AITA for Selling My House and Not Giving My Dad a Discount?

When a man returned from the military with a baby on the way, his family offered him his grandmother’s old house. Eight years later, that tiny two-bedroom home can’t hold his growing family—or the stress of a worsening neighborhood. Now, he’s ready to sell it for a hefty profit, but his dad’s not happy. Why? He wants the house back at the original price.

With a hot housing market and a dad who’s used the garage for years, the decision to sell has sparked some serious tension. Let’s unpack his journey and the heated debate it’s caused.

AITA for Selling My House and Not Giving My Dad a Discount?

The situation started years ago when the man’s family decided to offload his grandmother’s house:

8 years ago after my grandma passed away, my dad and his siblings were going to sell her house. They first offered it to family for a decent price. No...

Two years later, the man needed a home for his growing family:

Fast forward 2 years. I come home from the military with my pregnant wife. The renter decided to move out so my dad and his siblings offered the house to...

I told my dad I really didn’t want it but I needed a place to live and we were about to have our first child. I offered to rent it...

Now, the house no longer fits his family’s needs:

Fast forward to today. My little family has grown so much. We now have our first born, a 10 month old, two dogs, a cat, some fish, and a whole...

The decision to sell has caused friction with his dad:

I told my dad I am going to sell the house and buy a new one. The housing market has gone up so much I am almost going to double...

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He has also been using my garage to store his tools and motorcycle and various other items as he doesn’t have a garage. Side note, my dad lives next door....

I am starting to feel bad because now my dad has to build a garage and it is going to cost him money to do so. AITA for selling my...

I also don’t believe that my dad can even afford to purchase the house at what they sold it to me. I’ve offered to sell the house to him at...

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TL;DR My dad sold me a house. The housing market has increased. My wife and I have outgrew the house. I am selling it for almost double what I bought...

This man’s dilemma highlights a clash between family expectations and personal priorities. Selling his grandmother’s house makes sense—his family has outgrown the tiny space, and the neighborhood’s decline threatens their safety. The housing market’s boom means a big profit, which could secure a better home. But his dad’s frustration, tied to losing free storage and sentimental attachment, complicates things.

The father’s expectation of buying the house back at the original price ignores how real estate works. Property values rise, and the man took on the risk of ownership. As financial advisor Suze Orman says, “Your home is an investment, but it’s also where your life happens” (The Suze Orman Show). For this man, moving is about providing a safer, more comfortable life for his wife and kids.

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The dad’s reliance on the garage adds another layer. While it’s understandable he’d want easy access to his tools, expecting his son to subsidize that by selling below market value isn’t fair. The son’s offer to sell at a slight discount and let his dad use the new garage shows generosity, but boundaries are key here.

A practical solution is for the man to move forward with the sale while helping his dad explore affordable storage options, like a shed on his own property. Open communication could ease the tension—explaining that the sale is about his family’s future, not rejecting his dad, might help. Ultimately, his responsibility is to his wife and children, and selling the house is a step toward that.

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

Many online users supported the man, emphasizing that the house is his to sell:

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sqibbery − NTA. He had the chance to keep it and rent it to you, and he chose not to do it. You bought it, presumably for a fair price,...

Plus, if he doesn't want to live there, isn't he just likely to sell it himself, and get the higher sale value he doesn't think you should have?

tribe77 − Wait, what? They put the house up for sale, then eventually you bought it fair and square. Now you are selling it. Period. All those other details are...

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All his requests are unreasonable. If I had children and this happened to them, I would be so happy that they are able to make a profit in real estate......

Annalirra − NTA. You bought the house, it’s yours to sell it if you want. You’re also not responsible for your dads tool and motorcycle storage problem.

akoudagawaismywaifu − NTA, he sold it to you, therefore it's not his and he has no say in it anymore. He refused to rent it to you when you asked,...

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Walktothebrook − NTA. Buying a house is an investment with the accompanying risks. You took a chance and the investment paid off!

You are being more than generous by offering your dad a family discount off the current value. What did your dad do with the money you paid for the house?...

Illuminator007 − NTA If your father wanted to have that level of control, he could have rented it to you instead of selling it to you.

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Some offered practical advice or a balanced view:

crispeggroll − NTA. If you feel so bad about it, sell the house and help your dad build/or buy him a new shed. He sold it to you so its...

Obviously it can be done, but I did say comfortably. Do what’s best for your family, you are their provider. Hurt feelings go away in time. And if they don’t,...

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RenaxTM − NTA, the fact that the housing market had gone up also affects the price for the house you'll buy, and if you hadn't bought that house you would...

(and they would likely have sold the house to someone else so they wouldn't have seen the profits anyways) Offering to sell for a dollar less than market value (assuming...

A few brought humor to the conversation:

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Flippn_Freddy − NTA your family is your priority now, do whats best for you and them. take the profit and buy a larger house in a nicer area for your...

Or if you feel bad about his sudden lack of free storage, you can offer to have an extra garage built on his property for him. Do NOT give him...

(Only after youve bought a new home or done any renos needed) no need to jeopardize your families new home to provide for your dad

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dreadedbeedee − NTA. He is only doing this because you are family. He could/would not do this if they had sold it to a stranger. Why should you forfeit the...

This man’s choice to sell his house is about securing a better future for his family, but it’s stirred up unexpected family drama. His dad’s frustration over losing storage and the house’s sentimental value is real, but expecting a below-market deal feels unfair. The decision ultimately comes down to what’s best for his wife and kids.

What do you think—should he sell the house at market value or cut his dad a bigger break?

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