AITAH for giving tenants notice because the building keeps being vandalized because of their daughter?

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‘AITAH for giving tenants notice because the building keeps being vandalized because of their daughter?’

Owning a cozy four-unit haven meant wearing multiple hats, but recent shadows shattered the serenity.

I have a 4 unit apartment building that I also live in. Recently we've been having a lot of vandalism (broken windows, spray paint, and etc.) because of the daughter...

There have been at least 6 incidents in the last month (that I know of). Several before that. The girl I guess got in trouble with some other kids at...

Burden of repairs and rising fears weighed heavy, prompting a protective pivot.

It's a lot to have to deal with fixing all these issues and the cost of it. I can of course also make claims to my insurance, but I don't...

Also to be honest it makes me nervous having such destructive people targeting the place I live and I know my other tenants also feel unsafe.

Resolution came swift, though laced with tenant turmoil.

I felt the best solution was to get rid of these tenants. So I gave them 30 days notice. They're especially upset about it because I'm putting more stress on...

The dad of the family actually said I am f__king evil. But at this point I feel like maybe it would be in everyone's best interest for them to move....

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Clarifications confirmed the crisis’s roots, underscoring urgency.

edit. The tenants have confirmed the vandalism is because of them. Also there are already cameras and the police have been involved.

This dilemma pivots on a landlord’s eviction push amid teen-targeted vandalism, balancing repair woes and resident jitters against a family’s bullying burdens. The decision safeguards the building’s sanctity and other tenants’ security, yet heaps housing havoc on the afflicted unit, stirring ethics around unintended punishment for victims. Tensions spike from financial fears and safety shakes, where one month’s malice mandates moves that ripple relational rifts.

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The landlord’s logic leans on liability limits, his live-in stake amplifying anxiety over endless fixes and fear’s footprint, viewing separation as swift shelter for the structure. The tenants, however, grapple with grief’s grip, their daughter’s distress doubled by displacement dread, framing the notice as neglectful amid their no-fault nightmare. Dialogue dipped into defensiveness, with the dad’s “evil” outburst underscoring unspoken pleas for partnership over parting, eroding empathy in the exchange.

Housing advocate Matthew Desmond notes that “Evictions don’t just displace families—they destabilize dreams, turning homes into hurdles for healing” (Desmond, Evicted, 2016). This lens sharpens the stakes, as the 30-day dash ignores instability’s iceberg, where bullying’s blowback burdens the blameless, potentially perpetuating cycles of chaos over collaborative curbs like communal cameras or school summonses.

Advance with alliance: convene a crisis council with tenants and cops for fortified fixes—floodlights, fakeouts, or family funds for temp relos—easing eviction’s edge. Offer transition aid like reference letters or resource rosters to soften the send-off, and log lessons for lease clauses on liability shares. Therapy touchpoints for all, perhaps via community coalitions, can knit nerves, ensuring equity edges out expedience in this entangled tenancy tango.

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Here’s what people had to say to OP:

Social media split sharply on this sticky situation, with some saluting the landlord’s line-drawing as level-headed and others slamming it as shortsighted cruelty toward the caught-in-crossfire clan. The debate danced between duty to dwellers and decency to the distressed, urging unity over upheaval.

Defenders doubled down on NTA, prioritizing property and peace for the populace.

jrm1102 − NTA *Original comment - How do you know for certain this is why the building has been vandalized? * - answered: family informed OP about this. Edit -...

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I think OP should do all they can to keep the family in their home (like what they already are - sharing camera footage, working with the cops, etc). But...

Critics cried YTA, casting the cull as callous to the kid’s plight.

BreadAndRosa − YTA So unless I'm reading this incorrectly, the daughter isn't doing the vandalism, but is a victim of it? You say you think it's best for everybody if...

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Now the family has to deal with bullying AND housing insecurity with only 30 days notice in the middle of a housing crisis. Also, data would suggest that you're wrong...

Check out the Eviction Lab. [Here is an article on the impact of kids and eviction from respected sociologist Matt Desmond. ]So yeah, you're inconvenienced and you decided to make...

I hope you lose your eviction hearing. Being a landlord is tough, but that's the risk you run for having other people pay your mortgage while you build all the...

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You should have worked with the police to protect your property. You should probably sell your building and get a single family home if being a landlord is so hard....

GateDeep3282 − YTA. sorry, a 30 notice is just plain cruel, especially in thos economy. Now, this family has to come up with first and last month's payment plus security...

You are really an a__hole. Maybe a 90-day warning and working with the tenants and police to clear this up would be appropriate.

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Teens who behave like this typically lose attention and move on after a bit. Being a landlord has risks, and this is one. Also, don't be surprised if there is...

ekita079 − YTA. I get it, I do. But seriously, imagine being a teenage girl being harassed so strongly at home and then knowing your family got evicted because of...

There are so many more things you could have done with the help of the tenant before giving them almost no notice to find another home AND pack up. Set...

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Idk man but you only have 3 other households to deal with. You can get the help of the family to protect their daughter, and then let the other two...

The police are already involved, and the chance of the vandalism stopping is actually low because they're still just gonna come at the house they think she lives in. Eviction...

Neutrals nudged for nuance, probing protections and precedents.

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Blazemeister − OP has the police offered any guidance or support? Better cameras, motion lights, maybe even they would be willing to do more patrols in the neighborhood or around...

[Reddit User] − Don't expect the vandalism to stop just because they've moved. The vandals won't know or won't care.

cappiebara − Do you know what happened at the school? It would suck if the daughter is being bullied and then the bullies get the daughters family evicted. That does...

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runner64 − INFO: why do you think the vandalism will stop when they are gone? Do bullies have a change-of-address form you can submit?

MadM00NIE − So you’re asking Reddit if evicting a child that is already being bullied makes you an a__hole?

thexerox123 − It's not "because of their daughter". What kind of victim blaming b__lshit is that? ? She's being targeted, and you want to seriously threaten her family's stability on...

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KnowsIittle − I feel like offering safety to a residence is a bare minimum. Does your building not have cameras or security of any kind?

br_612 − At the end of the day you’re evicting the victims of a crime for being the victims of a crime. Does that really sit okay on your soul?...

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burkieim − Seems like you’re punishing the wrong people to be honest. It’s not you. It’s not them. It’s not their daughter. It’s dickheads at the daughter’s school that are...

And now her parents and her are being evicted because of her bullies. If the police are involved. Why punish the family? I get that it’s irritating for you, but...

So your response of “get out in 30 days” seems awfully cruel. It also doesn’t guarantee that the vandalism won’t keep happening. The kids have been doing it and getting...

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They might just keep doing it. Other commenters are right.Better safety precautions like lights and cameras. Not eviction over something they can’t control

Radar1980 − So a girl is being targeted and victimized, and your solution is to take away their housing? Yeah YTA

This vandalized verdict vortex validates vigilance in volatile venues, yet it veers us toward vulnerability’s voice—where shielding structures shouldn’t shatter the shelterless, blending business brains with benevolent bridges. It beckons bolder blueprints, like barricades and backups, to banish bullies without banishing families, fostering fortresses that favor fortitude for all.

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Would you wield the notice or nurture the nest through the storm? How do you harmonize heart and holdings when harassment hits home?

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