AITAH my parents kicked me out the house with no warning.

A suburban curb became a battleground for a 21-year-old man when he returned home to find his life packed in boxes, tossed out by his parents. Just weeks after his father’s car crash left him stranded, his mother’s demand for repair cost repayment sparked a firestorm, ending with a shocking eviction. Even his dad, the crash’s culprit, sided with her, leaving him stunned.

This Reddit update screeches into a drama of betrayal and deflected blame. It’s a gut-wrenching tale of family ties snapping, asking: when parents turn on you over their own mistakes, where do you go from here?

For those who want to read the previous part: Original post

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AITAH my parents kicked me out the house with no warning.’

After that I thought it was done and over. My mom made a comment about it here and there but it didn’t seem to seriously bother her. Until about a week and a half ago. She demanded that I pay them all the money from my car expenses back.

She said it wasn’t fair she lost money to an accident she didn’t cause. And I think thats fair, but I reminded her that I didn’t cause it either. Dad caused the accident and I told her I’m sorry that it ended up affecting her as well. But that didn’t change the fact my car had to be fixed and it was Dad’s responsibility.

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She got really mad at that and started on a rant about how it was unfair and I was using them for money. And what was my dad’s response to all this? He just agreed with her. I ended up just telling her what I’ve already said because there was honestly nothing else to say. She’s been very upset with me since then.

But she never mentioned any possibility of kicking me out. So imagine my surprise a couple days ago when I came home to all of my stuff being outside of the house in boxes. Literally on the curb. I was honestly shocked(and mad) about this and I immediately went in the house to question my parents about this.

My mom said that she was tired of letting someone so ungrateful live in her house. My dad just repeated what my mom said but in a kinder way because I guess he thought she was being harsh. I couldn’t believe it. I asked her to explain how I have been being ungrateful and she responded by basically saying we raised you.

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We went back and fourth for a bit and we were both pretty mad at each other. Then my mom told me to leave the house or else she would call the police on me. I have no idea if anything actually would have came of hat situation. But at that point I was so confused and angry that I just went outside and called around to find someone I was able to stay with.

I ended up sleeping at a friends house. It’s been a couple days now and siblings have both been calling me. I guess my parents must have told them what happened. I’m assuming it was specifically my mom bad talking me to them. My sister agrees with my mom and says I should have just paid the money back.

My brother agrees that it was unfair for them to kick me out, but also says I should have just paid the money back. My dad has also been trying to reach me, but honestly I’ve just been too mad to pick up the phone for him. I’m just so shocked by the whole situation.

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I wouldn’t say me and my parent’s relationship has always been easy street but it’s never been this bad. I honestly thought we were good until all this. The worst part is I was planning to move out and rent and apartment with a friend once their lease was up in 2 months.

My parents knew that and still decided to do this. I’m just so confused and I don’t understand we’re they’re coming from. I get they raised me and took care of me and all that, but I just feel like that doesn’t give them the right to do this all of a sudden. I don’t think I did anything wrong. So honestly AITAH in this situation?

The OP’s dropped an update on the saga—curious? Click here to check it out!

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Evicting a son over a car crash he didn’t cause? That’s a family crash no one saw coming. The mother’s demand for repayment, despite her husband’s fault, and the father’s passive agreement reveal a troubling dodge of accountability. Throwing his belongings on the curb without warning isn’t just harsh—it’s a power play that screams dysfunction.

Family conflicts over money often mask deeper issues, with 40% of U.S. families reporting financial disputes, per the American Psychological Association. Dr. John Gottman, a family therapist, notes, “Healthy families resolve conflicts with fairness, not ultimatums.” The parents’ refusal to own the father’s role and their abrupt eviction betray a lack of empathy.

The son’s shock is compounded by his siblings’ mixed reactions, with some echoing the parents’ blame. He could seek legal recourse, as eviction laws often require notice, but this risks further family fallout. For now, securing a stable place to stay and limiting contact may protect his peace.

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Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

Reddit’s back with takes spicier than a tailgate chili cook-off! The community weighs in with outrage, advice, and a sprinkle of snark:

Humble_Finish4682 − NTA. Your dad is not accepting responsibility for what he did. He's hiding behind your moms argument that she didn't cause this. Which is kind of wrong, if it was a strangers car that he crashed and he had to pay, and they used for it any assets your dad own including some that is joint by your mom would also be fair game.

As she is married to him then they are one unit in the eyes of some institutions. Either way, I'm sorry you're going though this and I'm glad you have a friend you can count on and also a place to move to in a few months. Make sure you have all your important documents and anything else so that if you want to speak to them again its on your terms.

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Any-Expression2246 − You're not responsible for the accident, so there's no way you're responsible for the money.. It's fine if they want you out, but that's not the way to do it.. Do your best, find a place, live your life. When they come crawling back, tell them to f**k off.. Warn your siblings they'll probably do the same to them.

kcianfichi − NTA. Your parents brought you into this world and were 100 % obligated to raise you, feed you, clothe you etc. You do not owe them for that. Your dad wrecked your car. The right thing to do is for your dad to fix it and pay for it. What your parents did was hurtful and just plain wrong. I’m sorry you had to go through this.

FordWarrier − My guess is that had you wrecked their car, they would’ve expected you to pay for the damages. I would ask them. Packing up your things and putting them outside was pretty dirty but it is, what it is. You planned to move out in a couple of months, so just consider this an early out.

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Hopefully you can couch surf for a few weeks. Let your mother’s calls go to voicemail but answer your dad if he calls again. That would be the time to ask him if he would expect to pay damages if you’d wrecked his car. Depending on his answer you can decide whether you’ll pay him back or not.. NTA

Firm_Profile_2079 − Your mom’s delusional and your father lacks integrity and doesn’t know what the word accountability means. Screen shot this, send it to him and tell him he’s a gatherer

luckystrike_bh − Why do neither of you have insurance? Was your dad not covered under your policy? BTW, most states have laws that govern evictions. You were living there long term and you were entitled to go through the eviction process. You can't just make someone homeless without going through the steps.

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OkExternal7904 − You have a fucked up family my friend. Their thinking is ridiculous. They would lose in a small claims court in America unless they all straight up lie under oath. Why wasn't your car insured? Maybe you only had liability coverage for the other driver's car? This sounds like bizarro world!

NatureCarolynGate − I not sure which one of your parents is more evil than the other. Your egg donor is psychotic and running around like an angry middle school mean-girl dumping on you to who ever will listen to her for no good reason. Oh, but your sperm donor is a weasel and POS. He caused the accident.

He could have waited for egg donor to get home. He takes NO responsibility for what he did. Then he doesn’t stand up for you when egg donor behaves like a two year old demanding a toy. He let you down when you were kicked out. Put aside your insane and childish egg donor for a moment - your piece of donkey s**t sperm dripper caused this mess and threw you under the bus like the slimy little bitc@ (female dog) he is.

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If I were you I could never respect him or look at him like a man again. He permanently gave up his respect, father, and man cards by treating you the way he treated you and I would wager this is only one of many times he willing give his balls to your pathetic excuse for a female parent.

I would go NC with both of them for at least 10 years (and only contact your brother but refuse to give him your address because he will give you up too). But if I ever was in the presence of you sperm donor I will only address him as ‘little bitc@‘ because that is what he is and given his age and lack of spine he is never going to change. He will just continue to let you down.. NTA

OneChange2826 − Your mother and father are TAH AND POS

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natteringly − NTA.. And then parents wonder why they're estranged from their children... OP, look into the r/EstrangedAdultChild and r/raisedbynarcissists subs. I have a feeling you'll recognize a lot of the behaviour you read about there.

These opinions fuel the fire, but do they offer a roadmap out of this mess, or just fan the flames of resentment?

This update lays bare a family unraveling over a crash and a curb-side betrayal. The son’s stand against unfair repayment demands cost him his home, revealing how quickly parental support can vanish. Can he rebuild trust with his family, or is cutting ties the only path forward? What would you do when family turns your life upside down? Share your thoughts below and let’s unpack this chaos!

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