AITA for telling this girl to wait and not interrupt me mid set to ask “how many sets have I got left?”

A regular gym session turned into an awkward standoff when one person pushed for quick access to a machine, while another was deep in their final reps. It’s that classic clash over shared equipment that leaves everyone wondering who handled it best. The poster was focused, pushing through the burn on seated leg curls, when someone stepped right in front, waving to get attention mid-set.

What followed was a polite request to wait, met with a dismissive response. Clearly, the frustration on both sides was real, especially with the added worry about scaring off a potential newbie. These moments hit home for anyone who’s dealt with gym timing drama—they spark debates about courtesy, patience, and how we all share the space. Reactions poured in fast, with tons of folks weighing in on the unwritten rules.

AITA for telling this girl to wait and not interrupt me mid set to ask “how many sets have I got left?”

Things kicked off on a typical Monday with the poster starting strong on seated leg curls.

So another Monday at the gym, I’m starting my workout with some seated leg curls. I noticed this girl on the other side using two machines (the lying leg curl...

The intensity built as they hit the last set, keeping rests short and staying off the phone.

Well, I’m on my last set (i dont even take that long cause I keep my breaks to maybe 1-2 mins for this exercise and am never on my phone...

So anyway, I’m on my last set going all out, feeling the burn in my hamstrings, yk the kind where you’re almost grunting and just squeezing a few more reps,

Then came the unexpected wave and stand-right-there move.

where all of a sudden this girl comes and stands right in front of me with her hand literally on the machine and starts waving at me.

Ignoring it at first didn’t work, leading to the inevitable question.

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At first I ignore thinking she’d get the hint to wait but she doesn’t, keeps waving and trying to catch my eye. So finally, I stop, i already know she’s...

I take my airpods out and say “Could you please wait until I finish my set, this is my last set anyway.” To which she replied “It’s not a big...

Guilt crept in afterward, mixed with lingering annoyance.

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Now Idk if I was rude, I have never seen her in the gym before and I know almost all the folks that come around that time so she was...

I kinda feel bad, what if it was someone new to the gym and I ruined it for them. But also her reaction of making the face and saying “its...

This situation touches on basic respect in shared spaces like gyms, where focus and safety matter a lot. The poster stayed calm, politely asking for a moment to finish, while the other person pushed ahead anyway. From her side, maybe impatience kicked in, especially if she was juggling machines herself. New folks sometimes miss the cues, like waiting for a rest period instead of jumping in during reps.

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Broader themes pop up here, like reading social signals and giving people space when they’re clearly in the zone. Headphones and mid-rep effort are big hints to hold off. Relationship expert Dr. John Gottman has pointed out in his work on communication that avoiding unnecessary interruptions helps build respect—letting someone finish their “turn” keeps things smooth and considerate.

Practical tips for next time? Wait for eye contact or a break between sets to ask about equipment. If you’re the one interrupted, a quick nod or point to the weights can signal “one more.” Compromise works wonders, like offering to work in sets if the wait feels long. Kind words go far too—starting with “Sorry to bug you” softens things. Everyone wins when we prioritize patience over rushing.

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

Plenty of users jumped in to back the poster, stressing how dangerous and annoying mid-set interruptions can be.

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Tiny_Ad_5982 − You did the right thing. She can learn to ask at an appropriate time without putting you at risk, like everyone else does.

If "its not a big deal", then why does she feel the need to ask mid-set. This is common sense stuff for most gym goers. Wait until they are resting,...

No_Introduction1721 − NTA - her question can wait another 30 seconds. It’s very rude to disrupt people in the middle of their set.

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kimba-the-tabby-lion − NTA. This is not even gym etiquette, it's just etiquette. When someone is in the middle of an activity which you know is only going to be a...

wearing headphones and you keep waving at them rather than waiting for them to finish to speak to them, then their better be a fire or a revealing tear in...

If someone was on the phone and I wanted to speak with them, I would make my presence known, and then step back to allow them to pause or finish...

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Standing in their face and continually waving would be extremely rude, unless it was an emergency,

LadyCass79 − NTA If you are using the equipment, people need to wait until it's available. This is a passive-aggressive way to try to hurry you up,

and in the future, you don't owe an answer at all. I would just say, "Please don't bother me while I'm working out," and go about your day.

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HoldFastO2 − NTA. Interrupting someone is rude, unless it's an emergency - which this clearly wasn't. It was also pointless: if she'd just waited for you to finish your set,

you'd have gotten up anyway and saved the both of you that conversation. She needs an upgrade on gym etiquette. Or just etiquette, period.

Some offered more balanced takes, seeing room for understanding on both ends while still siding with waiting.

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Fabulous-Shallot1413 − My 19 year old hates that. She's my gym rat. She has told me the last time some dude tried to ask her about sets she said- well...

but since you interrupted me instead of having patience I think I'll do 3 more sets.

Witty-Menu-3585 − NTA It’s common gym courtesy to ask when people aren’t actively working out. I worked at a gym for four years, always told new sign ups this

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and if the person was being a h__ to come talk to staff. I work out at the Quebec version of a fit 4 less. There’s this couple that will...

The time they’ve done it to me, the exact same machine was beside the one I was using was open. So guess who did 4 extra sets?

My logic at the gym, is be kind, don’t bother people while they’re actively working out, don’t h__ machines/equipment and please wipe after you’re done. And also don’t be creepy.

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ncslazar7 − NTA, she should have waited until the end of your set not interrupted you.

Witty-Stock-4913 − NTA. I'm not a gym person and even I know not interrupt people while they're lifting heavy things. Wait until they're done with the reps and then talk.

4N_Immigrant − NTA that s__t is annoying. i have as many sets left as i have sets left. hover awkwardly or p__s off to another machine.

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A few brought the laughs, sharing petty revenge stories to lighten the mood.

AcanthisittaNo9122 − NTA. Someone did that to me once and actually I have only a few minute left on the elliptical but since she asked, I just stayed on the...

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WeirdAttorney − NTA If you have to ask do it at the end of a set, not when someone is clearly in the middle of one.

Showersandcereal − There is gym etiquette. It exists. There are certain rules that ought to be followed but often aren't. 1) Don't bother people while they are literally mid set.

2) If using a machine, be mindful that you don't own the gym. Be aware that other people want to use the machine too.

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Take your breaks, but don't use it as a chill out spot to browse social media. The fact that you're not on your phone is good. The lady bothering you...

ivylass − NTA. She was very rude. If it happens again just say, "Oh, today is leg day. I've got another half hour at least. "

-HeyImBroccoli- − As someone who almost got seriously injured while on the bench press because someone decided it was a good idea to tap my knee to get my attention...

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In the end, this gym mix-up highlights how small courtesies keep shared workouts enjoyable for everyone. The poster handled a rude interruption politely, while the other person’s impatience sparked the tension. Both sides have valid feelings, but waiting a beat usually smooths things over. Have you ever dealt with a mid-set interruption at the gym? What would you have said in this spot?

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