[FINAL UPDATE] She stole again. I (26M) threw my pregnant girlfriend (22F) out because she refuses to pay rent or her share of the bills?

In a quiet new home, a 26-year-old man unpacks boxes with a heavy heart, his trust shattered by his pregnant ex-girlfriend’s latest betrayal. What began as a hopeful cohabitation unraveled into a cycle of lies, unpaid rent, and stolen cash, culminating in a final act of theft that broke their bond for good.

This Reddit saga, laced with raw honesty and a touch of resolve, charts a man’s journey from frustration to freedom. As he faces an uncertain future with a potential child, his story of standing firm against deceit resonates, inviting us to reflect on trust, boundaries, and second chances gone wrong.

For those who want to read the previous part: Original post, update

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‘[FINAL UPDATE] She stole again. I (26M) threw my pregnant girlfriend (22F) out because she refuses to pay rent or her share of the bills?’

After a couple of weeks or learning she was sleeping around on family members or friends sofas I allowed her back into the house given that she is pregnant. Around a month ago. Out of concern for the baby really given she’s now 8 months pregnant. Stupid on my part and I’m now going to explain why I regret it.

I’ve recently moved house (a couple of months ago) and she was involved in the packaging and unpacking whilst I was out. Mainly unpacking. I had a pretty large stack of cash in the drawer of a cabinet in living room. Around £400-500. This was a Christmas gift from my parents. During this time I also sold a lot of old furniture including a sofa which she begged and begged for me to sell it to her mother.

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I begrudgingly accepted this. She told me her mother had asked to borrow the money from her repeatedly to buy it from me and asked if she could pay a couple of weeks after she took it. No biggie, that’s fine I tell her. Her mother collects the sofa, giving me £100 cash initially and tells me the rest will be with me in a week.

A week comes round and she tells me it’ll be next month but she’s not happy as it’s collapsed and I need to come take a look. I tell her it was fine was she collected it and I’m not taking a look. Basically if you don’t want it I’ll collect it and sell it to someone who wants to pay. She tells me I’m not welcome in their house.

My girlfriend (ex) told her there was nothing wrong with the sofa at all when it was collected and her mother tells her she’s also not welcome. My ex then flips it onto me telling me I’m controlling and she didn’t need to get involved to fall out with her family. I didn’t make her but I told her it showed where her priorities lie when she’s defending them and not wanting to get involved over them screwing me over. It was left at that.

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Back to the money, I went to see where the money went and searched the entire house. It’s not there but everything that was unpacked was there, even pointless s**t like a blown light bulb was packed and unpacked. I ask her where the money is and she immediately gets defensive. Tells me “it’s somewhere” and immediately I think “this is all the same answers as last time.”

It then dawned on me that the money I was gifted, was in £10 notes and the money I was part paid for my sofa was also in £10 notes so my suspicion is she’s stole my money for her to hand to her mother to pay me. I’ve basically paid myself minus what been taken. I confronted her and she replied “even if I did admit it to try and sort things I don’t care about you anymore anyway so I don’t need to.”

Probably makes sense why she was trying to take a loan out roughly the same time she would’ve taken the money. So there we have it, I let her stop for a while and this is where it’s landed me. Her stealing again. Whilst I have no solid proof whatsoever it could only be her that took it and if everything else got unpacked then she’s certainly took it.

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Shes now threatening to out me to people for who I really am (a victim of theft I guess?) and she’ll tell everyone how awful I am and not to bother contacting her. I’ve thrown her back out again for the very last time and I’m just relieved.

Not sad at all. Whilst I have no proof her reaction is all the proof I need. Now I’m forcing a DNA test at birth and will fight to make sure no child of mine is brought up in a family like hers. She is poison. People like her don’t change. They just take more.

This man’s decision to end the relationship reflects a painful but necessary stand against a pattern of deceit. His ex’s actions—stealing, gambling, and prioritizing her family’s demands—signal deep-rooted issues, likely tied to her upbringing, that undermined their partnership. Her refusal to share bank statements or take responsibility, even when pregnant, eroded trust beyond repair.

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From her perspective, guilt and familial pressure may drive her choices, but her deflection and dishonesty suggest an unwillingness to change. Dr. John Gottman, a relationship expert, notes, “Trust is built through accountability and transparency, especially in financial matters” (Gottman Institute). The man’s ultimatum was a fair attempt to rebuild, but her relapse into old habits sealed the outcome.

Financial conflicts are common in relationships. A 2022 study in the Journal of Family and Economic Issues found that 55% of couples cite money disputes as a primary breakup cause, with transparency being key to resolution (JFEI). Her pregnancy adds complexity, but his focus on a DNA test and custody shows commitment to his potential child, not her.

For advice, he should document all incidents for legal leverage in custody battles, consult a lawyer to navigate DNA testing, and limit contact to child-related matters. Therapy could help him process the betrayal and set boundaries. For others, trust your instincts—if a partner’s actions consistently harm you, walking away is strength, not failure.

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Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

Reddit’s chorus of support and sharp advice lights up this update with candor and care. From legal tips to blunt warnings, here’s what the community tossed into the mix for this dramatic split:

ScaryButterscotch474 − It would help if you had evidence of the gambling, stealing and lying. You are going to need it in your custody battle.

szu − You're screwed mate. You should sincerely hope that you're not the father otherwise you'll have a *lifetime* of misery ahead. It's not going to end at 18 or 21 because even when your child is 40, your ex will still guilt-trip them into asking you for money.

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You're totally and completely screwed. The best option going forwards is to record/film everything and pursue sole custody but that's unlikely because courts usually start at 50/50. This is if she puts down your name on the birth certificate of course. If she doesn't you'll have to fight through the courts to get a DNA test. Forcing your ex to comply will also be another hurdle.. Good Luck.

LeoSolaris − Find a good lawyer who can pull all of these financial shenanigans out to make the case that you should have sole custody. She is so clearly an unfit parent that it should be criminal for her to keep pets, let alone children.

Amar_Akbar_Anthony20 − I am sorry but why the f**k are you guys having a child?!

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Petraretrograde − I dont know if you realize YOURE the one gambling every time you let her back in, dude.

TheBookOfTormund − You left $500 in cash laying around AFTER the first 3 posts? Why?

[Reddit User] − Why the hell did you get pregnant?? Honestly, do your duty as a dad- pay what you need to pay and split way. Sort custody and go on with your life. Her family have bled her dry through guilt but she is an adult and can say no which she clearly doesn't do.

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Corfiz74 − Please tell all the people you care about about the gambling and stealing, or she'll ruin your reputation and relationships with her lies! And PLEASE prepare to go for full custody of the child after it's born, if it's yours - if you leave the poor thing under her influence, you have her and her mother as a carbon copy of how they will turn out.

Document every interaction you have and have had with her, her gambling, her irresponsible finances, her spells of homelessness, her stealing - everything. Make screenshots of your chats, in case she deletes. Write down as many of her past transgressions with dates as you can remember, to show a pattern. Get the best lawyer. She should only get supervised visitation - and not at your place, in case she goes for your valuables again.

Fatscot − You have fucked up that poor kids life. Born into that cluster f**k of a family to a mother with no spine, it’s doomed

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cassowary32 − If child support where you live is 20% of your income, your girlfriend has basically guaranteed that she's doubled her income with this baby. You've made a huge mistake taking her back in. You need to separate and get her out of your house. Don't make the mistake to trying to 'make things work', you'll end up with more kids with a gambling addict who keeps robbing you blind.

These Redditors are rooting for justice, but do their calls for custody and caution fully address the mess, or is there more to navigating this fallout?

This story of a man breaking free from a toxic cycle underscores the power of boundaries when trust is broken. Whether you’re cheering his resolve or pondering the child’s future, his journey speaks to anyone who’s faced betrayal in love. Have you ever had to cut ties to protect yourself or fought for a child’s well-being? Share your stories or insights below—what’s the key to moving on after trust is shattered?

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