AITAH for saying to by wife’s best friend to never set foot in my home again after she tried to make me cheat on my wife?

He just wanted to help his wife’s best friend, Jane, by letting her stay in their apartment. Jane, Kate’s childhood friend, moved in temporarily after returning from abroad. But her constant intrusions on their privacy as newlyweds quickly became a problem, and things took a dark turn when Jane tried to seduce him, leading to a heated confrontation.

After kicking Jane out, he was stunned when Kate believed her friend’s claim that he attacked her. Now, Kate calls him a “monster” and threatens divorce unless he apologizes. Was he wrong to protect his marriage? This story has sparked fierce debates about trust, loyalty, and betrayal.

‘AITAH for saying to by wife’s best friend to never set foot in my home again after she tried to make me cheat on my wife?’

It all started when his wife’s best friend moved in:

Jane quickly disrupted the couple’s life:

He tried to set boundaries, but Jane wouldn’t budge:

Jane tried to sow doubt about Kate’s loyalty:

Things escalated when Jane crossed a major line:

Jane turned aggressive, forcing him to act:

Kate believed Jane, causing a serious rift:

This story exposes the fragile nature of trust in a marriage and the dangers of outside interference. OP tried to support his wife’s friend, Jane, by letting her stay, but her constant disruptions and attempt to seduce him crossed a major line. When Jane falsely accused him of assault, Kate’s choice to believe her friend over him shattered their newlywed bond.

Relationship expert John Gottman emphasizes, “Trust is the bedrock of marriage, and rebuilding it requires mutual understanding” (The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work). Kate’s decision to side with Jane, despite their four-year relationship, suggests a lack of trust in OP. Jane’s manipulative tactics—disrupting their privacy, sowing doubt about Kate’s loyalty, and making false accusations—point to an intent to sabotage their marriage.

OP was right to remove Jane from his home, especially after her aggressive behavior. However, his explanation to Kate—saying he “could have” overpowered Jane—may have been misinterpreted as a threat, escalating the misunderstanding. Kate’s loyalty to Jane, rooted in their childhood bond, may cloud her judgment, but her demand that OP apologize and leave their home shows a lack of respect for their marriage.

OP should seek a calm conversation with Kate, possibly with a marriage counselor’s help, to clarify the events and highlight Jane’s actions. The landlord’s testimony could support his case. If Kate refuses to listen, OP must consider whether this marriage is salvageable. Consulting a lawyer to protect himself from Jane’s false accusations is also crucial to safeguard his reputation and assets.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

Most supported OP, urging him to protect himself:

Some questioned the story’s details:

OP tried to protect his marriage when faced with Jane’s betrayal, but Kate’s choice to believe her friend over him cracked their trust. Jane’s false accusations and Kate’s demand for an apology reveal a deep lack of respect in their young marriage. Was OP too quick to kick Jane out, or was it his only option?

Can OP and Kate rebuild after this betrayal? Will Kate ever see the truth about her friend? Share your thoughts below and let’s keep this conversation going!