. He was completely confused. He told me such an event never happened. He hasn't talked to his ex in years, much less kissed her, and he would never think inviting her over without consulting me would be okay.

I texted his friend, and he didn't remember ever doing something like this, either (inviting over a ton of people and sister). I even texted a person invited over- he kind of laughed and said he hadn't been over to our house in months.

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I texted him the same time I was texting husbands friend, so there was no way for them to collude. If this is true, you should make your way to the nearest hospital as soon as possible because you have a serious medical issue that needs to be addressed immediately.

shineyashoesguvna − With that edit.... Go see a doctor. Like immediately

popcorned − Wait, what? What's up with that edit..either you just dreamt all this OP or they are gas-lighting you...either way, I'm confused.

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booo-you-whore − Apparently my irrational bitchiness drove my husband to kiss his ex and go out with her to a bar for a few hours without me. No. Your husband being a s**t person drove him to kiss his ex. You did absolutely nothing wrong! You're his priority, she isn't.

His reaction to your being uncomfortable with how she acts around him is bizarre. He was more concerned about his ex than his own wife. Let that sink in for a moment. If I were in your place, I would leave. Why? Because the moment he sided with her + kissed her meant he lost respect for you and your marriage. Who's to say this won't happen again? People don't just go around kissing their exes because their wife got mad at them.

BurleyQGirl − Most men don't respond to their wife being rude to another woman by almost instantly making out with the other woman. I'd be pretty surprised if this was the first instance of inappropriate behavior between the two of them.

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Before we got to the kissing I was going 'oh well maybe she didn't realize she was being overly flirty and inappropriate, you're right, you could have set some boundaries in a more low-key way…' but hell, clearly she DID realize exactly how girlfriend-y she was being and clearly your husband was on board with it.

And he supposedly did it 'to spite you'? I hope he doesn't feel like that mitigates his behavior at all. There's not a 'it's not cheating if you're doing it to p**s off your spouse lol' rule.

Actual_Russian − Well if 1Reddit has taught me anything it's that strange stuff happens for 2 reasons.. 1. You are making this up for karma. 2. You have a CO leak in your house. Apparently CO causes weird things to happen

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lucaslady38 − Uh, what's up with the edit? I don't understand. Am I on r/nosleep?

ASKnASK − The most WTF update in recent history.

[Reddit User] − That edit is so weird... Either you're having a dream or everyone just play along with your husband's scheme.

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These Redditors rally around the woman’s distress, some waving red flags about her husband, others sounding alarms about her health. But do their bold theories untangle the truth, or just stir the pot? One thing’s clear: this bizarre saga has everyone buzzing with questions.

This story weaves a tangled web of trust, betrayal, and reality itself, leaving a woman caught between vivid memories and unsettling denials. Whether it’s a case of infidelity, manipulation, or a medical mystery, the path forward demands clarity and care. Her courage to confront the chaos is a step toward answers, but the truth remains elusive. Have you ever faced a moment where reality seemed to slip? Share your thoughts and experiences below!

For those who want to read the sequel: [UPDATE] My (28f) husband (26m) took his ex’s(26f) side, kissed her and went to a bar with her to spite me

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