My (24M) girlfriend (27F) doesn’t think I make enough money

In a cozy city apartment, a young man’s contentment clashes with his girlfriend’s ambitions. Earning a solid $130K at 24, he loves his job and prioritizes happiness, a vow forged from teenage struggles. But his girlfriend of three years, dazzled by wealthier peers and business-class dreams, deems his income lacking, her constant comparisons dimming his joy. Caught between love’s warmth and her money-driven pressure, he wonders if their paths can align.

This isn’t just about dollars; it’s a raw tug-of-war between happiness and materialism. As he grapples with her criticism, Reddit dives in with blunt advice and stark warnings. Readers will feel his frustration and ask: can love bridge such a values gap, or is it time to walk away? Let’s unpack this high-stakes relationship rift.

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‘My (24M) girlfriend (27F) doesn’t think I make enough money’

I'm 24 years old, and I currently earn a salary of 130K. My girlfriend of nearly 3 years often compares me to her friends, coworkers, my friends, anyone who she knows earns more money than I do. She constantly tells me she thinks I'm underpaid, she's extremely driven by money whereas I am not.

She's 27, most of her friends are a year or 2 older than her, those friends have partners who are older than even they are, and so a few of them make a decent amount more than I do, and I'm reminded of this every so often and I'm so tired of it. For comparison my girlfriend just got a raise and is making around 115K now.

Also for more info I was making 70K when we started dating, so have gotten 60K extra over 3 years, but it's still not enough. I'm not bragging here, but I flatout know that I'm on good money for someone my age, but it hasn't ever been about money to me.

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As a teenager I was very depressed and insecure and when I finished high school I vowed to turn my life around and make happiness my number one priority, and that's what I did and that's how it's remained. The problem is that happiness isn't her top priority, it's money, she just wants to be rich and personally I don't care enough about that to sacrifice my happiness.

Her boss is about 15 years older than her, makes about 400K and flys business class everywhere, and when my girlfriend found out about this she said her number one goal is to fly business class everywhere. Sure business is nice but I'm just so not aligned with what she wants in life and at 3 years into this relationship I don't know what to do about it.

I'd say about 75% of the time together we're happy, usually when we're not talking about things related to money. She's constantly pressuring me to leave my job while I love my current job and have continuously gotten new opportunities internally and really don't want to leave.

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She makes me feel inadequate when I know that I'm doing really well for my age, and it sucks. As a person who wants to prioritise my happiness, my current job and pay should be a reason for me to be happy, and it usually is until she makes me feel unhappy about it.

I guess I'm struggling to work out what to do. I feel like I can't take this for much longer but honestly I'm afraid of breaking up. How should I handle a situation where my partner values money more than I do to the point that it makes me so unhappy, but I'm happy with many other aspects of our relationship?

A girlfriend’s fixation on income exposes a deep values clash. Dr. John Gottman, a relationship expert, states in The Science of Trust that “shared goals and mutual respect are the bedrock of lasting partnerships” (The Gottman Institute). Let’s dive in.

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The man, thriving at $130K and fulfilled by his job, faces relentless pressure from his girlfriend, who earns $115K but idolizes wealthier lifestyles. Her comparisons to older, richer peers and demands to switch jobs dismiss his happiness, a core value rooted in overcoming past depression. This misalignment fuels his insecurity, despite their 75% happy moments. Gottman’s research shows 65% of couples with conflicting priorities risk long-term resentment (Journal of Marriage and Family).

This reflects a broader issue: compatibility in life goals. With 40% of young couples citing financial disputes as a breakup factor (Pew Research Center), values matter. Her materialism may not shift, threatening his well-being.

Gottman suggests a candid talk: he should express how her comments hurt and propose aligning on shared goals. If she doubles down, reevaluating the relationship may be necessary

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Heres what people had to say to OP:

Reddit tackled this money-driven drama like it’s a courtroom showdown, unloading tough love and red flags with force. It’s a virtual wake-up call where compatibility’s on trial. Here’s the crowd’s raw take:

Piilootus − I'll put this very plainly for you.. Your gf cares more about your salary than about your happiness. I agree, you make very good money especially for your age. And **most** importantly, you're really happy at your current position.

Searching_f_wisdom − TAke one week vacation, stay at home. When she asks tell her you lost your job. You will lose her in three days.

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No_Hat9118 − “Her number one goal. Is to fly business class” -why ru with this girl?

DeviantImmortal − You’re 24 years old, make 130k and she’s upset that you don’t make more money? You gotta let her go bro… this is gonna be a problem for years to come.

lilpandatoys − You’re fundamentally incompatible. It won’t get better.

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BoringCheesecake7619 − D**p her. She’ll never be happy and want more. It’ll be 130K isn’t enough now, then you make 200K and that won’t be enough. Unless you really love this girl then Godspeed but yea no. You want someone that’s going to motivate you to be happy and feel like she’s building a future with you and not having you do all the work.

[Reddit User] − D**p her, she's a gold digger.

Affectionate_Law9806 − You make 130k 😮 I’m 24 and I only make 60k (manager) that’s before tax. After tax is like 50k.. What job do you do?. I’m so lost in life

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Fair-Ad-7258 − She’s three years older and makes less than you, I would throw that back at her. Then you leave, your value as a partner is not based only on income.

NoImpress9065 − Condom always

These Redditors slam the girlfriend’s materialism, urging the man to prioritize his happiness and consider leaving. Some label her a gold-digger, others see fundamental incompatibility, warning of future misery. Are they right to push a breakup, or is there hope for compromise? One thing’s clear: this salary spat has everyone fired up.

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This income clash lays bare the fault lines of love when values diverge. The man’s joy in his $130K job and happy life crumbles under his girlfriend’s wealth obsession, leaving him torn between love and self-respect. Reddit’s chorus demands he choose happiness over her relentless comparisons. As he weighs his future, one truth shines: love thrives on shared priorities, not just shared moments. Ever faced a partner with clashing life goals? Share your story below!

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