AITA I bought a multipack of snacks to leave in my locker at work and I don’t think it’s weird?

Picture a bustling supermarket aisle, where a simple multipack of snacks lands in a shopping cart, sparking an unexpected marital tiff. Our OP, a practical office-goer, grabs a bulk pack of their favorite munchies to stash in their work locker—a savvy move to dodge pricey vending machines. But when their husband, a remote worker with a pantry at his fingertips, calls this “weird” and demands a shared pack, the cart wheels screech to a halt. Is keeping snacks at work a crime against coupledom?

This isn’t just about chips and pretzels—it’s a quirky clash of habits and expectations. OP’s logic screams convenience, but their husband’s grumble hints at something stickier: a dash of control or maybe snack envy. Reddit’s AITA community dives into this crunchy conundrum, munching on questions of fairness, autonomy, and spousal quirks. Let’s unpack this snack sack drama and see who’s got the saltier take.

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‘AITA I bought a multipack of snacks to leave in my locker at work and I don’t think it’s weird?’

AITA I bought a multipack of snacks to leave in my locker at work and I don't think it's weird. Today on a big food shop I bought a multipack of snacks to take into the office and leave in my locker at work. This makes sense to me for the following reasons:

It's a snack I used to buy from the office vending machine, so I buy it myself now to save money. - I keep a multipack in my locker so they're always on hand and I don't have to remember to pick them up everyday.. - I don't eat them everyday in the office, they're mainly a back-up so the pack lasts a while..

This is the scene as it happened, I put a pack intended for the office into our shopping trolley. My husband comes along and says he wants to get some of them, I say something like 'cool I have some for the office grab another for home'.

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I hadn't originally intended on getting another for home because we don't always go for that as a joint snack, I'd already picked up the snacks we regularly get.. He thinks it's weird for the following reasons:. - That I buy snacks we both like and take them to where he can't share them.

He thinks rather than buying 2 packs we should just spilt 1 in half or I should take a pack everyday. - I could do that but then I either have to remember every day or buy them more frequently. Makes more sense to me to just buy 1 for the office and 1 for home..

Extra info:. We both also buy snacks and food the other doesn't like for the house.. - He works full time remote. - At the time he basically just moaned that it was weird, I brought it back up because for me it's similar to him picking snacks he knows I don't like, so they're just for him by default.

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I don't have a problem with that tbh, so not sure why he has a problem with this.. He suggested asking the good people of reddit. So, is it weird that I buy a multipack of snacks to leave at work? Or is it weird that he has a problem with it?

AITA for buying snacks we both like with no intention of sharing them and suggesting we get a second pack when he said he wanted some?. Thanks!. Edit: Added my husband's take on events in the comments below and added the AITA line above..

Update:. Thanks for all your responses, nice to feel seen for my office snack stash. We talked more about it, I was feeling off and stewing on it and wanted to talk it through so it didn't happen again. Even though it was a throw away comment, he said similar things before and I don't like it.. The main points:.

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I felt it was controlling, and it irked me - He didn't like that I said he could get some for himself, rather than for the house. Made him feel like we weren't shopping together. Resolution:. - I've agreed to try to say for the house in future

He's agreed to understand that I mean for the house even if I don't say it, and that he's the weird one in this situation. - I'll be buying office snacks without the commentary in future. Overall, a pretty silly argument, thanks for sharing your thoughts.

A multipack of snacks shouldn’t spark a showdown, but OP’s office stash has stirred a surprising pot of marital tension. The husband’s “weird” label and push for shared snacks—or daily packing—suggests a subtle power play, while OP’s locker habit is pure practicality. This isn’t about snacks; it’s about autonomy and differing work-life realities.

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Dr. John Gottman, a relationship expert, notes, “Small conflicts often mask deeper needs for respect and understanding” keep snacks at work for convenience. His objection, per Gottman’s lens, may stem from feeling excluded from OP’s choices, amplified by his full-time homebound routine.

The husband’s suggestion to split a pack or pack daily ignores OP’s need for ease, hinting at control. OP’s retort—buy another pack—asserted independence but stung as dismissive. Dr. Gottman advises “turning toward” each other: OP could validate his feelings (“I get you want to share”) while explaining their logic (“This saves me stress at work”). The couple’s resolution—OP saying “for the house,” husband easing up—shows progress, but communication is key.

For solutions, OP should maintain their snack stash, reinforcing it’s a work necessity, not a slight. The husband could reflect on why OP’s autonomy bothers him, perhaps with a couples’ check-in to align on shopping habits. Future spats can be nipped with humor: “My locker snacks aren’t cheating on our pantry!”

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Heres what people had to say to OP:

Reddit munched on this tale like a fresh bag of chips, tossing out support, snark, and some tasty insights. It’s like a break room chat where everyone’s got a snack and a hot take. Here’s the crispy feedback from the crowd:

canvasshoes2 − NTA.. Dear OP's husband, You're being unnecessarily weird, illogical, and a PITA right now. Your wife's/the OP's reasoning is sound. If you like the snack and want the snack available then you, as a couple, should buy the snack the way it's the most convenient and the least expenditure of time and effort.

Having to go to the office is enough of a nuisance (I like my job, but commuting and all that crap that goes along with it is added work, effort, and stress). If your wife can do something which helps alleviate even a bit of that stress, why not go for it.

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It's not as if the snacks are ever being wasted or that you're spending more or anything. Lastly, you work at home. It's convenient and easy for you because you have every single thing you could possibly need as sustenance, right at your fingertips. C'mon now.

unlimited_insanity − First, why would he want you to spend extra money at the vending machines when you could plan ahead and bring your own supply? If you buy and split a home pack, you’re just going to go through it faster and revert to the vending machine until you can get back to the store.

This is a weird power trip, him expecting you to preplan and pack your snacks on a daily basis when he can just pop into the pantry with no forethought required. I don’t know what his deal is, but it’s a weird double standard, and there will be days you forget a snack and have to spend more buying at work, which seems really wasteful to me.

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StAlvis − NTA. He works full time remote.. So my dude has **no** need for wasteful, single-serving snack packs.. He can just eat from the kitchen pantry.

writesgud − This is such normal behavior I have to double-check: you're wondering whether it's ok to buy snacks for yourself and not only bring them to work, but to stock up? I am seriously failing to see the point of your husband's question. You get snacks your own way for work. If he likes yours as well, great, he can get some for himself too, in his own way, because he works someplace different than you.. NTA. And...WTF?

catskilkid − NTA. With his logic, you should never buy any snack while you are away from him if it's a snack both of you like. Here's the deal, how does this affect him? You like to buy in bulk for the convenience and the cost savings. He wants to deprive you of the convenience.

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Are you not allowed to eat types of food for lunch if he's not there? He needs to be the supervisor of the family snacks BUT ONLY if they are the type he likes as well? What a cold damp blanket. You are not the AH. He's being controlling and has failed to make a valid point (especially since he never was interested in buy the bulk snacks ever before)

dryadduinath − nta. does he also get shirty about mums keeping juiceboxes in their purse, or? idk. someone is being weird about this, but it’s not you. you’ve been doing this a while, it sounds like, and it so literally did not affect him he didn’t even notice, apparently. 

your office stash is in the office for a reason, and you don’t need to inconvenience yourself because …why? seriously, he doesn’t actually give a reason why you should stop doing the thing that works for you and does not affect him. this is a non starter. . if he wants snacks for home, good, great, go ahead. those are separate from your office snacks. 

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Thatpocket − NTA. When I worked in an office I kept shelf stable snacks there as it saved me time and effort and money. I don't understand his hang up over just buying a set for the house and a set for you to take to the office. You would be buying them often if both are snacking on them. He probably just has a Lil fomo. We all get it. 

Dangerous_Abalone528 − NTA. So HE has access to snacks you don’t have access to during the work day. But it’s weird for you to buy snacks he doesn’t have access to. What’s his logic again?

RecordNo2316 − NTA. I do the same as you. He’s being weird about it. The only exception would be if you don’t have the money to buy two packs but that doesn’t sound right.

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coffeefrog03 − It’s weird that he thinks it’s weird. NTA. You’re both adults - he can buy his snacks and you can buy snacks for work. It’s not an either/or. It’s a “we can do both”. What a strange thing for him to question - don’t people normally buy snacks to keep at work? Saves so much money!

These Redditors backed OP’s snack strategy, called out the husband’s odd control vibe, and puzzled over his pantry privilege. Some saw FOMO in his gripe; others urged OP to keep their locker loaded. But do these zesty takes bite into the core of this spat, or are they just sprinkling extra flavor?

OP’s snack stash was meant to fuel their workday, not spark a domestic dust-up, but it revealed how tiny choices can crunch a marriage’s harmony. By standing firm on their locker logic and talking it out, OP and their husband found a truce, proving even silly spats can teach teamwork. As OP stocks their locker sans commentary, they’re asking us: What would you do if your partner called your work habit “weird”? Drop your thoughts below and let’s keep this snack chat popping!

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