I called my mom’s husband’s mistress, kind of

A daughter watched helplessly as her mother’s world fell apart after a decade-long relationship ended in the cruelest way possible. The man her mom trusted and loved for 10 years revealed he had been secretly involved with someone else the entire time — and chose to leave her for that other person.

Fury drove the daughter to act. She found the other woman, placed a call that exposed the full truth, and in the process brought two betrayed women together to support each other through the pain. This heartbreaking experience turned into something unexpectedly powerful — a story of truth breaking through lies, and two women finding strength in shared healing.

‘I called my mom’s husband’s mistress, kind of’

The story opens with the mother’s tragic loss and her search for love again.

My (F34) beautiful, loving mother (F65) has just had her heart broken into a million pieces. 14 years ago my father passed away, they were happily married 25 years and...

A few years after his passing my mom decided to try dating and quickly discovered the available pool of men in their 60s is not great, but eventually met a...

We’ll call him D__k. He was handsome, kind, had his own money, and he loved her. Well, at least he said he did. They dated for 10 years.

During this time D__k spent time with our family; going to weddings, funerals, vacations, basically all the life events for my mom’s family and my late father’s side of the...

The devastating revelation came suddenly after a seemingly normal evening.

A few weeks ago D__k went to my mom’s house for dinner. He spent the night and let her make him breakfast in the morning. Then he dropped the bomb;

he had been seeing someone else the entire time and he had decided it was finally time to choose one of them to settle down with and he chose the...

He told her he never really loved her, he never planned on choosing her, and that everything she thought of their relationship was all in her head. She was gutted...

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After some research and help from her community of friends we found the other woman. They share the same first name, which I suppose made it easier for him to...

At first I came in hot because I was so angry but I quickly found out that she had no idea. In fact, they had been together even longer than...

Thoughout this hours long phone call I learned that this man had been living a total double life. For over 10 years he perfectly executed 2 full time relationships a...

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This D__k bought a jewelry set of earrings and a matching necklace, gave one of them the earrings and the other the necklace for Valentine’s Day. He split holidays with...

He had separate friend groups he’d bring each of them around. He intertwined himself with both families yet conveniently kept them both out of his real life. I suppose he...

The aftermath brought unexpected connection and a focus on healing.

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But now, thanks to me, he has neither of them. It’s not enough though. I want to ruin him, but I’ll never know how to truly hurt someone so narcissistic.

My mom and the other woman got in contact and have been spending time together discovering all the ways he lied to both of them, and trying to mend their...

She didn’t deserve this.. Small update to answer a few common questions:. 1. BOYFRIEND, not husband. Idk what my brain was thinking when I typed the title.

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2. Yes I got my mom’s age wrong. She looks and acts much younger than she is and I simply refuse to believe she’s going to be 70 this year.

3. Red flags. In hindsight there were many. He wasn’t around very often, they only really saw each other a couple times a week, but he’s a member of a...

He has a lot of friends, so when he’d travel with one of the women he’d tell the other he was traveling with friends. After the pain my mom went...

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4. There are two reasons I called the other woman; one was that I wanted her to break up with him so he would be alone all because of his...

The second was that I truly believed she deserved to know that the man she’d been dating for 12 years was being unfaithful the entire time. As a woman I...

5. Revenge. I know I won’t get any besides the part I played in his breakup with the other woman. I know it would be unhealthy to desire more revenge,

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but at the time of writing this my mom was still deeply hurting and had begun going through the “anger” phase of her grief where she wanted him to hurt...

and being my mom’s advocate is very important to me so I would do anything (legal) that she wanted me to in order to make her feel better. She is...

6. I am in fact doing all the things I can do to help her heal. I’ve flown myself and my 3 year old across the country to spend the...

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I encourage healthy coping mechanisms including therapy and finding other things to give her joy. I am not helping her wallow in misery or fueling her anger in any way,...

7. Thank you for the kind words. D__k really sucks and will most likely continue to suck as long as he lives.

No promises that if I bump into him while I’m in town I won’t spit in his face and tell him he’s disgusting. (I wouldn’t literally spit in his face...

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The heart of this story is betrayal on a massive scale. A man maintained two long-term relationships for over a decade, manipulating both women with lies, divided holidays, and separate social worlds. When he finally chose one, the revelation destroyed both, leaving deep emotional wounds.

The daughter’s call to the other woman came from protective anger but also genuine empathy — she believed the truth would set her free. What emerged was a shared experience of deception that allowed the two women to bond over their pain. This connection often becomes a powerful part of healing after narcissistic abuse.

Therapist Dr. Ramani Durvasula, an expert on narcissism, has explained that “victims of long-term deception often heal faster when they connect with others who truly understand the manipulation.” Here, the two women’s mutual support counters the isolation the man created.

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Practical healing focuses on boundaries and self-care. The daughter is already doing this by being present, encouraging therapy, and shifting from revenge to recovery. Both women should limit contact with the ex, document any harassment if it occurs, and lean on trusted friends or professionals. Time, truth, and genuine connection usually do more damage to the narcissist than any direct revenge ever could.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Social media responses were overwhelmingly supportive of the daughter’s actions, praising her for protecting her mom and exposing the truth to the other woman.

Many called the man a “dirt bag” or worse, and celebrated that he ended up alone:

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pgsmom − Yes! I’m glad you stood up for your mom and in the process also enlightened the other woman! I’m glad he has neither one now. He doesn’t deserve...

I hope your mom and this other woman form a friendship and get through this together! Kudos to you for how you handled everything. 🫶

Oldgal_misspt − I’m so glad you called the other woman so she could know the truth about D__k. D__k is a piece of trash, but you are an awesome daughter.

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Smarterthntheavgbear − D__k is a dirt bag! On behalf of women everywhere, your Mom should junk punch him! A deep, heartfelt hug to your Mom.

[Reddit User] − Wow! !!! Your poor mom. 😩 I am glad the other woman could find out about this guy's double life. Both women deserve better! I'm so sorry....

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Several suggested creative or public ways to expose him, while others shared similar stories:

Yogiktor − Post his pic to TikTok "are we dating the same man" Out the f__ker. A database where we can quickly identify these scumbags would be great. Like a...

GeekGirl711 − I’m spiteful, I would continue to keep track of this guy and tell every women the story and to be ‘careful’.

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Kat-a-strophy − Your mum and the other lady should throw a party together and invite him and his both friends groups. It could be funny

brokenhartted − I've been in a similar situation. In my case, I was the woman that was completely duped. I'd known my "D__k" for 8 years before I discovered that...

It was good to know the truth, but I'd caution against being involved with the other woman. These men are sneaky. They come back around to see if you are...

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I didn't resume our relationship but I wondered if he was sincere- only to learn the he was already with a new woman and was also hitting up the one...

I did and I've been no contact with him and the other woman for over two years. It wasn't until I did that- that I truly healed. It's taken me...

A few offered warnings or humorous takes:

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daffodil0127 − Be careful. My friend was in a relationship with a guy who was married and living a double life, she had no idea. He bought her a house...

He told her he had to do a lot of work on it and she could come when he was done. She decided to surprise him and showed up. A...

And he had enough time to disappear, which is what he did, and he hasn’t been found. Men can be dangerous when they’re about to lose something they consider theirs....

This story reveals how deeply a long-term deception can wound, especially later in life when trust feels harder to rebuild. The man’s calculated double life was cruel, but the daughter’s call turned his plan upside down — leaving him isolated while the two women found solidarity in shared truth.

It shows that real strength often comes from honesty and connection, not revenge. The mother’s healing journey, supported by her daughter and now a new friend, proves that even after profound betrayal, people can reclaim joy. Would you make the call to the other woman in this situation, or would you leave it alone? How do you support someone close to you through the anger and grief of being lied to for years?

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