AITAH for telling my parents that I don’t want to babysit my little sister while they come down to Vegas?

When does family obligation become unfair? An 18-year-old woman faced this question when her parents asked her to babysit her younger sister during their Las Vegas trip. Having been treated as a free babysitter in the past, she refused, citing the city’s risks and her parents’ history of disrespect. Was she wrong to say no?

Her firm stance led to a guilt trip from her stepmother. Past incidents, including her father’s disruptive behavior, fueled her decision. Social media users debated her choice, praising her boundaries. This story explores the tension between family expectations and personal autonomy in a challenging environment.

‘AITAH for telling my parents that I don’t want to babysit my little sister while they come down to Vegas?’

The woman rejected her parents’ invitation to visit them.

I (18F) am about to hit my year mark of living in Vegas with my sister (32F) and her boyfriend (32M). Yesterday my step mom(40+ I believe)who I call my...

I told them no because I didn't want to deal with the flooded airports and I already visited for my sister's birthday and Halloween in October.

That one trip was awful, I slept on a bed that made me sore down to my bone, they had nearly zero food, and the whole time they practically treated...

Her parents asked her to watch her sister in Vegas.

So I told them no, and then they moved on and brought up them planning to come down to Vegas with their 3rd grade daughter and asked if I could...

I told them no, because they were asking me to watch her in a hotel room and not my place, and that I'm no longer their free babysitter. I've always...

Then afterwords I was forced to watch my sister go on rides that she could go on, I just wanted to go on one ride and I couldn't even do...

Her stepmother tried to guilt her into agreeing.

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When I said no and continued to tell them no my step mom still asked again with "we would like her to have the experience" and I told her "no,...

who my father still hasn't apologized to for ruining my sister's boyfriend's birthday (I went out with them with permission from my parents and he still came and tried to...

When I wouldn't leave with them they called the cops and my birth mom who he was and is divorced to and caused a whole s**t show that made the...

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She raised concerns about Vegas’s dangers for a child.

So I told her "That's not the issue, the issue is Vegas is NOT kid friendly, it's one of the highest s*x trafficking states in America, and with the fact...

I still have to watch my back and how can I watch my back if I have to watch hers." Her reaction was "It wouldn't be a whole day it...

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She refused and proposed a compromise her parents rejected.

I straight up told her "No, because she's a kid you can't go into casinos with her and that's why you're asking me but that's not my problem, I didn't...

Having a kid means not having all the freedoms you used to have, and that's the issue because I have no car or money, I have no way to go...

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I told her I talked to my sister and me and her came up with the idea since she doesn't want them to see where we live and since my...

(the birthday was not the first time he called cops for no reason and he still refuses to apologize) that they would like to sit down and have a dinner...

and then bring her back whenever they wanted. Which they said no to which I know for a fact is only because I brought up my older sister.

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Their reply to that was "well we don't want to put your little sister through all that, I'm sorry it's such an issue." And I haven't replied. They haven't messaged...

She addressed concerns about her reasoning.

EDIT: Tysm everybody for the advice, I do have a tendency to try and explain myself to not feel guilty on things like this.

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As for the s__ trafficking, I wasn't trying to use it as an excuse I was trying to bring it up as more.of something to seriously think about because it's...

EDIT 2: I have to agree that yes, some parents can bring their kids to Vegas and be responsible enough to have them safe, but my parents are NOT responsible...

So yes, while I feel the Vegas point will not work on everyone, it works here because I know my parents, and I just don't believe they're responsible enough to...

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An 18-year-old woman refused to babysit her younger sister during her parents’ Las Vegas trip. Past experiences, including being treated as a free babysitter, justified her stance. Her parents’ history of irresponsibility, like causing a scene at a birthday party, eroded trust. Her concerns about Vegas’s safety, though exaggerated, reflect genuine worry.

Her parents’ guilt-tripping and refusal to apologize show a lack of respect. Forcing an older child into a caregiving role, known as parentification, can harm development. Her boundary-setting is a healthy response. A compromise, like a dinner to rebuild trust, was reasonable but rejected. “Boundaries are crucial for young adults asserting independence.” — Dr. Lisa Damour (psychologist), Untangled, 2016.

She should continue saying no without over-explaining. Therapy could help her manage guilt. Society often expects young women to prioritize family over themselves, but autonomy is vital. This situation prompts reflection on balancing family duties with personal freedom.

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Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

Social media users supported the woman’s refusal to babysit. They praised her boundaries and criticized her parents’ irresponsibility, urging her to stay firm without over-explaining.

Most users affirmed her right to say no. They condemned her parents’ behavior.

BigStickyLoads − NTA But also, when you say "No", don't explain. Consider reading the book "When I Say No, I Feel Guilty". Unfortunately, sadly, one of the best ways to...

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So, if you say "No" and they keep asking, just ignore them for ~2 days. If they then bring up you not responding, you reply with something innocuous, like "Oh,...

Odd-End-1405 − NTA No is a complete sentence, don't try to add justifications and such. Some of yours are a bit convoluted and not relevant. Just stick to NO! Don't...

TXCRH67 − NTA. The word NO is a complete sentence. No explanations are necessary.

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FatBloke4 − NTA You are not your sister's parent. You are not obliged to care for her and it is not your problem to resolve - that's a problem for...

Existing_Winter5679 − NTA. But stop coming up with excuses. You don't live with them anymore, so just be direct. "No. " "Because I'm not a free babysitter" "Because I'm not...

"Because we don't want you here" They're welcome to take a trip to Vegas, but you and your sister will not be answering their calls or texts, babysitting, meeting with...

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You are an adult, you don't live with them anymore, and frankly, they're a pair of assholes that you just don't want to associate with anymore. Hopefully that will be...

popoPitifulme − This makes me think of one of my favorite Phoebe memes (from Friends), "I wish I could, but I don't want to. "

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meditatinganopenmind − "I'm going to the casinos. Watch my kid. I'll be back in an hour or so". Yah. No way. Not gonna happen. You've obviously been taken advantage of...

Now you're smart and you've got firm boundaries. You are very impressive for someone as young as you are. Some people never learn to stick up for themselves. You may...

Users highlighted the parents’ irresponsibility and manipulation.

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kikivee612 − NTA Stop giving them a reason. Your answer should suffice. Honestly, I think you need to set a boundary for them to stop trying to get you to...

I would send them one final message and then cut contact for a while. “Parents, I’m very hurt that you contacted me about coming to Vegas only to ask me...

I came all the way there to visit you a couple of months ago and instead of wanting to spend time with me, you used that visit to pawn little...

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For now, I think it’s best that we do not keep in contact. You still have not apologized for what you did at sister’s boyfriend’s birthday and you don’t seem...

WilsIrish − NTA. Parentification is a serious problem. So is fobbing off babysitting onto older siblings. And it’s messed up.

I just heard another story where the OP demanded to pay his own way and for his own room, to avoid a repeat of the previous year where he was...

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Rodharet50399 − NTA who brings a 3rd grader to Vegas for “the experience” unless they mean the experience of being foisted off while they gamble and party. No means not...

dinkidoo7693 − NTA- they shouldn't be going to Vegas with a kid. I wouldn’t take my daughter there. You need to stop explaining everything. You said no. Next time if...

Some suggested alternatives or questioned Vegas’s suitability.

Low-Combination-8363 − Since you are short of money, you could tell them that for $20 an hour plus spending money you will watch her.

Then insist on a $500 deposit before hand. Then just watch tv in the hotel room and order room service. When you get close to using up the deposit say...

Accurate_Fuel_610 − NTA. As others have said “NO” is a complete sentence. If they don’t get why but keep pestering, just ignore or send them links to babysitting services in...

I’ve been taking my kids to Vegas since they were babies (grandfather lived there) and there are plenty of kid-friendly, smoke-free and casino-free hotels. And every kid-friendly hotel has really...

DarthKiwiChris − I suggest you also quietly disappear that week. Guarantee they will still show up

This story highlights the importance of setting boundaries with family. The woman’s refusal to babysit reflects her need for respect and autonomy. Her parents’ guilt-tripping and past irresponsibility justify her stance. A clear “no” without over-explaining is her best approach. Professional childcare services could solve their issue. How would you handle parents who expect you to prioritize their needs over your own?

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